Black abaya forced 😴

considering ppl of the middle ages loved colors i doubt colors were always seen as bad. seems to be post-modern corruption




but then this one kinda looks like the black abaya, no?

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^^^ i'd link this but.. the paper is deleted cause of course it is :dead:

waiting 4 anyone knowledgeable to chime in
 
considering ppl of the middle ages loved colors i doubt colors were always seen as bad. seems to be post-modern corruption




but then this one kinda looks like the black abaya, no?

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^^^ i'd link this but.. the paper is deleted cause of course it is :dead:

waiting 4 anyone knowledgeable to chime in
found it
but its kind of locked too
 
considering ppl of the middle ages loved colors i doubt colors were always seen as bad. seems to be post-modern corruption




but then this one kinda looks like the black abaya, no?

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^^^ i'd link this but.. the paper is deleted cause of course it is :dead:

waiting 4 anyone knowledgeable to chime in
like this abaya plain black no design for me i like to switch up my style i dont like to wear black abaya outside always ofc my dad doesn't understand this my mum gets angry too but she lets me off tho wearing colorful abayas modest dresses
 

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Your dad is actually doing too much :dead:
Fr, this is no gheerah this is control 😭 I don't mind forced hijab anymore but black abaya??🤦🏾‍♀️ You're not letting me breathe my style is part of my personality why u not allowing individuality?? Black abayas are not the only way to be modest! I love to express myself i want to wear colors it's not bad but they are acting like it's a major sin when black abaya is not even mentioned in
the quran..
 

wonyluvr

Leader of the SDL( Somali defence league 🤫)
Fr, this is no gheerah this is control 😭 I don't mind forced hijab anymore but black abaya??🤦🏾‍♀️ You're not letting me breathe my style is part of my personality why u not allowing individuality?? Black abayas are not the only way to be modest! I love to express myself i want to wear colors it's not bad but they are acting like it's a major sin when black abaya is not even mentioned in
the quran..
Tell your dad that it’s not mentioned in the Quran or anywhere in fact maybe that will make him back off. Modesty is a journey doing this will push young girls away from wanting to dress modestly.
 
Did u guys live in the middle east or something? Somalis tend to like wearing different colors. Has ur dad always been like this? If ur mom is fine with u wearing colors and dresses how about u put ur foot down
 
Did u guys live in the middle east or something? Somalis tend to like wearing different colors. Has ur dad always been like this? If ur mom is fine with u wearing colors and dresses how about u put ur foot down
am born and living in UK my dad thinks we are living in Yemen because he always tells me go wear black plain abaya he's always been like this what do I expect from a country that is a niqab majority my dad told my mum to wear niqab after marrying her before she just used to wear hijab

Yes this is why I like my Somali side they are not extremist I know yes there can be Somali extremists but generally I never seen Somali girl here in UK Somali hijabi wearing plain black abaya. Although my mum is fine with colorful abayas she still believes colorful abayas are wrong and black is pure this is what her mindset has been because she was raised in uae as a somali n lived sometime in yemen, one time she told me I hope your dad catches you :/
 
Tell your dad that it’s not mentioned in the Quran or anywhere in fact maybe that will make him back off. Modesty is a journey doing this will push young girls away from wanting to dress modestly.
If I tell him that then it will just result in a shouting match he's salafi he loves hadiths strictly like my somali cousin that is from uae she loves to travel she is a grown woman so she travels alone my dad judged her to my mum saying why does she travel alone? where is her mahram?
 
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Espaa_

Ku sali nabiga {scw}
If I tell him that then it will just result in a shouting match he's salafi he loves hadiths strictly like my somali cousin that is from uae she loves to travel she is a grown woman so she travels alone my dad judged her to my mum saying why does she travel alone? where is her mahram?
Icl i aint seen no somali household like yours. Thats crazy subhanallah is this normal in yemeni households??
 
Icl i aint seen no somali household like yours. Thats crazy subhanallah is this normal in yemeni households??
yes because many yemenis are ultra conservative strict about following hadiths and traditional like saying women are supposed to be staying at home etc my somali family aren't like this tho
 
am born and living in UK my dad thinks we are living in Yemen because he always tells me go wear black plain abaya he's always been like this what do I expect from a country that is a niqab majority my dad told my mum to wear niqab after marrying her before she just used to wear hijab

Yes this is why I like my Somali side they are not extremist I know yes there can be Somali extremists but generally I never seen Somali girl here in UK Somali hijabi wearing plain black abaya. Although my mum is fine with colorful abayas she still believes colorful abayas are wrong and black is pure this is what her mindset has been because she was raised in uae as a somali n lived sometime in yemen, one time she told me I hope your dad catches you :/
Ooh okay this makes sense. Ur dad is yemeni and ur mom grew up in an arab country. Well just know tht dressing in different colors isnt haram so ur not doing anything wrong. Sucks ur mom cant back u up. Idk how old u are but if u ever leave ur home or marry a regular somali guy u can wear any color tht u want :) if u have somali relatives in the uk tht can talk to ur parents try tht.
 
Ooh okay this makes sense. Ur dad is yemeni and ur mom grew up in an arab country. Well just know tht dressing in different colors isnt haram so ur not doing anything wrong. Sucks ur mom cant back u up. Idk how old u are but if u ever leave ur home or marry a regular somali guy u can wear any color tht u want :) if u have somali relatives in the uk tht can talk to ur parents try tht.
am 20 now loll tbh this is why i never want to marry a yemeni man after what my dad did its normal for most of them to lie having second wife back in their home country n ofc the very strict aspect controlling the woman must wear black abaya, niqab etc when i see that the hijab is enough and wearing colorful abaya/modest dresses

all my somali relatives the guys r way older n already married so yhh i wouldnt mind marrying somali guy but then wouldnt that be not good because i dont know somali language so i guess better somali that grew up in arab country? then again those ones would hold the thoughts of strict arabs with their islam most likely, ugh idk only allah knows make dua for me plss sis <3
 
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Espaa_

Ku sali nabiga {scw}
yes because many yemenis are ultra conservative strict about following hadiths and traditional like saying women are supposed to be staying at home etc my somali family aren't like this tho
i think arab culture is like that sometimes. But even then is it not becoming secular? Somali households let you wear any colour and its actually encouraged to wear different patterns as well however a lot of the older generation find trousers to be immodest and thats where the freedom to wear your clothing technically ends for a lot of women.

however this is not all households and many vary. Also it seems as though your mum suffers from self hate. We have so much colour and difference in clothing within our culture. Shes adopted an arab culture to an extreme level
 
i think arab culture is like that sometimes. But even then is it not becoming secular? Somali households let you wear any colour and its actually encouraged to wear different patterns as well however a lot of the older generation find trousers to be immodest and thats where the freedom to wear your clothing technically ends for a lot of women.

however this is not all households and many vary. Also it seems as though your mum suffers from self hate. We have so much colour and difference in clothing within our culture
yes secular like uae now emarati girls wear colorful abayas, if they wear black abayas it has beautiful designs my dad says haraaammm this is all haram! jokes on him one of my aunties in uae from my dad's side wears colorful abaya and black abaya with designs he gets angry and got angry when he saw that she doesn't fully cover her hair with hijab cuz most emarati girls like to show their hair. For yemen tho its plain black abaya and niqab at most*
 

cunug3aad

3rdchild · Aw geelale
i think arab culture is like that sometimes. But even then is it not becoming secular? Somali households let you wear any colour and its actually encouraged to wear different patterns as well however a lot of the older generation find trousers to be immodest and thats where the freedom to wear your clothing technically ends for a lot of women.

however this is not all households and many vary. Also it seems as though your mum suffers from self hate. We have so much colour and difference in clothing within our culture. Shes adopted an arab culture to an extreme level
Yemen is a different beast, as the fobs say "not easy :cool: "
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i think arab culture is like that sometimes. But even then is it not becoming secular? Somali households let you wear any colour and its actually encouraged to wear different patterns as well however a lot of the older generation find trousers to be immodest and thats where the freedom to wear your clothing technically ends for a lot of women.

however this is not all households and many vary. Also it seems as though your mum suffers from self hate. We have so much colour and difference in clothing within our culture. Shes adopted an arab culture to an extreme level
Also i agree about the self hate part i would say she has some to a certain level because she defends somalia when my dad says its a poor country. Like for example my mum doesn't friend somalis her friends are mostly arabs ok i understand she relates with arabs cuz she was raised in their country but its a bit too much she even said somalis in somalia their mindest is weird?? what does that even mean bruh idk!
 

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