I need help getting over a grudge.

[Muji]

Knowles...sometimes I wish you were a man..who didn't mock hijaab and religion

I don’t mock the hijab, I think it should be a choice.

I don’t know much about Islam so I mock people’s interpretations of it when it’s dangerous (e.g, assuming duah cures mental disorders).

 

[Ferrari]

You need therapy. You were bullied and you still feel like that boy they were picking on all those years ago. A lot of victims of bullying feel the same you do, so don't feel ashamed. Get some help.

therapy? because they made fun of his uniform and called him ugly? what will you recommend he does when he gets beat up?

You make it seem like this nigga did 10 tours in Iraq or something. It'd be ok if it had bothered him then, but for that to have a lasting impact is very strange.

He needs to grow up. A man should be able to withstand anything, and by anything I mean anything. This doesn't mean you aren't going through hardship,etc.., but you have to take it like a man and move on.

 

[Slickback]

I’m a tan light-skin with yellow undertone. Idk what the f*ck we are sis..


btw, red undertone? i thought Shahd had yellow undertone? I’m confusion.

Iron deficiency, like all my light skin female cousins

Somali girls and anemia are best friends

 

[SumMo]

That is what I meant. I have reddish undertones, but she has yellow, hence the slight difference between her and I. Laakin our complexion's are kinda similar.

I don't know anyone with reddish undertones tbh.

Oh, ok that makes sense. Cus I was watching her videos this one time, and i realized we wear the same foundation and use the same foundation shade. And it has a yellow undertone.

But how do you find foundation shades them? Cus I’ve noticed how only dark foundations tend to have red undertone.

 

[PhaedrusHunt]

I feel you too. I'm considered light skin, but I have reddish undertones. The closest person that looks like me is Shahd Batal.

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Abaayo, soo dhowow

 

[SumMo]

Iron deficiency, like all my light skin female cousins

Somali girls and anemia are best friends

Ngl I’ve never heard of that combo. But I wouldn’t be quick to blame it on iron deficiency..

We have always had different shades and undertones as somalis.

 

[Desert Flower]

Oh, ok that makes sense. Cus I was watching her videos this one time, and i realized we wear the same foundation and use the same foundation shade. And it has a yellow undertone.

But how do you find foundation shades them? Cus I’ve noticed how only dark foundations tend to have red undertone.

I mix my foundations; get a lighter one and mix it with a darker one. It is super frustrating b/c I never can find my perfect foundation.

 

[Muji]

OP, for the love of god and everything good in humanity, do not listen to this.

Honestly you remind of this guy who posted on the red pill reddit page (yes my friends and I go on there for shits and giggles)
:siilaanyosmile:
Anyway so the guy was what he would describe a “beta” before he started visiting the reddit page and transformed himself to an alpha. This meant he stopped showing emotions and ‘held his frame’ until one day his mother died and he started balling his eyes out in front of his long term girlfriend.

She then left him and what he took away from this experience was to never show your emotions to women. If he had a brain he would work out this was bound to happen since everyone has feelings. And I honestly feel sorry for the girl imagine you knew someone who was hard and emotionless for the entire time you knew them then all of a sudden he starts crying no -stop, it’s weird.


Anyway long story short, we are all human stop acting like you ain’t or one day the mask will slip and it will scare everyone around you.

 

[Slickback]

Ngl I’ve never heard of that combo. But I wouldn’t be quick to blame it on iron deficiency..

We have always had different shades and undertones as somalis.

Very common. That's why they're always going around fainting all over places. Better stay on top of them Vitron iron tablets bayo

 

[DeadStar]

I need help getting over a grudge that I've developed towards Somali women.

Before I continue, I want to say that "grudge" is too strong of a word. My feelings are more of a mild dislike due to previous interactions, but "grudge" is easier to type and I'm using it for lack of a better word.

So where does this all stem from...

I have never met a Somali girl who hasn't been a dick to me up until I was 19. I'm not exaggerating.

During secondary school, I wasn't picked on much but 90% of the insults I did get were from Somali girls. Most of the time it was light teasing, but sometimes it was pretty insulting. For example, on non-uniform day I would spend some time picking out my clothes for the day only to walk into morning registration and get roasted by the same handful of Somali girls. I know this is petty and I would always say something back to them, but sometimes it did get to me. I was just a young teenager.
But towards year 10 and 11, I stopped talking with these girls and responding to their insults. Eventually they left me alone.

Fast forward to College, there was one occasion which really cemented this mentality into me. There was a Somali girl who shared some of my classes and friends. Eventually we become friends. (First actual female Somali friend)
One day I left college with her, we were walking down the high street together and out of nowhere she links arms with me. I immediately pulled away and asked her what she was doing (I had a massive crush on this Polish girl from class who was near us). She said it was a joke etc. Later that night I got a message from her full of abuse. Saying I'm ugly and that she's going to find my mum and tell her I'm sleeping with the Polish girl. I tried to apologise the next day but she started to ignore me for a while and I stopped bothering with her.


From then on, I became SUPER disinterested in Somali girls. Towards the end of uni and up until now, I've had 3 really good Somali girls come into my life. Each one I stupidly turned away from.

I met one, a year ago, at a Syrian charity event I was dragged to. We talked for like 40 minutes and swapped numbers. I ended up picking this other girl (who I was seeing at the time and who turned out to be a complete ) over her. Even though the Somali girl was better in every single way. Smarter, funnier, more attractive etc.

A few months back, I was introduced to one by a friend. We went out once and had a lot of fun. That night I lied to her saying that I was super busy with work and can't see her again for a while. Eventually we stopped talking.



Reading through this, I realise it's complete BS. But I can't help it. I find it hard looking at Somali girls from a relationship standpoint. Although my preference is not with Somalis and my parents don't mind where the woman I end marrying is from. A part of me still wants to start a family with a Somali woman someday.

What do I do?

I’ve always had this love-hate relationship with Somali girls. One day I’ll talk and charm their kastuumo off and the next I want nothing to do with them. I don’t know why but I always in the back of my mind always viewed Somali women as sisters like my own. That’s why u wouldn’t catch me dating a Somali chick coz I don’t see them that way. Maybe it’ll change in the near future.

 

[SumMo]

I mix my foundations; get a lighter one and mix it with a darker one. It is super frustrating b/c I never can find my perfect foundation.

Maskiin.. That sounds tiring ngl. My older sis does the same thing too.


Which foundations do you mix abaayo? Are they good to wear during the summer time?

I am currently wearing ‘fit me foundation’ in the shade 310, and I want to change it. Since we are a bit similar in shade (I assume, based your proximity to Shahad), do you have any suggestions?

I want it to be:
Medium-small coverage.
Light wear.
Long lasting.
No oxidation.

 

[PhaedrusHunt]

Honestly you remind of this guy who posted on the red pill reddit page (yes my friends and I go on there for shits and giggles)
:siilaanyosmile:
Anyway so the guy was what he would describe a “beta” before he started visiting the reddit page and transformed himself to an alpha. This meant he stopped showing emotions and ‘held his frame’ until one day his mother died and he started balling his eyes out in front of his long term girlfriend.

She then left him and what he took away from this experience was to never show your emotions to women. If he had a brain he would work out this was bound to happen since everyone has feelings. And I honestly feel sorry for the girl imagine you knew someone who was hard and emotionless for the entire time you knew them then all of a sudden he starts crying no -stop, it’s weird.


Anyway long story short, we are all human stop acting like you ain’t or one day the mask will slip and it will scare everyone around you.

You know the red pill subreddit?

Wait, hold on? Showing emotions for the death of a loved one is more than acceptable in my books - although balling your eyes out is not the way I’d go about it - no problem here, tbh.

 

[Daleelah]

I’ve always had this love-hate relationship with Somali girls. One day I’ll talk and charm their kastuumo off and the next I want nothing to do with them. I don’t know why but I always in the back of my mind always viewed Somali women as sisters like my own. That’s why u wouldn’t catch me dating a Somali chick coz I don’t see them that way. Maybe it’ll change in the near future.

Maxaad soo cabtay caawa?

 

[DeadStar]

Honestly you remind of this guy who posted on the red pill reddit page (yes my friends and I go on there for shits and giggles)
:siilaanyosmile:
Anyway so the guy was what he would describe a “beta” before he started visiting the reddit page and transformed himself to an alpha. This meant he stopped showing emotions and ‘held his frame’ until one day his mother died and he started balling his eyes out in front of his long term girlfriend.

She then left him and what he took away from this experience was to never show your emotions to women. If he had a brain he would work out this was bound to happen since everyone has feelings. And I honestly feel sorry for the girl imagine you knew someone who was hard and emotionless for the entire time you knew them then all of a sudden he starts crying no -stop, it’s weird.


Anyway long story short, we are all human stop acting like you ain’t or one day the mask will slip and it will scare everyone around you.

How is someone crying scare u? for God’s sake the man lost his Hooyo.

 

[PhaedrusHunt]

OP must be wondering how on earth his thread derailed into a discussion about skin colour and the right foundation make up

 

[SumMo]

I don’t get why it’s bad for men to show emotions. I much rather a guy show his emotions than leach it out in anger.

Too many men in this world who aren’t in touch with their emotions tbh.

 

[DeadStar]

Maxaad soo cabtay caawa?

Shut the f*ck up!

 

[Daleelah]

Shut the f*ck up!

What did you say a few days back...you was a Quran teacher a few yrs bk and one of your female students sent you a picture of her pinky finger and asked if you could read Quran on it....

 

[SumMo]

What did you say a few days back...you was a Quran teacher a few yrs bk and one of your female students sent you a picture of her pinky finger and asked if you could read Quran on it....

 

[Desert Flower]

Maskiin.. That sounds tiring ngl. My older sis does the same thing too.


Which foundations do you mix abaayo? Are they good to wear during the summer time?

I am currently wearing ‘fit me foundation’ in the shade 310, and I want to change it. Since we are a bit similar in shade (I assume, based your proximity to Shahad), do you have any suggestions?

I want it to be:
Medium-small coverage.
Light wear.
Long lasting.
No oxidation.

I am still new to makeup, especially with Foundation. But, I mix Fit me 310 with Fit me 322 to get my colour. It is fine for me in the summer, as my skin is not oily but rather dry/normal.

Also, tbh, I find the sephora and makeup ladies to be utterly xaasid. They always would match me with foundation that was CLEARLY darker than my skin, so I usually mix and match and find out what works for me.

I also want to try Fenty Beauty's foundation, I think they would have my skin colour.