Words are powerful.Now let’s be real here, no man wants a woman who’s not gonna listen to him, talks back and gives attitude! We’re very reasonable as well. Maybe a hot meal after a 12 hour shift, maybe some fresh clothes here and there, etc etc.
Is this too much to ask for?
Obey has a lot of bad connotations with it -i.e. men oppressing women etc.
You need to look at the underlying scenario you want to achieve. A house where you're opinion is respected and acted on.
A girl once told me. It's not what you mean but how you say it. She said if you dont like how I dress and say " go back and change" then she'll do it anyways. But if you say "babes I'm not feeling it" then I'll change just to please you.
Choosing the right words ensures that you are in words are listened to but also makes her feel respected and valued.