Hookup culture doesn't benefit men or women

[Geedi Ladane]

Appreciate the advise bro. Look, I want to make it abundantly clear that I love my Somali sisters. And the overwhelming majority of Somali brothers I know have never shown any signs of not loving their Somali sisters too. What hurts is to see us just hurting one another with our words all the time. Knowing how much this energy/space can be used to uplift and self-love.

With that being said too bro, lets not just think about the sisters who have depressed us with their comments on Somali men. Lets take a moment to also appreciate how much pain some Somali guys cause our sisters when they also consistently talk trash about them both in public and private. Both sides of the gender needs to quit hating on each other and putting non-Somalis on pedestals.

I know akhi. I didn’t mean to blame on gender.

I see it as good people vs bad people. Not men vs women.

One of the reasons I signed up was to hopefully share my thoughts about different topics regarding the Somali community. I remember reading some threads like why is no one calling out this nonsense etc. So I made an account that perhaps there maybe someone (whether they have an Account or are lurking) who perhaps shares my thoughts or benefits from it.

 

[ZUBAYR+_]

@hamar_oo_iidil kind hearted fella but you talk a lot don't burn yourself out for strangers

 

[Keep it a boqol]

Yeah, it's been a while.
Alhamdillah, hanging in there,
I hope you are doing good too

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Sorry about that happening to you. I think you should tell your friends that set you up with them. They probably don’t know that characteristic about those men to begin with. Ppl like that are wolves in sheep clothing and need to be called out. They take advantage and know women would rather not cause a scene

 

[Dualke]

I avoid faaraxs,because of how they treat us somali women. Somali women are the backbone of somali society the ones that do the heavy lifting. Faaraxs are deadbeats or zaanis who are coddled by their hooyos.

Does this stem from personal experiences or things you've read online?

 

[Periplus]

They were a mix of somalis and non-somali. The non Somali saqajans are usually upfront so I ignore them.

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GRADUATE OF MEDINA UNIVERSITY?!?!?!!

 

[hamar_oo_iidil]

GRADUATE OF MEDINA UNIVERSITY?!?!?!!

Yh, it seems to always be the religious brothers and the super shy ones that end up being most uncivilised

 

[Bundasliga]

Abaayo thats just not fair. I understand that you feel upset but cancelling all us Somali brothers because of the handful of experiences you have had with Somali guys is just not fair. And me, nor other Somali brothers on this space deserve to be made to feel unlovable by our own sisters. It hurts a lot when you say things like you don't ever want to be with a Somali guy because I know how much as Somali men we love our sisters. May Allah heal all our broken hearts and may we believe in love and more specifically Somali love again

Stop this cringy beggin & grow some balls .

 

[Periplus]

 

[SanaLaporte]

tons of non muslims have come out to speak recently, you can try deny the straight deen and truth, but you will learn and cant run away from what life Allah has told us will benefit and satisfy us

 

[citrus_samurai]

I avoid faaraxs,because of how they treat us somali women. Somali women are the backbone of somali society the ones that do the heavy lifting. Faaraxs are deadbeats or zaanis who are coddled by their hooyos.

There are amazing Somali men out there. Don’t generalize all of them.

 

[Guled111]

Tell that to the poor single mother raising her kids all by herself the miskeen xaliimos being slandered for simply holding hands with her boyfriend.

Obviously, not all of u guys r bad.

What's the boyfriend giving her besides you know?

 

[Hodan from HR]

Sorry about that happening to you. I think you should tell your friends that set you up with them. They probably don’t know that characteristic about those men to begin with. Ppl like that are wolves in sheep clothing and need to be called out. They take advantage and know women would rather not cause a scene

It is not that simple.

It is one of those things speaking out will make matters worse or even ruin relationships if you know what I mean..

 

[CALMONE20###]

That's a huge generalisation all the faraxs I know are neither deadbeats or zaanis. Plus I hear the same complaints made by every group of women about their own men. So why are you willing to give a chance to the devil you don't know while completely cutting off somali men from the equation?

At the end of the day it's your choice what you decide to do but your problem with somali men as a whole seems invalid imo.

Plus there is no future continuation of a somali society without both somali men and women. If everyone was to marry out we would no longer exist as somalis.

Hey sorry if my thread came across as bashing all faaraxs

 

[Mozart]

This thread is an abomination. You guys who seek validation from Somalian females need serious help.

 

[Odious Delirium]

Hey sorry if my thread came across as bashing all faaraxs

No I totally get the reason for your grievances and I understand that a lot of sisters are hurt no need to apologise.

I would just prefer that we come together instead of bashing each other since that goes no where.

 

[Deekhow]

My Only Question is:
If someone makes the conscious decision to marry out of their immediate ethnic and they are met with the same "bad" things they were running away from or worse what will be their next step? Quit the whole world?

 

[The Somali Caesar]

I don't condone hookups but how does it not benefit men? Having sex with no strings attached is every western man's paradise

 

[Somaliwadani123]

I don't condone hookups but how does it not benefit men? Having sex with no strings attached is every western man's paradise

Were Muslim man.....1 way ticket to hell....

 

[The Somali Caesar]

Were Muslim man.....1 way ticket to hell....

Bro hookup is a western culture so that's why I used it in the context of western men. Obviously hookup is haram

 

[Somaliwadani123]

Bro hookup is a western culture so that's why I used it in the context of western men. Obviously hookup is haram

Lol just re read your post.....my bad akh i thought you were talking about all men, but still look at what western men go through now, they turnt out majority of their women so alot of them either gotta settle with a ho or never get married