This must be an American/Canadian thing, there is nothing wrong with taking care of yourself, I even use Effaclar to even out my skin tone, and I follow CGM hair guide, this is coming from a guy who used to use gym shampoo on his hair.
It's the internet, there was one fruity Somali uncle who lived down the road from us, he was very feminine but got married not sure how long they stayed together though, they moved out a year later.