Guys - could you ever walk out on your child?

[Muji]

Deadbeat fathers, nothing new in our community. Watch him come back on his child’s graduation talm bout “that’s my boy!” He’ll regret when his old and has no child to care for him. Karma is a .

I’m a firm believer that anyone can f*ck and create a child.... but not everyone is fit to be a parent. He sounds like a selfish piece of shit.

Alhamdillah for my father being a strong role model and guide for my family, along with my mother’s caring and holding the house down. Sadly it’s rare for us to have functioning households, we need to change that.

The bastard op is trying to glamorise all of this. If you’re grown enough to get married and get someone pregnant then act grown...how are you running away from your own family at your big age?

Also could he not ask for joint custody...he is using any excuse to duck his own responsibility.

 

[Mixile]

Lol the guy is planning to marry again and have another chance at kids whilst ditching his ex with the baby.

He is an idiot as she will still take child support from him and when he wants to marry again he has to explain to his new wife why he isn’t in his kid’s life. THe classic 68 IQ is being displayed again where he can’t seem to think long term but thinks he can run away from his responsibilities

War how can he live with all the guilt. Man is a heartless

 

[shabellegal]

The bastard op is trying to glamorise all of this. If you’re grown enough to get married and get someone pregnant then act grown...how are you running away from your own family at your big age?

Also could he not ask for joint custody...he is using any excuse to duck his own responsibility.

Exactly sis. It’s fine to have issues with your partner, people can fall out of love hence why divorce is an option. What’s not acceptable is dipping out of your own flesh and blood. As if paying for his kid’s financial needs from abroad takes the place of emotional need of having a father. Truely degeneracy all around. If my husband and I ever get divorced, we’d make sure to still be active co-parents in our child’s life so they can the nurturing they need from both sides.

 

[Mixile]

Deadbeat fathers, nothing new in our community. Watch him come back on his child’s graduation talm bout “that’s my boy!” He’ll regret when his old and has no child to care for him. Karma is a .

I’m a firm believer that anyone can f*ck and create a child.... but not everyone is fit to be a parent. He sounds like a selfish piece of shit.

Alhamdillah for my father being a strong role model and guide for my family, along with my mother’s caring and holding the house down. Sadly it’s rare for us to have functioning households, we need to change that.

Tbh somali men trust mothers more than any other communities. They think the children will be fine with their mothers only. It's a nomadic thing

 

[Muji]

Exactly sis. It’s fine to have issues with your partner, people can fall out of love hence why divorce is an option. What’s not acceptable is dipping out of your own flesh and blood. As if paying for his kid’s financial needs from abroad takes the place of emotional need of having a father. Truely degeneracy all around. If my husband and I ever get divorced, we’d make sure to still be active co-parents in our child’s life so they can the nurturing they need from both sides.

Sis read the OPs post again

The father has already moved out and is currently only supplying diapers and groceries...he now plans to cut them off completely

He plans to go from a part-time dad to a full-time deadbeat

 

[shabellegal]

Tbh somali men trust mothers more than any other communities. They think the children will be fine with their mothers only. It's a nomadic thing

Actually back in the day, if the parents divorced the child would stay with the father’s family to be raised with his clan (in case the mom re-married because the new husband wouldn’t raise no child that isn’t his) This phenomenon of leaving children with the mother is modern.

 

[shabellegal]

Sis read the OPs post again

The father has already moved out and is currently only supplying diapers and groceries...he now plans to cut them off again.

He plans to go from a part-time dad to a full-time deadbeat

Lmao nigga moved continents to avoid child support payments



I hope the best for the kid, I know they will be in good hands. Hope his reputation follows him to Qatar so no women will wife up a deadbeat father cause clearly he’ll do it again with no qualms.

 

[Muji]

Lmao nigga moved continents to avoid child support payments



I hope the best for the kid, I know they will be in good hands. Hope his reputation follows him to Qatar so no women will wife up a deadbeat father cause clearly he’ll do it again with no qualms.

I’m just laughing at all the people who are being sympathetic to this trash of a father. Nobody forced him to become a father and I bet their comments would be a lot different if it was the mother who wanted to run off.

 

[Mixile]

Actually back in the day, if the parents divorced the child would stay with the father’s family to be raised with his clan (in case the mom re-married because the new husband wouldn’t raise no child that isn’t his) This phenomenon of living children with the mother is pretty new.

Yeah if she wants to remarry but men were rarely around, half the year they went away grazing with camels.

 

[Aderfi]

I’m just laughing at all the people who are being sympathetic to this trash of a father. Nobody forced him to become a father and I bet their comments would be a lot different if it was the mother who wanted to run off.

Op does admit the selfishness, also if you know the person individually then the point of view is different.

 

[Muji]

Op does admit the selfishness, also if you know the person individually then the point of view is different.

It’s even worse if you know he person

I would be disgusted wallahi

How can you not love your own child?

 

[Ameen]

Somalis need to mind their own business. Stop trying to keep people who are getting divorced together. And if his ex-wife is not letting him see his son it's not his fault.

 

[nine]

@Kodeen @Cumar @Karim No man should leave his kid waxaas waa gunimo. He sounds like the type of guy to claim his son after he grows up and makes a name for himself smh. Intentionally deserting your kid is a horrible act regardless of gender. He will face return to Alle having not given his son his rights. We don't want a ciyaal maamo kid too

 

[mrlog]

Sis read the OPs post again

The father has already moved out and is currently only supplying diapers and groceries...he now plans to cut them off completely

He plans to go from a part-time dad to a full-time deadbeat

How do u know she didn’t dial 911 and kick him out?

 

[shabellegal]

How do u know she didn’t dial 911 and kick him out?

Did you not read the post? How did you manage to make this the mother’s fault for him walking out his child’s life. Low IQ strikes again. A grown niin raaq would move mountains and hilltops for his seed. f*ck outta here with that shit.

 

[mrlog]

Did you not read the post? How did you manage to make this the mother’s fault for him walking out his child’s life. Low IQ strikes again. A grown niin raaq would move mountains and hilltops for his seed. f*ck outta here with that shit.

So let me get this straight
U really believe that he’s just abandoning his family couse he’s bored?
Feminism has clouded ur reasoning.
It takes two to abandon a family she shares responsibility too
Ask @Knowles she agrees

 

[shabellegal]

So let me get this straight
U really believe that he’s just abandoning his family couse he’s bored?
Feminism has clouded ur reasoning.
It takes two to abandon a family she shares responsibility too

What does feminism have to do with this topic? If you passed English 101 and reading comprehension, OP literally said his cousin wants to walk out his wife AND his child’s life to Qatar. Wants nothing to do with him/her and follow his own passions. Whatever happens with his spouse is their rightful issue but leaving your firstborn at that... that’s beyond xasiidniimo and he’ll answer to Allah swt for failing his duties as a father.

 

[Disappointed]

What a deadbeat useless bastard. I understand divorcing your wife but you should at least send money to your children and visit them from time to time. He's a ass nigga if we keepin this

 

[Cumar]

Exactly sis. It’s fine to have issues with your partner, people can fall out of love hence why divorce is an option. What’s not acceptable is dipping out of your own flesh and blood. As if paying for his kid’s financial needs from abroad takes the place of emotional need of having a father. Truely degeneracy all around. If my husband and I ever get divorced, we’d make sure to still be active co-parents in our child’s life so they can the nurturing they need from both sides.

You are a good person. But there is a lot of selfish women who punish men who want to remain a strong father figure in their child's lives by denying them access to their children when they divorce purely out of pettiness. I have seen it happen amongst Somalis where the woman basically weaponises the children against the father.

I don't think it applies in this case, but this is a big fear for guys.

 

[Geeljire Sandheer]

What a deadbeat useless bastard. I understand divorcing your wife but you should at least send money to your children and visit them from time to time. He's a ass nigga if we keepin this

He's a real nigga f*ck you and your kids adios