Did i rush things without doing my research?

[Abdalla]

I'm starting to feel more like a parent putting their child in a curfew.

As someone who dated much younger girls, I really felt this. They’re just too playful, it’s annoying. It’s tiresome. Every other minute, I was like stahppp

You have to show firm hand to the extreme. Forbid her normal things like talking to her friends for few weeks. Make sure you’re her eyes and ears, minimize outside influence, that’s how you mould her.

 

[durwa]

As someone who dated much younger girls, I really felt this. They’re just too playful, it’s annoying. It’s tiresome. Every other minute, I was like stahppp View attachment 186862

You have to show firm hand to the extreme. Forbid her normal things like talking to her friends for few weeks. Make sure you’re her eyes and ears, minimize outside influence, that’s how you mould her.

My abo told me the exact same thing before I got married.

I feel like all the effort will eventually pay off. My abo married my mother when she was very young and they've had a successful marriage. I think this will work as long as I don't lose control of the steering wheel

 

[Xaruun]

I was wondering why the mancave smells like fish I never asked u and was looking for advice from my brothers all I needed was her mother and her permission, u can go take off that mask and suck gus

Aren’t you invited to Rageedi

 

[Halimo-2018]

I was wondering why the mancave smells like fish I never asked u and was looking for advice from my brothers all I needed was her mother and her permission, u can go take off that mask and suck gus

17 and 28? It doesng matter if the whole world approves you’re a predator. You cant handle someone your size thats why you want someone to mould. Better believe she’ll wake up one day and kick your ass out for “moulding” her. Sicko!yall take notes and watch out for your younger neices and daughters. The world is full of men like this they have society that supports them as well. Uuuuf

 

[Sol]

28

Well you basically ARE babysitting her then

 

[durwa]

Aren’t you invited to Rageedi

Aren’t you invited to Rageedi

Not yet send me fam

17 and 28? It doesng matter if the whole world approves you’re a predator. You cant handle someone your size thats why you want someone to mould. Better believe she’ll wake up one day and kick your ass out for “moulding” her. Sicko!yall take notes and watch out for your younger neices and daughters. The world is full of men like this they have society that supports them as well. Uuuuf

I want to have many children thats why I married a young woman. I just looked for someone who fits in that category that im compatible with. You can call me all kinds of names but I don't live for others sweetheart, as long as Allah has made it halal for me, thats all.

 

[Halimo-2018]

Not yet send me fam

I want to have many children thats why I married a young woman. I just looked for someone who fits in that category that im compatible with. You can call me all kinds of names but I don't live for others sweetheart, as long as Allah has made it halal for me, thats all.

not only do you want her to be moulded by you but you want her as a baby making machine? Marrying young does not guarantee children and having many children does not guarantee quality as well. Anways moulding her will more than likely backfire at you she’ll end up resenting you in her midlife crisis much better to marry your own age someone who has an identity of her own besides you.

 

[Desert Flower]

I married back home and refused to accept my wife has a history because of her young age 17.
I've gotten some comments from locals before I got married but I refused to believe them.

I thought marrying someone so young would make it easier for me to mould her into the perfect wife. Basically, I thought she could learn and grow with me. But after a few wedding nights I'm starting to have doubts. I've gotten her to delete dozens of men from her socials and I'm starting to feel more like a parent putting their child in a curfew.

I don't have the time for all that and have a business to run. Inshallah things works out. What would u do if u were in my situation?

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

Fell for the "girls back home are innocent virtuous angels" meme, fucking brutal lol
That's what you get for marrying a teenager who's prefrontal cortex hasn't fully developing.

 

[Unicorn]

As someone who dated much younger girls, I really felt this. They’re just too playful, it’s annoying. It’s tiresome. Every other minute, I was like stahppp View attachment 186862

You have to show firm hand to the extreme. Forbid her normal things like talking to her friends for few weeks. Make sure you’re her eyes and ears, minimize outside influence, that’s how you mould her.

what is wrong with u guys loool sound like complete psychos

 

[Woke1.4rm.Shibis]

I married back home and refused to accept my wife has a history because of her young age 17.
I've gotten some comments from locals before I got married but I refused to believe them.

I thought marrying someone so young would make it easier for me to mould her into the perfect wife. Basically, I thought she could learn and grow with me. But after a few wedding nights I'm starting to have doubts. I've gotten her to delete dozens of men from her socials and I'm starting to feel more like a parent putting their child in a curfew.

I don't have the time for all that and have a business to run. Inshallah things works out. What would u do if u were in my situation?

You messed up saxib, if shes your cousin there is no way of divorcing her . You gona have to hug that L and get a second wife in your host country

 

[Periplus]

I decided to check out this subforum and I am lost for words man.

The audacity of this guy to marry someone still in high school, back home. You're such a creep bro, using your privilige as a diaspora Somali to marry vulnerable women then have the gall to come on here to whinge.

Kulahaa mould as well. Taking away her whatsapp and snapchat, man gtfo. I hope she hits you in the with a scopa.

 

[Abu Hesi]

Akhi, this is a tough one. If you don't have kids with her maybe let her go.
You can't be all the way in the west and think about what is she up to?
And next time if the locals advice you and they are your relatives, freaking listen to them, what's wrong with you.

 

[Hue_Man]

The peeps hating you are probably single and still struggling to find a partner lol. You do you walaal , whatever Allah wills it’s there to be exploited.

The same peeps that think a 30 yr old guy marrying an 18 year old is a creep are the same peeps that would mold or be ashamed when there employer asks “why does Islam hate gays” or binge watch movies that contain sexual explicit content , LGBT and gaalos snogging each other.

hhhhhh

 

[Periplus]

The peeps hating you are probably single and still struggling to find a partner lol. You do you walaal , whatever Allah wills it’s there to be exploited.

So you're telling me this guy married a high school aged woman in Somalia because he had a plethora of options in the West.

Abahaa was nacalaa.

 

[Hue_Man]

So you're telling me this guy married a high school aged woman in Somalia because he had a plethora of options in the West.

Abahaa was nacalaa.

welcome to my ignore list hhhh

 

[Mercury]

I decided to check out this subforum and I am lost for words man.

The audacity of this guy to marry someone still in high school, back home. You're such a creep bro, using your privilige as a diaspora Somali to marry vulnerable women then have the gall to come on here to whinge.

Kulahaa mould as well. Taking away her whatsapp and snapchat, man gtfo. I hope she hits you in the with a scopa.

He's dumb who even marries someone that they gonna "mould" and even worse deleting her social media cause he doesn't trust her and the other thing is nobody marries back home without listening to the advice of their relatives cause they know the girls back home very well he just rushed things and now regret it

 

[Periplus]

He's dumb who even marries someone that they gonna "mould" and even worse deleting her social media cause he doesn't trust her and the other thing is nobody marries back home without listening to the advice of their relatives cause they know the girls back home very well he just rushed things and now regret it

The two major warning signs were marrying a 17 year old and that she lived in Somalia. Individually, there is nothing technically wrong but together it indicates a difference in power in the relationship. He wanted to marry someone that he could control and being older, wealthier and the key to her future, that's why he chose the person he did.

So I have no sympathy for this negro. He can gtfo.

 

[Spartan]

So you're telling me this guy married a high school aged woman in Somalia because he had a plethora of options in the West.

Abahaa was nacalaa.

You seem slow, most of the ones here are not exactly marriage material. He should’ve went for one 18 or older tho.

 

[Periplus]

You seem slow, most of the ones here are not exactly marriage material. He should’ve went for one 18 or older tho.

Loool, not you making excuses.

This guy just wanted someone he could control, it is so plain to see. He thought a barely legal girl from back home was going to "obey his every command" and was p*ssed when she did not.

Did you not hear him say "mould"?!?!?