How did you start looking for a partner?

[swisss123]

Assalamu alaykum, I'm 24 years old, from Sweden, and I currently study and work. I have no experience in relationships. Most of the guys who approach me are ajnabi, and I barely have any Somali friends, which stresses me out because it feels like the older I get, the more likely I am to grow distant from my culture and community. It seems logical to wait until I’ve settled in my career and built a solid community, but I really don’t want to be 29 and going on my first “date.” The only guy (he was somali) I considered as a potential insinuated I was easy for initiating convo (literally just said salam and how are you) so now I’m extra anxious about that too

 

[Barkhadle1520]

Assalamu alaykum, I'm 24 years old, from Sweden, and I currently study and work. I have no experience in relationships. Most of the guys who approach me are ajnabi, and I barely have any Somali friends, which stresses me out because it feels like the older I get, the more likely I am to grow distant from my culture and community. It seems logical to wait until I’ve settled in my career and built a solid community, but I really don’t want to be 29 and going on my first “date.” The only guy (he was somali) I considered as a potential insinuated I was easy for initiating convo (literally just said salam and how are you) so now I’m extra anxious about that too

Ask your parents to set u up I guarantee they will find someone

 

[3LetterzMM]

Don’t stress if anything most dudes prefer a women that has little to no experience courting a dude b4 a lot of guys are of the opinion that a women who’s been on a lot of dates has something wrong with them or are picky otherwise they would’ve locked a guy down by now I don’t personally feel that way but a lot of guys do.

24 is still pretty young also ur in your prime years I think you’re just getting in your own head rn I’d suggest not to overthink things and have a lil more confidence in the fact that you’re a good catch. It shouldn’t be hard for u to score a Somali dude tons of ‘‘em in Sweden but honestly if ur super clicking wit a guy who cares if he’s ajnabi as long as he’s Muslim that’s all that matters don’t limit yourself be with who your heart wants fukk what anyone else thinks or says. A righteous ajnabi is better than a trash Somali dude.

By all means focus on ur career but don’t feel like you can’t be in a relationship at the same time ik tons of girls who got married in college/uni just don’t abandon ur dreams for any man and don’t have kids till ur at least finished with ur schooling last thing u want is to be relying on another person to take care of u. I wish you luck most men are very simple we just want a women that loves us and has our back u do that you’ll be good.

 

[truenature]

don’t be anxious about that guy that thought you were easy just bc you initiated the convo. You dodged a bullet right there. Just be yourself, you’ll find the right person.
me personally, I have accepted the fact that I might be asexual. All this stuff never interested me. I only thought I wanted it bc it was normal to want it and it’s what everybody else was doing.

 

[Testo 21]

If you see a brotha show that you interested ask for directions or something make a gesture and if hes interested he may say something. Most guys dont want to bother you that much.

Men are simple creatures

 

[novanova]

Assalamu alaykum, I'm 24 years old, from Sweden, and I currently study and work. I have no experience in relationships. Most of the guys who approach me are ajnabi, and I barely have any Somali friends, which stresses me out because it feels like the older I get, the more likely I am to grow distant from my culture and community. It seems logical to wait until I’ve settled in my career and built a solid community, but I really don’t want to be 29 and going on my first “date.” The only guy (he was somali) I considered as a potential insinuated I was easy for initiating convo (literally just said salam and how are you) so now I’m extra anxious about that too

get involved in ur local somali mosque or join university somali societies

 

[Ladylike]

Assalamu alaykum, I'm 24 years old, from Sweden, and I currently study and work. I have no experience in relationships. Most of the guys who approach me are ajnabi, and I barely have any Somali friends, which stresses me out because it feels like the older I get, the more likely I am to grow distant from my culture and community. It seems logical to wait until I’ve settled in my career and built a solid community, but I really don’t want to be 29 and going on my first “date.” The only guy (he was somali) I considered as a potential insinuated I was easy for initiating convo (literally just said salam and how are you) so now I’m extra anxious about that too

First of nothing is wrong with 29 and going in “first” date or courting as we Muslims do lol but don’t be ashamed of using Muslim apps however make sure you are very careful don’t accept any invites where you’ll be alone with a guy don’t accept a lot contradictions from them don’t argue with them just move on. I think the world has changed in terms of meeting someone so use them also try to up the age if you can because I’ve seen even 30 year olds acting funny on there . Have a theirs part involved that loves you and can look out for your safety and best interest. 24 is still young so don’t let anyone pressure you into rushing anything you don’t feel comfortable in. If you want to be married by 29 it’s good to start talking to guy because it helps you to get over all the bs you’ll encounter for sure lol good luck siss also please pray about any person before you proceed with to them