CalmOne20####
Somaliland + Ogaden Heritage
I hate that feminists pushed hookup culture on women. Alxamdulilah for Islam. Now,you can see that gen z barely fall in love,they only hookup.
Hookup culture doesn't benefit men or women
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Red pill gurus also push hookup culture on young men. Young men should protect their purity and not be f*ckboys. So they'll have the best chance of having a successful and healthy marriage.
CalmOne20####
Somaliland + Ogaden Heritage
If ur muslim saying this,astaghfirullah
Hookup culture is the reason why people are not getting married and the high rates of divorces. It's like ppl dont realize when you commit zina, you lose out on the love and marriage allah has planned for you. The only successful marriages I see now are from the pious couples, everyone else are in a trainwreck situation. 
CalmOne20####
Somaliland + Ogaden Heritage
Also you know what's funny? Muslim men sleeping around and being happy about it but if a Muslim girl has a boyfriend and hugs him,she's called all types of horrible names. And guess what,these guys will marry a miskeen xalimo who doesn't know about their hoeish past SMH. Wallahi it boils my blood.Hookup culture is the reason why people are not getting married and the high rates of divorces. It's like ppl dont realize when you commit zina, you lose out on the love and marriage allah has planned for you. The only successful marriages I see now are from the pious couples, everyone else are in a trainwreck situation.
I notice halal dating is one sided.
Some muslim men I talked with with the intention of marriage liked testing boundaries. Why can't we get to know each other without the convo turning sexual? Then, they get blocked.
Sex is more than gratifying your sexual desires. The soul ties a man and woman knot through sex is beyond the physical. Why would you want to walk around this earth with a soul being dragged down by the multiple soul ties you've accumulated out of pure hedonism. Why when you could be a chaste man, enter into a halal marriage with a chaste sister and share something truly special. Don't lose your virginity to fit in. The rights of a spouse doesn't begin after the wedding.
Are these Somali guys or other Muslim guys? Do you find Somali guys being more or less the same as others?
I often see Somali girls on dating apps like muzzmatch writing things like "only serious brothers" and I wonder why the disclaimers are needed as its suppose to be a halal platform for Muslims. But I'd imagine theres a lot of "brothers" seeking haram hookups
CalmOne20####
Somaliland + Ogaden Heritage
It's both somali and other muslim guys. A xalimo is shamed for holding hands with a boyfriend she loves very much,meanwhile ashy abdis get cheered on for being heauxs
The double standards is real abaayo but walaalshay as a Somali man I never saw abdis who were fckboys being glorified. We saw them as fallen brothers. We were ashamed by them also
CalmOne20####
Somaliland + Ogaden Heritage
That's why I don't wanna be with a faarax. No wonder we're marrying ajnabis. The audacity,cheating on their wife leaving her to raise the kids alone then the male diaspora become zaanis and marry some miskeen xalimo who doesn't know about their past in the streets. If a man doesn't tell u he's a zaani,he belongs to the streets.
They were a mix of somalis and non-somali. The non Somali saqajans are usually upfront so I ignore them.
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This is a big misconception that I see alot of girls say...yes sometimes a miskeen halimo might end up marrying a zani, just like how a miskeen Farah might end up marrying a zani, but that is just a test from allah for the small minority of people that have gone through that ordeal.
The vast majority of people end up marrying people just like them whether they know or they dont.....a zani for a zani...a decree from allah. Only allah has the power to choose your spouse for you, so beware people what you do in the dark WILL affect the plan allah has for you.
It's easy to complain but alot of females dont understand that the life they are currently in, is based of their actions they have committed in this world. Even one sin can change your destiny, if you dont repent.
Odious Delirium
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The grass isn't greener on the other side sister all these problems are basically in every Muslim community you just have to find the right guy.
Personally I don't think I can marry an ajnabi because of all the time I spent with them witnessing and being told about all the toxic stuff that's apart of there culture. It's way worse if your a women as opposed to a man marrying into arabs/Asians etc. If you really want an ajnabi I would say marry an Indonesian/Malaysian there culture is rather chill. White/black are wildcards you don't know what you will get with them and it's always random.
There are two things: Deen and Akhlaq. One influences the other. You will see a person who has little to no knowledge of Deen but has very good Akhlaq.
Since Akhlaq is more invisible than Deen we tend to give more credit to people who have the Deen knowledge, most of the times they are good but few rotten ones are there.
talk with me abaayo i alreadygot your meher in my wallet
CalmOne20####
Somaliland + Ogaden Heritage
I would marry someone from a similar look and culture as dad keen,like Sudanese,Ethio/Eri muslim or a Southern Egyptian.
Odious Delirium
VIP
Actually all those are good picks aswell. I have an aunt married to an Eritrean he's a good guy
