Help - what's the diff between Yarad, Sooryo & Meher?

[mrlog]

Would someone explain the diff.
Also are they paid in advance or would an IOU note suffice.
Manz here needs to start planning.

@Gambar walaal when is the next hagbad starting?
Bal igu yara dar liiska

 

[Ubax45_]

Yarad – This is a present given to the immediate family of the girl and is given on the day of engagement as a form of gratitude. Usually a shawl or money wrapped in an expensive shemagh or keffiyah is given.

Sooryo – this is a present given to the male members of the girl’s family. Usually it is her brothers/cousins etc who take this and is always in the form of money.

Meher – this is the engagement. The amount of camels or money the man must make a pledge to bestow his wife as Dowry is usually known as her Meher. The Meher does not need to be paid straight away, but is a promise which the man is bound to fulfil. In earlier times, when camels were in plenteous supply, a woman would be given about 100 camels just for her hand in marriage. Today, due to the lessening amount of camels in the nomadic countryside, you would be hard pressed to find a man who can afford to pay 10. The importance of Meher cannot be underestimated – without it the wedding cannot take place, so the lady needs to be clear as to what she wants for her Meher and the man is obliged to pay it.

Somali cultural weddings

 

[cantspeak]

Sounds like daylight Robbery

 

[mrlog]

Sounds like daylight Robbery

Sax.
You will be up to ur eyeballs in debt.

 

[mrlog]

Any rough estimates on the Yarad and Sooryo?
Must be some married folks here.

 

[Gambar]

Are you broke saxiibow?

 

[Oscar]

Some chick i used to chat with told me she wants "Land" as her Maher

 

[Hilaac]

Meher is for the girl
Yarad for the family
And sooryo for the people

 

[Bohol]

@Hilaac What is your meher price? :siilaanyosmile:

 

[black]

Meher is for the girl
Yarad for the family
And sooryo for the people

People still pay all three? I know that a fixed sum can be given to the family and they customarily return half to spend on the people. Which I'm guessing is yarad and sooryo? I thought it was uncommon though

 

[Dino]

Meher is for the girl
Yarad for the family
And sooryo for the people

i learnt it that hard way. loool

 

[black]

i learnt it that hard way. loool

You paid all three?

 

[Dino]

You paid all three?

thankfully not. the in laws are religious so they were quite happy for me to pay for the mehr for the girl and the wedding expenses only

 

[Hilaac]

@Hilaac What is your meher price? :siilaanyosmile:

X100

I'm an old fashioned kinda girl

 

[Bohol]

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I'm an old fashioned kinda girl

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You better be ready for 10 sons then. I can get you the horse (my abti owns a couple) and the gun.

 

[Hilaac]

People still pay all three? I know that a fixed sum can be given to the family and they customarily return half to spend on the people. Which I'm guessing is yarad and sooryo? I thought it was uncommon though

I know people who still do all three. In some circles it's considered 'ceeb' not to do so.

 

[Hilaac]

You better be ready for 10 sons then. I can get you the horse (my abti owns a couple) and the gun.

You do realise the equivalency of all that is $100K +

 

[Hemaal]

Meher is for the girl
Yarad for the family
And sooryo for the people

Daylight robbery

 

[Hemaal]

Some chick i used to chat with told me she wants "Land" as her Maher

Land in where?

 

[black]

I know people who still do all three. In some circles it's considered 'ceeb' not to do so.

Easier said beforehand... but I don't think I could do it out of principle, no matter how low. Perhaps a very Eurocentric way of looking at it, but that's ridiculous imho.