Can the mother loose custody of child after Remarriage?

[Angelina]

You can’t ever replace a mother that’s alive and well.

I don’t think these of understand how important motherhood is. A mother is irreplaceable.

 

[Qeelbax]

I don’t think these of understand how important motherhood is. A mother is irreplaceable.

They speak about women like they’re an object. “Oh is there a problem? Get a new one.” These niggas can’t hear themselves.

 

[Lowkey]

They speak about women like they’re an object. “Oh is there a problem? Get a new one.” These niggas can’t hear themselves.

Jus get a new one

 

[Bundasliga]

you expect a mother to be happy that her child is taken from her? Are you on crack. You’re advocating for sole custody to be awarded to the father. That means the mother doesn’t have a right to the child they gave birth to.

I'm advocating against divorce & deadbeat culture. Furthermore my personal issue is solely with the stepfather & the risk of sexual abuse.

 

[Odious Delirium]

You can’t ever replace a mother that’s alive and well.

Then they shouldn't have divorced simple as that or had kids in the first place. People have turned divorce into a joke.

 

[Angelina]

Then they shouldn't have divorced simple as that or had kids in the first place. People have turned divorce into a joke.

let’s not, I could go as far and say people probably divorced more in the past than now? Especially when we look at Islamic empires in the Medieval period and the fact that many of the Sahabas would often remarry a lot and I’m also talking about the women.

I think moderation is key. We should and keep families together as much as possible but some people simply can’t stay together and divorce is the lesser of evils. It’s childish for us to go around and say ‘WeLl tHey shOulDn’t of DIvOrceD’ no one goes into a marriage thinking they’ll split and frankly single people like yourself are annoying and don’t understand that marriage is hard.

 

[Odious Delirium]

Show me statistics that suggest women are ‘enablers’. Men enable/ choose step
Mothers more as they literally abandon their fam/children for other women. The reason why step mother abuse isn’t as documented is because kids usually stay with their mother than father and deal less with a stepmother. In traditional Somali dhaqan that isn’t the case so we when a whole saying and literature on the cruelty of stepmothers.


Also men don’t pay attention enough because in a lot of cases men aren’t as attached to their children and remarry to create a new fam whilst the ex is the one that looks after the kids.



Yes, you’re right that men are a lot more predatory. Glad we’re admitting that.



R word yes, it’s mostly men. But women can inflict nearly just as much physical and emotional violence. A lot of stepmothers inflict emotional and physical violence on kids and get away with it more. A major one in fact. The thing is a step mother, spends more time with the kids than a step father. If the father has custody, she’s expected to mother and nurture and men tend to be out of the house and more oblivious than women.

When I say enablers I'm refering to enabling the sexual abuse and violence of the step father. You said it yourself the mother tends to keep the kids more often then the father does so most non related house rape and abuse of kids is done often with a mother who you have pointed out are very aware unlike the fathers who don't pay attention. In all this I was focused on the sexual abuse factor not really on the physical abuse but that doesn't really matter abuse is abuse and if statistically mothers keep the kids then logically most of the abuse is done via the step father having access through the mother.

According to the link bellow single fathers with there kids only makes 4% so this statistic is in essence talking about what happens in the houses of single mom's who bring men around there kids: "If their parents find new partners, children are 40 times more likely than those who live with biological parents to be sexually or physically abused." According to a Missouri-based study of children living in homes with unrelated adults, children are “nearly 50 times as likely to die of inflicted injuries as children living with two biological parents.”

Child abuse is 40 times more likely when single parents find new partners

Here are three steps to protect the children

www.phillyvoice.com

In general mother's are more physically abusive to their kids

Mothers are more likely to abuse children than fathers. Fact? | Child Protection Resource

childprotectionresource.online

Women actually abuse there own kids more when a step father is involved

The presence of a stepfather and child physical abuse, as reported by a sample of Brazilian mothers in Rio de Janeiro - PubMed

Brazilian mothers professed to abuse their own children at substantially higher rates when their male partners were stepfathers to the focal child as compared to genetic fathers.

pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

The prevalence and seriousness of incestuous abuse: stepfathers vs. biological fathers - PubMed

Analysis of interviews obtained from a random sample of 930 adult women in San Francisco revealed that 17% or one out of approximately every six women who had a stepfather as a principal figure in her childhood years, was sexually abused by him. The comparable figures for biological fathers were...

pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

I have always said men are predatory which is why I have agreed with you on this basis on many occasions. I wasn't the one who tried to say men and women are equal in this regard you did and your still trying to argue as if there equals in this regard.

The step father doesn't have to be around the kids as much to rape and inflict violence. Being around more doesn't really mean much they get abused all the same.

 

[Odious Delirium]

let’s not, I could go as far and say people probably divorced more in the past than now? Especially when we look at Islamic empires in the Medieval period and the fact that many of the Sahabas would often remarry a lot and I’m also talking about the women.

I think moderation is key. We should and keep families together as much as possible but some people simply can’t stay together and divorce is the lesser of evils. It’s childish for us to go around and say ‘WeLl tHey shOulDn’t of DIvOrceD’ no one goes into a marriage thinking they’ll split and frankly single people like yourself are annoying and don’t understand that marriage is hard.

The way people talk now aday is basically that. They go into marriage with divorce in mind. Why should anyone be supportive of divorce culture. Plus the sahaba where the best of people in today's society people aresimply not the same. The sahaba are not going around abusing kids. They were not predatory.

Petty reasons shouldn't be the cause for a divorce.

 

[Angelina]

When I say enablers I'm refering to enabling the sexual abuse and violence of the step father. You said it yourself the mother tends to keep the kids more often then the father does so most non related house rape and abuse of kids is done often with a mother who you have pointed out are very aware unlike the fathers who don't pay attention.

Actually mothers abuse more when they’re with the father and fathers abuse more when they’re alone raising the kids. I’ll show you the study. It isn’t correct to say mothers abuse more. It’s in fact fathers that do.

In all this I was focused on the sexual abuse factor not really on the physical abuse but that doesn't really matter abuse is abuse and if statistically mothers keep the kids then logically most of the abuse is done via the step father having access through the mother.

Yep, and what’s to suggest that the kids won’t be abused if the father has custody especially in the light of the fact that fathers abuse more when raising the kids alone?

According to the link bellow single fathers with there kids only makes 4% so this statistic is in essence talking about what happens in the houses of single mom's who bring men around there kids: "If their parents find new partners, children are 40 times more likely than those who live with biological parents to be sexually or physically abused." According to a Missouri-based study of children living in homes with unrelated adults, children are “nearly 50 times as likely to die of inflicted injuries as children living with two biological parents.”

Child abuse is 40 times more likely when single parents find new partners

Here are three steps to protect the children

www.phillyvoice.com

In general mother's are more physically abusive to their kids

Mothers are more likely to abuse children than fathers. Fact? | Child Protection Resource

childprotectionresource.online

Like I said, that is when they’re partnered with the father of stepfather.
Overall men abuse their kids more.

Women actually abuse there own kids more when a step father is involved

The presence of a stepfather and child physical abuse, as reported by a sample of Brazilian mothers in Rio de Janeiro - PubMed

Brazilian mothers professed to abuse their own children at substantially higher rates when their male partners were stepfathers to the focal child as compared to genetic fathers.

pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

The prevalence and seriousness of incestuous abuse: stepfathers vs. biological fathers - PubMed

Analysis of interviews obtained from a random sample of 930 adult women in San Francisco revealed that 17% or one out of approximately every six women who had a stepfather as a principal figure in her childhood years, was sexually abused by him. The comparable figures for biological fathers were...

pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

I have always said men are predatory which is why I have agreed with you on this basis on many occasions. I wasn't the one who tried to say men and women are equal in this regard you did and your still trying to argue as if there equals in this regard.

I do think men are more sexually abusive and honestly I’d be more afraid of a man coming into the house. But to suggest that a step mother doesn’t pose a problem is false. Step mothers can physically and psychologically abuse the hell out of kids. Bottom line is that people that are the parents can be a massive threat

The step father doesn't have to be around the kids as much to rape and inflict violence. Being around more doesn't really mean much they get abused all the same.

With that you’re right I agree. Even uncles and other men in the family can be a threat. Most kids are abused by a man in the family even whilst the mum and dad are still married. It’s scary and bleak.

 

[Angelina]

The way people talk now aday is basically that. They go into marriage with divorce in mind.

I highly doubt that. People hardly talk that way. Care to give examples? Who says I’ll marry and leave after a while?

Why should anyone be supportive of divorce culture. Plus the sahaba where the best of people in today's society people aresimply not the same. The sahaba are not going around abusing kids. They were not predatory.

I’m not supporting divorce culture, but I’m not supporting catholic like ideologies when it comes to divorce. The middle ground is the best. Try and avoid it as much as possible but not stigmatizing divorced people because them being divorced could be less sinful than them staying married.

Petty reasons shouldn't be the cause for a divorce.

Contrary to popular belief. People rarely divorce for petty reasons. Usually couples have been fighting for many years before pulling the plug.

 

[Odious Delirium]

I highly doubt that. People hardly talk that way. Care to give examples? Who says I’ll marry and leave after a while?

I’m not supporting divorce culture, but I’m not supporting catholic like ideologies when it comes to divorce. The middle ground is the best. Try and avoid it as much as possible but not stigmatizing divorced people because them being divorced could be less sinful than them staying married.


Contrary to popular belief. People rarely divorce for petty reasons. Usually couples have been fighting for many years before pulling the plug.

People don't directly say I'm gonna get divorced but the idea of marriage people often have on both sides is a one-sided selfish view and if they are not being fulfilled now adays they feel restricted they end up divorcing.

I keep forgetting that you guys act brand new every time we have these discussions. I never advocated for "stay married no matter what" my point is if its fixable work on it and don't let petty selfish stuff acuminate turning into a big issue.

New couples around us divorce often with in a year and for petty reasons and the long term ones aswell it's just petty stuff that has accumulated and turned into bigger issues with each escalation. I'm not talking about enduring abuse that is a whole different thing altogether just saying before words are places in my mouth.

And you need to provide the stats your talking about because I already posted them here I'll post them again mothers abuse there kids more often is a fact.

Mothers are more likely to abuse children than fathers. Fact? | Child Protection Resource

childprotectionresource.online