Children

[SOULSEARCHING]

Say you get married and your husband wants children but you haven't told him you are not ready because of your childhood memories, absent father and abusive mother you got trauma from?

Is that a valid reason not to have children? Say your husband is getting angry and inpatient is that fear to him? Or is your mental health important?

 

[Guure]

Are gonna push those kids out of your gus or something?

 

[Macalin M]

Chat to him. If he don’t understand and doesn’t want to be with you then that’s his loss.

 

[Lostbox]

Didn't you talk about this before your marriage?

 

[MadMullah99]

Then Sorry, he has the right to divorce your ass on the spot. People like this piss me off.

Listen people. You MUST speak about and agree on your expectations, needs and wants BEFORE marriage.

 

[Helios]

Say you get married and your husband wants children but you haven't told him you are not ready because of your childhood memories, absent father and abusive mother you got trauma from?

Is that a valid reason not to have children? Say your husband is getting angry and inpatient is that fear to him? Or is your mental health important?

You don't want to have kids especially since post partum depression is an even scarier thing waiting for you potentially. No one can force you to have a kid but you need to be realistic with your husband since that's the whole point of marriage. Your health comes first tho 'sis'.

 

[Lostbox]

I call people for you

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[Daacad90]

Address your trauma first and have kids afterwards. Would be detrimental for you and your kids and spouse if you don't address those issues. It is a two way choice no one should force you to do anything however the husband is not forced to be with you and without children, it is understandable if he moves on from you to another woman.

 

[Kamma]

Mental health is more important when you solve / improve your mental health concerns, then you are able to make correct/ideal life choices but if you make irrational, quick choices you might hurt your self and you might be unable to look after the child thus hurting your children indirectly. Finding a good therapist (not a psychiatrist though) that is able help and underpin your problems would be great. Talking therapy is good however depression tablets should be a last resort as they only mask symptoms and are temporary, when you stop, it comes back worse. Speaking from second hand experience.

Make sure you take a break as well like going on holiday to somewhere sunny and naturistic. Read the quran, pray to Allah and read the quran. If you have a stressful job, transition to somewhere less stressful. Focus on your self like having a pampering day. Eat healthily, exercise, surround yourself with positive people. Ditch fake people. Volunteer globally.

These won't cure everytthing but they would make you happy. Do want you want, it's not good to rush.

 

[HanadR6]

Say you get married and your husband wants children

 

[Daacad90]

Is that al pacino as your profile pic?

 

[HanadR6]

Is that al pacino as your profile pic?

 

[Medulla]

Unfortunately if you haven't told him beforehand about these issues I'd advise him to leave it's unfair to tell someone this after getting married. If you've made this clear before marriage and he still is trying to change your opinion you should just leave him . Getting angry over something like this just mean's they are childish and aren't ready for children. Kids ain't a joke unless your interested in having some who hold you in contempt for eternity I wouldn't do it.

 

[HanadR6]

You should be informing the police

 

[Xasusi]

Divorce and marry a properly adjusted woman. I aint marrying some woman just for her, I still need kids.

 

[SOULSEARCHING]

Are gonna push those kids out of your gus or something?

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

 

[Odkac WRLD]

No real issue, and the mental problems can be worked on.

truth is somali men are notoriously impatient, coming from one....
Odds are he’s gonna drop the woman and find one who will give him children
Bad or not, it’s what will likely happen

 

[Veteran]

I would drop a women if we don't have children, thats literally the only reason I am with that woman.

 

[Nilotufian]

 

[Macalin M]

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How many do you want?