Guys, have you seen this Reddit thread? It's unbelievable!

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For future reference in case the thread is deleted.


So my husband (would be 37 now) and me (35) have been married for 10 years before he passed away. During this time his mother decided to "give" her house to us (she changed the property owner from herself to my late husband legally), but she still lived with us. I did not want to live with his mother, but the house was big and my husband said its better than renting a small appartment in the city when we have kids. She was nosy when we all lived together and I just did not want to spend my time with her, because she kept trying to insert herself in our marriage. We were trying for a child, but my husband passed away in an accident before I could get pregnant. I was devastated and still am. After this it was only us two, but I could not stand having her around. I did not want her to be in my company, she made me sadder and made me angry when she wanted to just sit and remember him all day while I was trying my hardest to work and move on. I inherited the house after my husband died, legally it is mine and his mother gave it to us, so despite living with us it was no longer hers. I told her I want her to move out, because living with her stresses me out. She said she has no family left (her daughter died before I met my husband) and she cant work. I told her she can go to an elderly home, but she refused. I was still grieving and frustrated, so I packed her essentials and left them in front of the door one day when she went shopping and refused to let her in. She took her stuff and left. I heard that she is staying with a friend of hers so I think its not that bad, since her friend is a widow and has an empty house. It is a better situation for her than living with me. However some of the people that know her despise me and I have been getting ugly letters in the mail ever since and I am starting to feel guilty. AITA?

 

[Libaaxseendheer]

Cadaan cawaan

 

[CaliTedesse]

Cadaan filthy cawaan yaa Rab curse this person amiin, please amiin dhaha walalayaal lets curse this ugly th0t

 

[Lostbox]

Imagine having a daughter in law like her. I'm not 100% convinced it's a true story but it's a damn good one that makes you truly hate the original poster.

 

[Lostbox]

I feel like making a Reddit account just to give her a mouthful. This post got me really riled up.

 

[dr.leorio]

That's the modern western cadaan women for ya. Absolutely no naaxariiss

 

[Tukraq]

And the @VixR of the world were yelling up and down about having there name on the property, sorry but not happening

 

[jamal9]

learnt a new "word" AITA

 

[babooshke]

She needs to give the mother the house back. The house wasn't intended for her, it was intended for her husband so he had a place to raise his future family. Clearly that's not happening since he is now deceased. So give the mother her house back and gtfo of her life.

 

[World]

I don’t know why you guys are blaming cadaan women, this is not race specific. All women are capable of this once you give them the ability.

 

[Waaqo of Punt]

I don’t know why you guys are blaming cadaan women, this is not race specific. All women are capable of this once you give them the ability.

I agree.

 

[Mr.Haggis]

War dhiikar ha igu riidin.

 

[YourBroMoe]

I don't believe this is real, but I'd simply give the house back to my mother in law and leave. I got no kids, and it was her house that she gave to her son that passed away. That's the most ethical way to make amends and break the bond amicably. Then from a comfortable distance try to forge a healthy relationship with her for my dead spouse's sake, and then when I've moved on, get married again.

 

[The alchemist]

I don’t know why you guys are blaming cadaan women, this is not race specific. All women are capable of this once you give them the ability.

Let's not pretend that White women don't have a stronger disposition to this kind of stuff than women from family-oriented cultures.

 

[Cici]

I’d understand her frustration but I don’t think she handled it well. If living with the old woman was stressing her out that much, she should’ve moved out since the house was never hers. Maybe rented one of the rooms out for that she can afford an apartment. Or rented one of the rooms out to another older lady so they can keep each other company and leave her alone. I sympathize but very bad handling of the issue

 

[dr.leorio]

I don’t know why you guys are blaming cadaan women, this is not race specific. All women are capable of this once you give them the ability.

Very true

 

[World]

Let's not pretend that White women don't have a stronger disposition to this kind of stuff than women from family-oriented cultures.

No that’s not true. If these women from family-oriented cultures had the same freedom as western women, they would do the exact same thing. Maybe even worse. The women from these cultures living in the western world are not different to their cadaan counterparts either way.

 

[The alchemist]

No that’s not true. If these women from family-oriented cultures had the same freedom as western women, they would do the exact same thing. Maybe even worse. The women from these cultures living in the western world are not different to their cadaan counterparts either way.

The cultures of brown people work as a mechanism, so this kind of thing doesn't happen, a micro safety net.

White people value individuality to a far greater degree. White women have a greater disposition to this kind of behavior due to cultural reasons. Of course, you could say that women from all backgrounds would express the same behavior if we changed the cultural environment, but that's not the reality here. No one is arguing that human beings behave in different ways based on their cultural upbringing and the values instilled in them.

You're saying that if other women got the same freedom. Well, first we've got to define what you mean by freedom. If you take a Somali woman born in Somalia and raised by Somali parents, and suddenly place her in the US where she learns and internalizes the White specific ethos, she would still not be completely free from where she came from. A human being is not entirely malleable and would have biases due to their early upbringing.

 

[VixR]

Idk why you guys are acting this is normal at all, and among White people either. She removed her comment. He married a monster. The scenario isn’t even remotely defendable/a murky gray area.