Bad cook a deal breaker?

[Bundasliga]

If you wife dont cook & you get with someone who does the cooking it's not cheating it's called survival.

 

[Taij4an]

I will hire a maid

u can't afford one
most middle class families in the west can't afford one
all the rent and the kids private school and the expensive car and items in the house and tax suck out all ur money, let alone if you have kids, you won't be able to afford a maid most likely
Its only the upper class who can afford that, maybe if they earn higher than 150k a year

 

[Arma]

"We can always get takeaways and have ready meals" a xalimo's answer, when I asked if she knew how to cook.

 

[Bundasliga]

"We can always get takeaways and have ready meals" a xalimo's answer, when I asked if she knew how to cook.

Useless people these days .

All they know is 100k meher & "my money is mine & his money is money"

 

[Periplus]

absolutely not a man job is to be a NEET i play elden ring all day

What kind of married man plays Elden Ring.

Stop with this marriage fantasies a beg.

Kulahaa my wife does 10 hour nursing shifts but I don’t help her and play Elden Ring instead.

Stop using SSpot to live out your wet dreams nigga.

 

[Bundasliga]

Well that very wife probable wouldn't be cooking for him, she'll have a maid, so why is it okay for her and not for a Western wife? Newsflash, women are not your personal slaves

Muslim women logic

"Its 2022 Wife's aren't maids ,they dont have to cook & clean "

*wants a personal maid that she treats like a slave*

 

[Angelina]

Muslim women logic

"Its 2022 Wife's aren't maids ,they dont have to cook & clean "

*wants a personal maid that she treats like a slave*

The issue is that, men now expect a woman to work, pay bill and do everything themselves. That is worse than a maid.

A maid doesn't pay for the accommodation of her employer that she cooks and cleans in.

Some of ya'll are treating women worse than that.

 

[Angelina]

Useless people these days .

All they know is 100k meher & "my money is mine & his money is money"

The reality is for women:

You work, pay for half AND do all the cooking and cleaning.

Have you ever met a girl get 100k?


But guess what, many and I many women help their man provide, yet they hardly get help with the chores.

That is the reality of 2022. So for the life of me, I can't believe as a man you have the audacity to complain.

 

[Bundasliga]

The issue is that, men now expect a woman to work, pay bill and do everything themselves. That is worse than a maid.

A maid doesn't pay for the accommodation of her employer that she cooks and cleans in.

Some of ya'll are treating women worse than that.

Maids get even worse treatment than that & don't even have rights or get payed accordingly.

I'm shocked that you as women advocate for the exploitation of innocent women in 3rd world countries.

 

[Cosmo]

What kind of married man plays Elden Ring.

Stop with this marriage fantasies a beg.

Kulahaa my wife does 10 hour nursing shifts but I don’t help her and play Elden Ring instead.

Stop using SSpot to live out your wet dreams nigga.

Everybody plays that game lol. It’s the most popular from game yet. FromSoftware was smart and blueballed the entire gaming community with the early teaser

 

[Enter]

This whole conversation is about a woman earning 100k+. Such a woman can easily get herself someone to help with the chores. So why the hell wouldn't she? You said a man will go Kenya for another wife. Well that very wife probable wouldn't be cooking for him, she'll have a maid, so why is it okay for her and not for a Western wife? Newsflash, women are not your personal slaves. What makes it worse is that at least a wife backhome will have all the bills paid for, but you lot expect a woman in the West to help YOU provide and do all the chores. Get out of here.

Self-hater detected. Why slav? Why blonde? That is peak beauty for you? Seriously get out of here. There are many Somali girls who are 24,115 and gorgeous, but your bottom barrel self thinks only cadaan women are beautiful and deserve to have someone helping them with the chores? Lol, what a disgusting mentality.

The first part is pure waffle. In the real world, even working women who pay bills or the majority actually do most of the cooking and cleaning. This is a fact. Most women want a husband that helps them, but strangly, a woman saying I want a man that helps has now been changed to 'women no longer cook and clean'. If that is the case, who is feeding, cleaning and raising the kids you see running around? Wives/mothers and a lot of these women are also ontop of that are doing 12hr shifts so that they can help their husbands pay the rent. That is the crux of the issue. Absolute xaasidnimo. You went women to help you financially, but refuse to help them with the house.

You're projecting a lot of shit I didn't say onto me. OPs question was about a high-earning woman that doesn't have the time to cook. Obviously she's talking about someone career-focused (and in this case evidently successful). Cooking is the most basic of home keeping. If someone doesn't have the time or energy to do that, then they definitely don't have time for much else. It's like you saw the 100k figure and childishly ran with it without applying any common sense. Does she need to cook making a 100k working 16 hours in Mombasa? No, but that's obviously not what OP is talking about. I don't know why you're repeatedly bringing up that women back home hire maids as if I'm arguing to shove a woman in the kitchen out of xaasidnimo. Especially when you seem to understand that IRL women take on the majority or all of the house keeping regardless of their financial contribution. But somehow you managed to interpret it to keeping a woman in the kitchen out of pure xaasidnimo. That's exactly the baggage I was referring to.

Yes, that's peak beauty to me. Well, maybe not the Slav bit, but they're certainly up there. You also somehow managed to miss the point. It was a retort to your peak Xalimo assertion that wanting a woman who does the house keeping is an average man offloading his shortcomings (i.e. lack of wealth). The point was that women in those positions often make up for their lack of contributions in other areas.

 

[Lostbox]

Would you marry a women that can’t cook? What if she works a high paying job (100k+) and doesn’t have the time or desire to cook often?

You can learn to cook multiple basic meals in a week. If your willing to invest the time and thr money on it.

Or just write down a copy of a basic recipe and follow along

It's so easy nowadays to learn to cook

 

[Lostbox]

Not sure why you would consider it a problem. 99% of you will end up bring working class

 

[Angelina]

You're projecting a lot of shit I didn't say onto me. OPs question was about a high-earning woman that doesn't have the time to cook. Obviously she's talking about someone career-focused (and in this case evidently successful). Cooking is the most basic of home keeping. If someone doesn't have the time or energy to do that, then they definitely don't have time for much else. It's like you saw the 100k figure and childishly ran with it without applying any common sense. Does she need to cook making a 100k working 16 hours in Mombasa? No, but that's obviously not what OP is talking about. I don't know why you're repeatedly bringing up that women back home hire maids as if I'm arguing to shove a woman in the kitchen out of xaasidnimo. Especially when you seem to understand that IRL women take on the majority or all of the house keeping regardless of their financial contribution. But somehow you managed to interpret it to keeping a woman in the kitchen out of pure xaasidnimo. That's exactly the baggage I was referring to.

Yes, that's peak beauty to me. Well, maybe not the Slav bit, but they're certainly up there. You also somehow managed to miss the point. It was a retort to your peak Xalimo assertion that wanting a woman who does the house keeping is an average man offloading his shortcomings (i.e. lack of wealth). The point was that women in those positions often make up for their lack of contributions in other areas.

It is Xaasidnimo when you can see your wife is helping you with YOUR role as a man and you refuse to help her do hers. Men often claim they don't have time to help, despite women now doing the exact same hours as them now. Do you women have more than 24hrs in the day?

Btw, I have no issues with traditional relationships in which the wife stays home and does all the cooking and cleaning, and the husband brings in the money. But these new age exploitative Faraxs wants a wife to work outside the home earning 100k and still be a homemaker. That is what I see as xaasidnimo. Either help her as she's helping you financially or be a man and provide everything so she can be a homemaker.

Lol, you're a self hater. Could have easily left it at beautiful women, yet you're here putting slavs on a pedestal on a Somali majority forum. Love yourself and please don't marry a Xalimo.

 

[Angelina]

Maids get even worse treatment than that & don't even have rights or get payed accordingly.

I'm shocked that you as women advocate for the exploitation of innocent women in 3rd world countries.

Nope, I don't exploit mine. Really nice to her. Pay her on time and tip her. As long as she's being treated fairly, it is a job.

If you truly cared about the exploitation of women, then you'd have issues with men on this very thread talking about their spouses working 12 hrs whilst they're unemployed AND she does everything for them.

Don't give me that lecture.

 

[Bundasliga]

Nope, I don't exploit mine. Really nice to her. Pay her on time and tip her. As long as she's being treated fairly, it is a job.

If you truly cared about the exploitation of women, then you'd have issues with men on this very thread talking about their spouses working 12 hrs whilst they're unemployed AND she does everything for them.

Don't give me that lecture.

No wonder you keep mentioning maids ,you ain't doing your home duties yourself.
Your maid is doing your homework rn so you can argue all day on sspot, mashallah

 

[Taij4an]

No wonder you keep mentioning maids ,you ain't doing your home duties yourself.
Your maid is doing your homework rn so you can argue all day on sspot, mashallah

ngl the sahaba used to have maids to help with their housework I don't see a problem with having one

 

[3LetterzMM]

U have to be able to atleast hold ur own in the kitchen. I’m skilled enough to cook for myself and others so I expect the same of my girl.

I guess I’d be willing to teach her if I really liked her but tbh its really telling if ur grown and can’t cook for urself. I been cookin for myself since I was 14 all u have to do is follow the recipe it’s not
rocket science.

 

[NinWero]

It's really important that a woman needs to know how to cook.

They say the best way to a mans heart is through his stomach

 

[Enter]

It is Xaasidnimo when you can see your wife is helping you with YOUR role as a man and you refuse to help her do hers. Men often claim they don't have time to help, despite women now doing the exact same hours as them now. Do you women have more than 24hrs in the day?

Btw, I have no issues with traditional relationships in which the wife stays home and does all the cooking and cleaning, and the husband brings in the money. But these new age exploitative Faraxs wants a wife to work outside the home earning 100k and still be a homemaker. That is what I see as xaasidnimo. Either help her as she's helping you financially or be a man and provide everything so she can be a homemaker.

Lol, you're a self hater. Could have easily left it at beautiful women, yet you're here putting slavs on a pedestal on a Somali majority forum. Love yourself and please don't marry a Xalimo.

I didn't say a woman has to pay the bills and keep the home, nor did I say men shouldn't help their wives. I said women that don't want to cook shouldn't get married, and I stick by it. Loaded statement, and you can disagree with that if you want. In my view, if your wife doesn't keep the home it's like living with one of your niggas.. . Split the bills, split the chores, and keep the seat up. The prospects of that are undesirable to me and clearly enough other or most men.
50/50 is a myth and you know this. Someone has to be the primary homemaker regardless of whether they contribute all or nothing financially.

You are inherently not equipped for this conversation w/ a Somali male as a Xalimo. Everything has to be interpreted from the most malicious and exploitative angle.

Self-hater? I don't know. I'm just keeping it real with you. I ain't never seen a nigga with that level of wealth shop around in Kenya or a wedding in the hood for a wife. Why shouldn't I marry a Xalimo? I don't see any Slavs that aren't gaalo my way.

@Molotoff are you gonna set me up with a slav angel?