I don't want to be a married single mom

[Yaraye]

You don’t have to be a married single mom. choose wisely. Muslim men for the most part grow up knowing they’re the leaders of their families. Most try their best.

Inshallah

That guy Zach (on the podcast) never treated Jenna well. They shouldn’t use him as an example. He seems immature. Anyways, these cadaan (gaalo in general) are very confused.

this was just one, I've seen plenty of this phenomenon recently.

Besides, do you want your future husband to provide financially and help maintain the home?

Not the home really, but with the kids. Kids are a 24/7 job that never stops, I'm gonna need help

 

[Yaraye]

definitely pakistani

both got similar issues

 

[Odious Delirium]

definitely pakistani

Yup he was Pakistani and at the time I would say none of my mates were ready for marriage but he was the least mature but the eldest and full of qooq so ran into it first out of all of them and end up divorced.

 

[johnsepei5]

even the miskeen somali guy won't help around the house

Why the hell should he be helping around the house when he’s going out to put food on the table

 

[Odious Delirium]

@Fobnimo Till I Dhimo warya come back here and tell me I wanna know

 

[Lowkey]

yes @Barni and @Macalin boqol

 

[Yaraye]

Why the hell should he be helping around the house when he’s going out to put food on the table

see?!!!!! this is what i'm talking about even the quote on quote "good" men think this way. Let say a guy works 40hrs a week (the typical 8hrs a day x 5 days in the week), that's the most men work anyway right? do you think cleaning, cooking, laundry, getting groceries, bathing the children, feeding them, changing diapers, helping them with their homework, teaching the quraan/deen, keeping a eye one them all the time, is equal to 40hrs a week where there are rests after work? This type of work is around the clock 24/7. you never rest

 

[Yaraye]

why are you shaking your head? I was doing you a favor by being your wingwoman

 

[Fobnimo Till I Dhimo]

@Fobnimo Till I Dhimo warya come back here and tell me I wanna know

Dats how u had us feeling in the other thread you didn't succumb to her pressure @Barni sadly

 

[Yaraye]

@Fobnimo Till I Dhimo warya come back here and tell me I wanna know

@Fobnimo Till I Dhimo i want to know too!!!!

 

[Lowkey]

why are you shaking your head? I was doing you a favor by being your wingwoman

Waa Khaniisad

 

[Fobnimo Till I Dhimo]

@Fobnimo Till I Dhimo i want to know too!!!!

Gahhhhhhhhhhhhdamn u toooooo?

 

[Odious Delirium]

see?!!!!! this is what i'm talking about even the quote on quote "good" men think this way. Let say a guy works 40hrs a week (the typical 8hrs a day x 5 days in the week), that's the most men work anyway right? do you think cleaning, cooking, laundry, getting groceries, bathing the children, feeding them, changing diapers, helping them with their homework, teaching the quraan/deen, keeping a eye one them all the time, is equal to 40hrs a week where there are rests after work? This type of work is around the clock 24/7. you never rest

Marry a guy on deen is the solution to your problem but that would mean possibly cutting back on your other requirements. It's gonna be rare to find someone who's focused on his aqirah and his families aqirah ever uber focusing on the dunyah and getting his money up beyond what would make for comfortable living conditions.

 

[Yaraye]

Waa Khaniisad

you mind?

Marry a guy on deen is the solution to your problem but that would mean possibly cutting back on your other requirements. It's gonna be rare to find someone who's focused on his aqirah and his families aqirah ever uber focusing on the dunyah and getting his money up beyond what would make for comfortable living conditions.

you're right. I've been yanked out of my cinderella dream, looks like that'll have to wait until jannah

 

[CDG89]

anti-qablist

I am sorry but lmaoooo. You had to sneak that in there.

 

[Odious Delirium]

you mind?

you're right. I've been yanked out of my cinderella dream, looks like that'll have to wait until jannah

It's why the prophet said choose the one with deen the problems arise when people start deviating from that in there choices. Nearly all marriage issue direct towards not picking someone on deen. Picking differently will come with its trials and tribulations

 

[Lowkey]

you mind?

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[Barni]

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So ur team @Yaraye now?

 

[Fobnimo Till I Dhimo]

I did eventually tell a story tho

Must have missed it but shit since u so persistent waku sheega.
Was implying u just tryna eliminate competition with yo snake-like sneaky remarks so u can have dat luuq for yo self buuq la'aan

 

[johnsepei5]

see?!!!!! this is what i'm talking about even the quote on quote "good" men think this way. Let say a guy works 40hrs a week (the typical 8hrs a day x 5 days in the week), that's the most men work anyway right? do you think cleaning, cooking, laundry, getting groceries, bathing the children, feeding them, changing diapers, helping them with their homework, teaching the quraan/deen, keeping a eye one them all the time, is equal to 40hrs a week where there are rests after work? This type of work is around the clock 24/7. you never rest

Most mothers find joy in being around their babies