i discovered that when you are engaged in any type of conversation with anybody you are actually communicating twice, one with your words and the other with your emotions and gestures or poses. your conscious part absorbs and analysis the spoken aspect and your subconscious the unspoken and both contribute to the response. your two responses amalgamated in to one verbal one form the basis of any relationships you have with the other involved party. the trick is to learn to separate the two thereby disarming the other's response and hence controlling the narrative of any discourse or engagement between you two. suspending or numbing your emotional feelings during the other parties delivery of their discourse is the key ingredient it leaves your mind to full analyze and manipulate the thoughts and feelings of the other thereby gaining control over the desired individual or group.