Do somalis marry out of boredom?

[Happy_]

Very sad wallahi! I don’t want a loveless marriage

It‘s a cold world

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

Well that's not a bad thing. Everyone wants children eventually, it's not good to wait until your siil can't push out ciyaar suuqs before wanting to have children.

hoorta why are you so vulgar and they shouldn’t be harassed into marriage that’s what causes all these divorces

 

[jabsveg276]

hoorta why are you so vulgar and they shouldn’t be harassed into marriage that’s what causes all these divorces

They shouldn't be harassed but they should be encouraged. A woman without children grows up to be bitter.

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

They shouldn't be harassed but they should be encouraged. A woman without children grows up to be bitter.

Not true I’ve met many women without children that are lovely and well rounded and I’ve met many women with children that are bitter and vice versa. Children don’t make a woman. I understand encouragement and it is good but that’s one thing, and another thing is making every single conversation about marriage.

 

[empressjamila]

Idk about men but a lot of women marry young just to get some freedom and leave their hooyo’s house. They marry the first man that shows interest

What they don’t realize is marrying the wrong man can take you from one prison to an even worse prison

 

[yaqir]

sex thats it

 

[Mercury]

Its cause they marry for the wrong reasons

-guys getting married due to lust (which is temporary)

- getting married cause all their friends are

-getting married cause your friends have kids

- getting married to have your own place

- getting married to have someone cook,clean, take care of your house

-getting married to please your parents

The only time you should marry is when your ready for the responsibility and you want to build a life with someone you love

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

A lot of somalis I know get married to move away from their family

I've seen this alot, people naturally crave independence in their late teens/early 20s. Getting married is the only way for most of them to get that independence.

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[xoxoboredgirl]

Very sad wallahi! I don’t want a loveless marriage

exactly, what's the point. it's better to be single/at home. i'd rather deal w yelling parents than marry someone I don't truly love

 

[Wervelwind]

They marry out of convenience. My cousin is 30 and constantly getting pressured to get married. Like to the point where that shit is stressing me it’s so annoying hearing it all the time

What do they say to her? What does your cousin say?

 

[Xaruun]

Better than committing zina tho.

 

[HiraanBorn]

You’re right it’s cause there’s no deeper bond. They don’t really care about each other. Its not even like losing a friend, they simply don’t even love each other on that level. It’s easy to move on when you’re moving on from someone you had no love for. Most of these marriages are just to grab a trophy wife/husband or to have kids or to move out or out of horniness. Not exactly fairy tale shit

What's wrong with any of that? Marriage is for convenience first and foremost, love comes later in my opinion. It is westernisation that love is the most important factor in a marriage and the sole reason for it, tbh a couples love for each other settles over time and commonly fades.

It is relatively rare for a married couple's love to stay 100% true till death, that is the reality.

 

[Basra]

How come they marry again not even 1 year after their divorce? How? Cajiib wallahi. Any one else noticed how somalis move on so quickly, I doubt they marry out of love. I guess they are afraid to be alone. What do you guys think?

Because in Somali culture, a woman must be married to lose her virginity. She has to lose it in the marriage way and then divorce and then she can have fun. In the future she can marry again after having lots of sex.

 

[KobeBryant]

Because in Somali culture, a woman must be married to lose her virginity. She has to lose it the marriage way and then divorce and then she can have fun. In the future she can marry again after having lots of sex.

Lol never thought about this way

 

[Happy_]

Because in Somali culture, a woman must be married to lose her virginity. She has to lose it the marriage way and then divorce and then she can have fun. In the future she can marry again after having lots of sex.

Thank you for your input Basra but you‘re talking about something completely different

 

[Basra]

Thank you for your input Basra but you‘re talking about something completely different

 

[Basra]

Lol never thought about this way

Well it makes sense doesn't it? Dating is haraam

 

[Xaruun]

Because in Somali culture, a woman must be married to lose her virginity. She has to lose it in the marriage way and then divorce and then she can have fun. In the future she can marry again after having lots of sex.

The garoob status completely clears her past. It’s like money laundering but with zina instead of dirty money

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

What do they say to her? What does your cousin say?

They tell her she is getting old and she needs to get married soon. She just brushes them off

 

[Basra]

The garoob status completely clears her past. It’s like money laundering but with zina instead of dirty money

Yep. If she is garoob, there is no need to explain why she is not virgin. I "heard" loose Xaliimo have sex via the anus, even the dh.ilo fara.xs dont want to mess with taking the virginity out of fear of a major SIN