Respectfully, grown Faaraxs only and no derailing pls.
@YourBroMoe @Cumar
Basically title, and what would you honestly do in his position or advice him.
My cousin in his late 20's is getting divorced and my whole family is up in arms. His parents, my father and even some of his siblings are pressuring him to stay married.
I knew shit was rocky almost a year ago when he skyped my brother. We wrongly thought everything was good again. They lived all the way up North, but his wife hated the city they lived in (kinda dead and cadaan) and wanted to move. At the time he already contemplated divorce (though mostly unrelated to the move), but suddenly 'changed his mind'. Instead he agreed, quit his job, downgraded and moved her to Leicester. Most of her family lives there.
Anyway, recently he came down to see us and got ambushed by my parents and his parents when they heard he wanted to divorce her.
After like 6 hours of getting advice and being lectured and him unresponsively nodding with 'sax, waa run, haye adeer' it was just him, my brother, his brother and me left talking. After a while talking, he revealed he took out a 3 month lease on a shitty houseshare bedroom and hasn't even entered his house in almost a month outside of dropping off diapers and groceries. And then he kind of dropped the bombshell and said he was 'leaving'. When we all agreed that he should definitely divorce her, he said 'you don't understand... not just her, I'm leaving all of it.'
Basically he's walking out on his kid which is ... a lot more severe than just a divorce. He says he has no interest in being in and out his child's life because his soon to be ex wife isn't co-operative or interested in co-parenting. He also doesn't want to 'pathetically sit and follow them around for the rest of his life'. He has already applied for work in Qatar and found something in Glasgow, but he's delaying it in hopes of Qatar getting back to him so family pressure is taken off, so he's pretty serious. Says as soon as the divorce is official, he'll leave his car and whatever he saved up for his ex wife.
Ultimately stating his ex wife was a severe mistake among a lot of other things, but she is neither a bad person, nor stupid so the child will be fine and is surrounded by uncles, aunts , grand parents and great uncles and aunts. All on the mother's side ofc. Obviously there's a shit load more to this but damn.
I never thought I'd ever contemplate it. I don't think I'll ever be in his position.. But after hearing him out, I think what he's doing is... okay to be honest. Fucked up, selfish but I can understand. My brother and his brother aren't co-signing him tho lol
@YourBroMoe @Cumar
Basically title, and what would you honestly do in his position or advice him.
My cousin in his late 20's is getting divorced and my whole family is up in arms. His parents, my father and even some of his siblings are pressuring him to stay married.
I knew shit was rocky almost a year ago when he skyped my brother. We wrongly thought everything was good again. They lived all the way up North, but his wife hated the city they lived in (kinda dead and cadaan) and wanted to move. At the time he already contemplated divorce (though mostly unrelated to the move), but suddenly 'changed his mind'. Instead he agreed, quit his job, downgraded and moved her to Leicester. Most of her family lives there.
Anyway, recently he came down to see us and got ambushed by my parents and his parents when they heard he wanted to divorce her.
After like 6 hours of getting advice and being lectured and him unresponsively nodding with 'sax, waa run, haye adeer' it was just him, my brother, his brother and me left talking. After a while talking, he revealed he took out a 3 month lease on a shitty houseshare bedroom and hasn't even entered his house in almost a month outside of dropping off diapers and groceries. And then he kind of dropped the bombshell and said he was 'leaving'. When we all agreed that he should definitely divorce her, he said 'you don't understand... not just her, I'm leaving all of it.'
Basically he's walking out on his kid which is ... a lot more severe than just a divorce. He says he has no interest in being in and out his child's life because his soon to be ex wife isn't co-operative or interested in co-parenting. He also doesn't want to 'pathetically sit and follow them around for the rest of his life'. He has already applied for work in Qatar and found something in Glasgow, but he's delaying it in hopes of Qatar getting back to him so family pressure is taken off, so he's pretty serious. Says as soon as the divorce is official, he'll leave his car and whatever he saved up for his ex wife.
Ultimately stating his ex wife was a severe mistake among a lot of other things, but she is neither a bad person, nor stupid so the child will be fine and is surrounded by uncles, aunts , grand parents and great uncles and aunts. All on the mother's side ofc. Obviously there's a shit load more to this but damn.
I never thought I'd ever contemplate it. I don't think I'll ever be in his position.. But after hearing him out, I think what he's doing is... okay to be honest. Fucked up, selfish but I can understand. My brother and his brother aren't co-signing him tho lol
Calaf is over. Now both of their focus should be the child.
