It's good to help out your parents if they were good parents to you.. But some Somali parents just exploit their kids and they never help them.. Cadaan people save money for their kids and help them out through their education buying them student apartments etc.. I don't see many Somali parents doing this, instead they just want to leach on their kids once they get a job.
A lot of cadaans who do this, tend to be the upper middle class who have the funds to do this. Its also the same for wealthier Somalis. Although, there are unfortunately some Somali dads with money, but are not family orientated. They would much rather spend the extra cash to get a 2nd wife, rather then use it towards the kid's tuition. I don't think people realise how the dynamics between husband and wife and also cultural attitudes has a huge impact on every facet of family life in general.
With Somali hooyos, they have no choice but to do that. They spent their money making years, having kids back to back with no appreciation and hardly any financial gain. Many by the time they are middle aged, are either still not married to the abo, or they live in different continents with the husband not bothering to give her a penny because the kids are now older. 'ilma wa weyn aa ko joogo' is a common sentiment. So, to be frank talking about Somali mums being leeches is adhab dharo, although some take it too far and as a child at times you do need to be put your foot down.
As for the dad's, especially the deadbeat ones as
@Desert Flower put it, leave them to Allah. He will deal with their disgusting behavior. Giving him a bit here and there isn't going to kill you. Do it for the sake of Allah and to save yourself from their buuq and habaar threats. Crazily enough some Abos are quick to abandon their kids and then scream caasey when they don't get their way.
