You are misguided. Even in the Americas, a white Mexican at the end of the day knows their heritage and feels far closer to a Spaniard than they do to a Mestizo Mexican, even if they share a culture, language, and hundreds of years of history. In the Somali dhaqan this is even more relevant, since your abtirsi alone determines your "kind".
How have your attempts at forgoing your heritage to form a stable nation with other groups you share nothing with but only a language and some customs gone for you so far? Has it not resulted in the death and destruction of countless of your people? Perhaps it is time to consider establishing an independent Darod state and forging close ties with your Yemeni kin. Those are your real people. Your attempts at uniting with people who have nothing to do with you has failed for the past 26+ years and will continue to keep failing.
I must say at the very least you are an educated person, which is refreshing. Most of the MJs on here deny Darod even existed and call your abtirsi and heritage "fairytales". You might want to knock some sense into them sxb.