Here's an answer from an ex-SJW just to gain perspective.
Your journey from semi “social justice” to deen minded intellectual maturity has been a pleasure to witness. What prompted it if I may ask?
"Peace be upon you! To start off, I think it's normal to go through the phase of utopian, idealism and way too sure about your righteousness. I think for most ex-SJWs—including myself (I feel like anytime we speak about leaving this movement, we act like we left a cult) the entire process began with initially questioning the status quo and then experiencing the way in which the other members treated you for not blindly accepting it left a bad taste in our mouths and specifically left me feeling uneasy and unsatisfied. I was also incredibly exhausted all the time as a SJW.
I was perpetually mad and worked up about something that I wasn't completely sure about, it was draining and completely unhealthy. Additionally, there are multiple personality types who are drawn to the SJW movement. To sum it up, genuine people who want to help, who have a soft spot for the weak and dispossessed, and are equipped with a fire passion for justice are generally attracted to this cerebral trash. I'm unsure if my personality traits made me more susceptible to this movement but typically these people are not individualists but rather group thinkers who have a cult mentality.
They will follow the herd wherever it's directed, they are marionettes who really don't question things for themselves. Likely young, impressionable, emotionally/mentally weak female (and effeminate male) subjects. Albeit you will get your fair share of absolute sociopaths who look at the most radical, violent SJWs and get seduced to join the movement in order to utilize the movement to do/say crazy thing. But they don't fit the general description of most SJWs and usually being a SJW is the least of those types of people's worries. But yes, I think what I experienced was a transition from collectivism to individualism. I believe what eventually made me completely snap out of it was having the ability to self-correct and I was always looking forward to being proven wrong. I embraced the notion of having others (who didn't particular share the same politics as me) provide for me sources and materials. I would always look for new information that disproved what I already believed rather than most people who were always on a hunt to find information that already reinforced their existing views.
I realized that the entire movement was about scrutinizing people and measuring everything in terms of the progressive hierarchy of victimhood. There was no khair in it. Just a superficial "feel good" moment where I was patting myself on the back for doing absolutely nothing. And now that I have a deeper insight into the whole phenomenon, I think I was also missing spiritual fulfilment. I was constantly juggling and trying to balance my dual identity, as a Muslim and a SJW/feminist/left leaning black woman. Slowly—but surely, I realized that the human heart that was filled with the love of the world would always be restless, dissatisfied and unhappy."
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