Faraxs don’t have a right to be mentioning mehr as much as they do.

[Angelina]

10k is a reasonable price.
@Periplus believes in partnership, he believes in "my money is our money & your money is our money "

Gaalo women would accept that more likely than Muslim women lol

Muslim women want a modern man that caters to them ,but when it comes to finances they want the most traditional ones

Not really. Im older with multiple married friends who work. Whilst many do not pay half of the bills, a lot of their money still goes to the household. Schooling, groceries, new furnitures and holidays. Also, due to the economic downturns many now pay 30% or even half.

Also, what do you mean by a man that 'caters' to them? Even cadaan women and all their so called modernisation, still do 80% of household duties. For all our so called equality, men and women aren't equal at home and women being the gender that caries babies have the extra burden of being primary carers. The average woman has a long way to go, forget 'catering' , they're to busy wanting to be 'helped'. Now that would be a start.

 

[Bundasliga]

Not really. Im older with multiple married friends who work. Whilst many do not pay half of the bills, a lot of their money still goes to the household. Schooling, groceries, new furnitures and holidays. Also, due to the economic downturns many now pay 30% or even half.

Also, what do you mean by a man that 'caters' to them? Even cadaan women and all their so called modernisation, still do 80% of household duties. For all our so called equality, men and women aren't equal at home and women being the gender that caries babies have the extra burden of being primary carers. The average woman has a long way to go, forget 'catering' , they're to busy wanting to be 'helped'. Now that would be a start.

You proving my point. Compare the demands of non married muslims to the reality of married muslims & see their delusions.

 

[Angelina]

You proving my point. Compare the demands of non married muslims to the reality of married muslims & see their delusions.

I do believe Muslim women do need to start demanding more help at home as the man lives there like they do and nothing kills a marriage more than a stressed out angry woman who feels overworked. It's even more of an issue with Somalis as many Abdis are raised by mothers who believe that men will shrivel up and die if they go into the kitchen.

As for the money issue, i think the man should aim to pay most of the bills, but women shouldn't be selfish. At the end of the day, you should invest in your kids and home so that you, your husband and kids can have a middle class life. Holidays, extra curricular activities and savings for your future children. The husband will struggle to save a lot for the kids if he is paying all the bills and he is in a big city like London.

 

[Periplus]

10k is a reasonable price.
@Periplus believes in partnership, he believes in "my money is our money & your money is our money "

Gaalo women would accept that more likely than Muslim women lol

Muslim women want a modern man that caters to them ,but when it comes to finances they want the most traditional ones

Wdym their money is my money? I never said that.

I don’t need my spouse’s money, my kids do.

I’m never going to ask my wife to pay for my expenses, only familial ones.

 

[Bundasliga]

Wdym their money is my money? I never said that.

I don’t need my spouse’s money, my kids do.

I’m never going to ask my wife to pay for my expenses, only familial ones.

That's exactly what I said.
I hope you'll find a good spouse

 

[Darood]

You totally ignore the fact that almost any amount of mehr will make any Somali guy reconsider marrying a Somali (i definitely won't marry a Somali girl because I don't find them attractive honestly speaking, but I have nothing against them and I love them), especially in these hard economic times.

Even $2k dollars is an issue, forget about $5k.

Oh dear. Are you saying you’ve never even found one Somali woman attractive?

 

[Last Laugh]

The only rule for Mehr is the unwritten rule all the Faraxs in Minnesota practice:

If the Mehr is over 10k, she doesn’t really love you bro.

 

[Juliet]

mehr is a good way to filter the bums from the providers


Don't be sorry for looking out for yourselves and future family, ladies

 

[hamar_oo_iidil]

You totally ignore the fact that almost any amount of mehr will make any Somali guy reconsider marrying a Somali (i definitely won't marry a Somali girl because I don't find them attractive honestly speaking, but I have nothing against them and I love them), especially in these hard economic times.

Even $2k dollars is an issue, forget about $5k.

Firstly brother, not marrying a woman because you don't like giving her the financial provisions that is incumbent upon you as a husband is incredibly stupid. Mehrs' intended purpose is to give your wife a financial safety net so that in the event of your death or divorce, your wife has the financial resources to not fall into poverty. If you don't like the idea of providing for your wife and protecting her (financially) from all possibilities - you're not being a decent enough husband.

Secondly, our Somali sisters are by far the most intelligent, most attractive, faithful and compassionate women in the world. We love them and there is no woman on this planet that has ever lived, is living or will ever live that can give to us - as Somali men, the companionship that our Somali sisters can. We share so much in common. Our Somali sisters are the only ones who truly relate to us as Somali men. They understand what its like growing up how we grew up, they understand how misunderstood we are in the west. They understand and equally feel our yearning for our motherland. They understand our faith and how much it has helped us endure through our hardships. Moreover, there is a great duty of responsiblity we have to our sisters. It was a Somali woman who raised most of us in the diaspora, and I feel I owe it to my Hooyo to be for my Somali wife that husband that my abo never was to her.

So no, if a Somali sister asks for $2k dollars in mehr I am not going to cancel her. I am going to actually multiple that. I believe mehr needs to be higher - like above $50k because that is what the lower middle class threshold is. Also brothers should pay Mehr in stocks and shares, gold and other financial assets that appreciate in value year-on-year so our Somali wives are enriched through the course of our marriage.

 

[Wervelwind]

@hamar_oo_iidil I don't like to use this word but wallahi you're either trolling or a simp

 

[Mantiq_Al-gharb]

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