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In any marriage/relationship this settler Vs Reacher theory applies, it’s mostly a subconscious process for most people which they are not cognisant off.
Reacher (somebody who successfully strove for a mate way out of their league, makes the efforts constantly, anxious to hear from the person etc.)
Settler (the one that can get better anytime but choose to settle)
The phenomenon covers many facets beyond just looks, anything of value such income/personality/self-esteem/market value etc.
The most happiest marriages I have seen are the ones were the women is the Reacher, the worst I have seen is when the opposite happens and these don’t last long or worst case ends in physical abuse.
The most interesting but chaotic ones I have seen is where it oscillates back forth constantly, just yesterday I saw a friend busting out in the gym after years of layoff when he got married.
He let himself go which subsequently affected his self-esteem and as a result ended up demoting himself to Reacher status after finding himself adopt those lowly characteristics which is a unknown territory for him, he was cognisant of this and this subsequent shock carried him into serious fitness regimen.
Which one are you?
Reacher (somebody who successfully strove for a mate way out of their league, makes the efforts constantly, anxious to hear from the person etc.)
Settler (the one that can get better anytime but choose to settle)
The phenomenon covers many facets beyond just looks, anything of value such income/personality/self-esteem/market value etc.
The most happiest marriages I have seen are the ones were the women is the Reacher, the worst I have seen is when the opposite happens and these don’t last long or worst case ends in physical abuse.
The most interesting but chaotic ones I have seen is where it oscillates back forth constantly, just yesterday I saw a friend busting out in the gym after years of layoff when he got married.
He let himself go which subsequently affected his self-esteem and as a result ended up demoting himself to Reacher status after finding himself adopt those lowly characteristics which is a unknown territory for him, he was cognisant of this and this subsequent shock carried him into serious fitness regimen.
Which one are you?
