For those who have kind and supportive family members, consider yourself blessed

[CALMONE20###]

I unfortunately didn't have that experience. My mother verbally, emotionally and physically abused me throughout my childhood and teen years and she still does. She also turned my elderly grandmother, relatives and siblings against me. As a result of that,I have anxiety depression and suicidal thoughts. And honestly, my father is no better. He always insults me and he was the one who kicked me out of the house with no dignity. So with no one from my own family to talk to,it's enough to make someone go crazy.

 

[notinuse.]

That sounds horrible, abaayo I advise to safe money and get job once you're financially secure move out. I know apartment are expensive in London, but try to find somewhere affordable. You don't have to cut off your family or move out immediately, but try to safe money just incase they kick you out or worse.

 

[ogadeniaa]

You a girl i suppose? how come your mum / dad only abuse you and not ur sibblings? Buckle up w.e happen in the past is in the past dont let western diagnosis define you. Go create your own family my mum a orphan no sibblings either and got a big family today. You can be the change u want, for ur kids!

 

[CALMONE20###]

You a girl i suppose? how come your mum / dad only abuse you and not ur sibblings? Buckle up w.e happen in the past is in the past dont let western diagnosis define you. Go create your own family my mum a orphan no sibblings either and got a big family today. You can be the change u want, for ur kids!

Yes,I am female . Idk why they abuse me I always treat them with respect and kindness. My experience with my parents has put me off having kids because I don't wanna bring a kid into this world without emotionally healing from the effects of the narcissistic abuse. I am the scapegoat of the family. It isn't so easy to forget the past,when I am a victim of abuse. Also,narcissistic abuse is a big issue in our community.

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

I’m sorry abaayo, I will make dua for you is there anywhere you can go away from your parents? Any loved ones you trust? I’m sorry you are going through this

 

[CALMONE20###]

I’m sorry abaayo, I will make dua for you is there anywhere you can go away from your parents? Any loved ones you trust? I’m sorry you are going through this

No unfortunately

 

[CALMONE20###]

If anyone wants to chat,feel free to.

 

[Abdisamad]

How old are you?

 

[CALMONE20###]

How old are you?

I'm 22

 

[Omar del Sur]

I urge you to learn this and say this dua if you feel distressed:

https://authentic-dua.com/2011/11/11/the-supplication-of-distress-dua-al-karb/

 

[CALMONE20###]

I urge you to learn this and say this dua if you feel distressed:

https://authentic-dua.com/2011/11/11/the-supplication-of-distress-dua-al-karb/

Thank you

 

[CALMONE20###]

I could really use someone to talk to

 

[Omar del Sur]

when I was a teenager, I used to be homeless. I used to sleep in an abandoned house.

I only mention that to illustrate that I'm familiar with difficulties. I was homeless and someone started talking to me about Islam and I started to learn about it. I only knew very little about it.

I met this guy who started talking to me about Islam and then he told me where to pick up this book with the translation of the meaning of the Quran... the Yusuf Ali translation, the transliteration and the Arabic- each was in one of three columns. He told me about Islam and told me exactly where to buy that book.

So I went and got it and I started to read the translation of the meaning of Surah Al-Baqarah. It is very funny to me because I didn't know what tafsir was. I didn't know what a hadith was, what salaah was, I just had this book and I was reading it and I had no idea how to interpret it correctly. But I have never forgotten and it was a great time in my life- to sit there and open the book and study the translation of the meaning of Surah Al-Baqarah. It was all very new to me and I was very happy and excited to start learning about all this. I was a teenager and I was homeless- yet I had one of the happiest experiences of my life.

That was about ten years ago. I'm in my late 20's. Anyways, my point is this- there is this external world and all sorts of external circumstances outside of your control. Maybe you have bad parents, maybe your spouse leaves you, maybe you're very poor, maybe your boss fires you, maybe all sorts of things. All of this is predetermined by the decree of Allah. It was predestined that I would be homeless for a certain period of time, then it was predestined for that to end.

Whatever is going on in your external world, you have to accept the decree of Allah. If you're poor or homeless or you get fired or your spouse leaves you or you have mean parents- will any of this prevent you from things like studying the Quran? Even if you feel alone and you don't have good company- the Quran can be your companion! You can do things like study hadith and the hadith can be your companion. I urge you to make good use of your time and use it to study the Quran, study the din and study Arabic.

If you do these things, I am telling you- you will forget your worldly troubles. Have focus during salaah- you will forget your worldly troubles. and insha'Allah your worldly situation will improve as it is Allah who you should seek help from. Allah is who can help you.

The imam at my mosque first met me when I was a homeless teenager. He looked at me a while ago and said I look healthier than when he first met me. I think I was malnourished back then. Sometimes I stockpile food because I remember not having food and I'm scared of being hungry.

ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ وَتَطۡمَئِنُّ قُلُوبُهُم بِذِكۡرِ ٱللَّهِۗ أَلَا بِذِكۡرِ ٱللَّهِ تَطۡمَئِنُّ ٱلۡقُلُوبُ

Those who have believed and whose hearts are assured by the remembrance of Allah. Unquestionably, by the remembrance of Allah hearts are assured.”

-Surah Ar-Ra'd 13:28

 

[Abdisamad]

I'm 22

Spoiler

You don't have permission to view the spoiler content. Log in or register now.

 

[Omar del Sur]

anyone who feels afflicted, stressed out, etc.- I urge any such person to watch this and pay close attention:


(there are subtitles but you may have to turn them on)

edit: yes, you have to press the "CC" button

 

[ogadeniaa]

Yes,I am female . Idk why they abuse me I always treat them with respect and kindness. My experience with my parents has put me off having kids because I don't wanna bring a kid into this world without emotionally healing from the effects of the narcissistic abuse. I am the scapegoat of the family. It isn't so easy to forget the past,when I am a victim of abuse. Also,narcissistic abuse is a big issue in our community.

Got you. may god make it easier for you.

 

[Basra]

I unfortunately didn't have that experience. My mother verbally, emotionally and physically abused me throughout my childhood and teen years and she still does. She also turned my elderly grandmother, relatives and siblings against me. As a result of that,I have anxiety depression and suicidal thoughts. And honestly, my father is no better. He always insults me and he was the one who kicked me out of the house with no dignity. So with no one from my own family to talk to,it's enough to make someone go crazy.

Naa kiir Donqoontiyahow

 

[A Mean Guy]

I could really use someone to talk to

I remember your other post. Wllhi i feel for you.
Are you in university/college/working?
Btw how do you even start a conversion with someone here? im not talking about the profile posts.

 

[CALMONE20###]

I remember your other post. Wllhi i feel for you.
Are you in university/college/working?
Btw how do you even start a conversion with someone here? im not talking about the profile posts.

You gotta have over 100 messages. I can start a conversation if you want.

 

[CALMONE20###]

Naa kiir Donqoontiyahow

You know nothing about me no need to be mean