Breaking news: Somali man lost both of his eyes after his wife poured hot oil on his face

That's so sad. That man is now crippled for life subhanallah. I don't agree with him refusing to divorce her, but you can never justify what she did. Thats a life changing injury.

This is why it is very important to really consider who you marry for both the men and the women. If you end up marrying a unstable person simply for looks or finances this can end up happening to you. May Allah protect us all.

I looked at the quote tweets and there are people supporting this type of action. Don't they fear Allah.

More importantly why are there so many non-Somalis in the replies?
 
Listen, a woman did a sickening and a vile attack on a man who basically scarred him for life and is blind, yet you result back to men this men that. Both male and female contribute to problems facing marriage.
Can a woman in Somalia leave her marriage if she doesn’t want to be married anymore? The fact of the matter is despite how the horrific attack Is, if he let her go, she wouldn’t have resorted to such a measure. Talaq is in the hands of the man and getting Khula back home is difficult. That is a key point you need to understand that underlines why I wrote what I wrote. The marriage was it is evident was a shit show and I can’t pin the issue on the man or the woman, but what I can definitely pin on the husband is why he thought he could keep her hostage.

You can’t cage people and force them to stay in situations. This is why divorce is halal since it can create greater fitnah like emotional, mental even physical abuse like this case.

There is no denying that what she did is haram and immoral, but you can’t escape the fact that one party can leave and one party can’t.
 
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She could divorce him.
How can a woman divorce a man when in many Islamic courts Khula is only allowed though the permission of the husband? I know that Islamically many opinions hold that isn’t the case but that’s how it is back home and even in the West in a lot of Islamic institutions.
 
How can a woman divorce a man when in many Islamic courts Khula is only allowed though the permission of the husband? I know that Islamically many opinions hold that isn’t the case but that’s how it is back home and even in the West in a lot of Islamic institutions.
I think that a lot of people are not privy to the processes that's the only explanation I can think of 🤣
 

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How can a woman divorce a man when in many Islamic courts Khula is only allowed though the permission of the husband? I know that Islamically many opinions hold that isn’t the case but that’s how it is back home and even in the West in a lot of Islamic institutions.
What is wrong with these islamic courts that are not even following proper Islam? Are the judges really educated on Islamic jurisprudence?

A woman can ask for a divorce for ANY reason. This is evident from when the wife of Thabit Ibn Qays came to the prophet and said that she did not want to stay with her husband. The only reason she had was she did not want to be married to him. That's it, no abuse, no nothing.

The prophet asked her to return her mehr and the divorce went ahead. He did not try to force her to stay unhappy in her marriage, he merely granted her what she wished for.
Narrated Ibn 'Abbas:
The wife of Thabit bin Qais came to the Prophet and said, "O Allah's Apostle! I do not blame Thabit for defects in his character or his religion, but I, being a Muslim, dislike to behave in un-Islamic manner (if I remain with him)." On that Allah's Apostle said (to her), "Will you give back the garden which your husband has given you (as Mahr)?" She said, "Yes." Then the Prophet said to Thabit, "O Thabit! Accept your garden, and divorce her once."

Furthermore, some people are so against divorce to the point where they see it as a big sin. Divorce is halal.
 
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What is wrong with these islamic courts that are not even following proper Islam? Are the judges really educated on Islamic jurisprudence?
It’s a lot more complicated than that. Fiqh isn’t just one opinion tbh and male biases deffo have a role in places like the UK in which sometimes when abuse victims find it hard leaving if the husband refuses to grant her a divorce. Also, some scholars believe the husband can ask for even more than the Mehr in Khula cases so it ends up being like a captor paying ransom Authobillah. Marriage can be a nightmare if a woman marries the wrong man.
 

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How can a woman divorce a man when in many Islamic courts Khula is only allowed though the permission of the husband? I know that Islamically many opinions hold that isn’t the case but that’s how it is back home and even in the West in a lot of Islamic institutions.
khula is what meant to happen when the husband refuses to divorce.


Khula is when a married woman initiates divorce proceedings. This is usually done for valid reasons such as immoral behaviour, mistreatment from the husband, or if he doesn’t provide maintenance.
 
khula is what meant to happen when the husband refuses to divorce.
Hi, you’re coming from an angle of theory vs practice. I agree with you, but that isn’t what happens in a lot of Islamic courts. Many scholars are of the opinion that you still need the husband’s permission. I’m fully aware of the original Hadith of the wife of Thabit bin Qays. It’s clear that Khula happens when the husband doesn’t want to divorce and the wife simply gives back her Mehr, but scholarly opinion throughout the ages varies with some even going as far as saying the husband can even demand more than the Mehr itself!
 

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Hi, you’re coming from an angle of theory vs practice. I agree with you, but that isn’t what happens in a lot of Islamic courts. Many scholars are of the opinion that you still need the husband’s permission. I’m fully aware of the original Hadith it’s clear that Khula happens when the husband doesn’t want to divorce and the wife simply gives back her Mehr, but scholarly opinion throughout the ages varies with some even going as far as saying the husband can even demand more than the Mehr itself!
First time hearing the woman needs the husbands permission to start khula. I mean, khula happens when the husbands refuses to divorce, why ask for his permission/opinion if that is already exhausted?
 
First time hearing the woman needs the husbands permission to start khula. I mean, khula happens when the husbands refuses to divorce, why ask for his permission/opinion if that is already exhausted?
You tell me. It doesn’t make sense to me at all Wallahi and it’s something I’ve grappled with. What’s the point of Khula and giving back the Mehr if it’s the still the husband’s call at the end of the day?

Khula refers to the husband issuing his wife divorce in exchange of returning the mahr or some monetary exchange. Khula is valid only if the husband consents to the khula.


Islamqa also has a similar view. But they do note that the Islamic judge can compel him if they see fit.

So all in all, even Khula isn’t a way in which a woman can truly get divorced. It’s in fact a double loss since it’s the same as a talalq but the man can take her Mehr and even additional wealth.

I don’t understand the logic and only Allah knows best.
 
Islamically a woman can get a divorce for simply hating her husband. That’s seen as proof enough and all she has to do is give back her Mehr. But a lot of Islamic courts are corrupt and like to argue that even in Khula the husband has to accept even though during the time of the Prophet S.A.W that wasn’t the case.

Hating your husband without a reason or an explanation does not grant a woman the right to divorce in Islam. What if she is on a cycle or has hormone imbalances due to stress, bad diet, lack sleep… etc

There is a reason why only a man is given the power of taaluqaat and as far as hate goes, there isn’t a single woman on Gods green earth who doesn’t hate men to some degree.

You guy even hate being in love with a man when he leaves you no choice but to love him. Day and night you plot to get from under him and be free and miserable, it’s in your nature, it’s nothing personal.

reason to divorce in Islam are emotional/textual neglect, abandonment, abuse and lack of provisions.

The women could have easily made herself heard, she took the nuclear option, because she detested him.

But I agree that a woman who asks for a divorce should be given it immediately by the husband with any outside intervention.

Why hold on to someone who no longer wants you and most likely has someone else waiting in the wing.
 
Well I personally wouldn't want to stay in a marriage with a woman that didnt want me, not sure what goes in the minds of men like this, just go your separate ways if the jeceel isn't reciprocated
I've always wondered about this as well.

What's the point of living with someone who doesn't love and want to live with you?

Just ask for a reason and if it doesn't work out then cut her off or things could get ugly as they'll hate you even more.
 

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