I think men can be raped by women per definition if the definition is “unwanted sexual contact” but I don’t think it’s equally damaging for men to be raped by women relative to a woman being raped by a man, on a general basis. Perhaps being sodomized by another man is comparable.
I think gender equality brainwashing has obfuscated the fact that there are innate differences between men and women both on a temperamental, physical/biological & mental level. Women and men are not exchangeable variables in any scenario, especially not sexual.
There are concerns to being raped that are specific to women, which results in greater psychological and physical harm I think.