Ahadeeth of the prophet Peace be upon him encouraging marriage.

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1)

عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ، قَالَ قَالَ لَنَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ
صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ "‏ يَا مَعْشَرَ الشَّبَابِ مَنِ اسْتَطَاعَ مِنْكُمُ الْبَاءَةَ فَلْيَنْكِحْ فَإِنَّهُ أَغَضُّ لِلْبَصَرِ وَأَحْصَنُ لِلْفَرْجِ وَمَنْ لاَ فَلْيَصُمْ فَإِنَّ الصَّوْمَ لَهُ وِجَاءٌ ‏"‏ ‏.‏

It was narrated that 'Abdullah said: "The Messenger of Allah said to us: 'O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him get married, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding chastity, and whoever cannot then he should fast, for it will be a restraint (wija') for him.'"

2)

The Prophet Muhammad s.a.w. said:

لَمْ نَرَ لِلْمُتَحَابَّيْنِ مِثْلَ النِّكَاحِ

"There is nothing like marriage, for the two who love one another.”
(Sunan Ibn Majah)

3)

In a hadith, Prophet Muhammad s.a.w. said,

النِّكَاحُ مِنْ سُنَّتِي فَمَنْ لَمْ يَعْمَلْ بِسُنَّتِي فَلَيْسَ مِنِّي وَتَزَوَّجُوا فَإِنِّي مُكَاثِرٌ بِكُمُ الأُمَمَ

“Marriage is part of my sunnah, and whoever does not follow my sunnah has nothing to do with me. Get married, for I am heartened by your great numbers before the nations (of other Prophets).”

4)

أَرْبَعٌ مِنْ سُنَنِ الْمُرْسَلِينَ: الْحَيَاءُ وَالتَّعَطُّرُ وَالسِّوَاكُ وَالنِّكَاحُ

“Four are from the practices of the Messengers:

modesty, the use of perfume, the use of the tooth-stick, and marriage.”

(Sunan At-Tirmizi)
(Sunan Ibn Majah)

With marriage and its commitments, comes tranquility, affection and mercy. Allah s.w.t. says in the Quran:

وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ

“And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them, and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.”
(Surah Ar-Rum, 30:21)

 

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And he (ﷺ) commanded with marriage in his saying:
تَزَوَّجُوا الْوَدُودَ الْوَلُودَ فَإِنِّي مُكَاثِرٌ بِكُمُ الأُمَمَ
“Marry women who are loving and fertile, for I shall outnumber the rest of the nations due to you [on the Day of Judgement].” (Abu Dāwūd, no. 2050) So, women should not delay their marriage until they are old because as they age, they become less fertile. People should marry while they are young so they can enjoy each other’s companionship and build a happy young family.
It is legislated for young men and women to marry as soon as they can and to have a desire to marry due to the great benefits that can be found in married life. To sit around without getting married has inherent dangers ― so it is not befitting for a young person who is able to marry to delay it. And if a suitable man comes to the attention of a woman and he proposes to her via her guardian, she should not refuse him.
The Prophet (ﷺ) said:
إِذَا أَتَاكُمْ مَنْ تَرْضَوْنَ خُلُقَهُ وَدِينَهُ فَزَوِّجُوهُ إِلاَّ تَفْعَلُوا تَكُنْ فِتْنَةٌ فِي الأَرْضِ وَفَسَادٌ عَرِيضٌ
“If there comes to you a man whose character and religious commitment you are pleased with, then marry your ward (daughter) to him, for if you do not, there will be fitnah in the land and widespread corruption.” (Ibn Mājah, 1967)
However, if she has a valid excuse to refuse him that she does not wish to reveal to the people, then she has a right to do so since she knows her situation better― maybe she has no desire or a shortcoming (or an illness) that prevents her from sexual relations. The point is that she is more aware of her condition as to whether she can excuse herself from marriage to a particular suitor.
But if she has nothing preventing her from accepting a proposal, then she should not refuse it because marriage is from the Sunnah and it is legislated for her to make haste in getting married when a suitable man comes along who is religious, practising and a man of Sunnah. And if he is not suitable, does not match her, or is irreligious (or upon innovations) then she is excused from marrying him and she is not blamed for refusing. So, if an evil man proposes to her, one who is known for corruption, or abandoning the Prayer, or drinking alcohol, or other similar sins― then these types of individuals are not to be married. The one who knows that the Prayer (Salāh) is obligatory and its abandonment is unbelief, and yet he still refuses to pray, leaves the fold of Islam and it is not allowed for a Muslim woman to marry him (and vice-versa).
So, if a man proposes to a young Muslim woman via her guardian and he is suitable for her, can provide references and he ticks all the right boxes: he is religious, a man of Sunnah and Salafiyyah, he prays the prayers, is able to provide for her, shelter her, clothe her and feed her, he is respectful to her parents and elders in general― then she should make haste in accepting the proposal. She should not remain unmarried due to what that entails of danger and opposition to the Sunnah. However, if she has a valid Shariah excuse to refuse a proposal because she knows what she is like, and she knows about herself that which others don’t, then she can refuse― or because the one who proposes is not suitable; or she lives in a corrupt environment or society and she cannot find anyone suitable for marriage, then she is excused for the time being.
(Based around a fatwā from Al-Imām Ibn Bāz (rahimahullāh), see Al-Jāmi’ fī Fiqhil-‘Allāmah Ibn Bāz (pp. 872), also Majmū Fatāwa of Ibn Bāz)
The American author and columnist, Suzzanne Venker rightly stated:
“…Our culture drills home the idea that men and women are “equal,” or interchangeable—as though the sexes aren’t demonstratively and gloriously different from one another, which is what makes a relationship work.

The result is a generation of angry, unhappy, and resentful men and women who either can’t find a partner or whose relationships are mired in conflict.

… Over time, as women began to make their own money and take advantage of the newfound birth control pill, they came to believe that women don’t need men.

They were wrong. Biologically, women are wired to depend on men—regardless of much life has changed. Most women still want to be mothers, and when they do they become vulnerable. Even today, women know instinctively that they will ultimately need a man if they want to have a family and if they want the option of being home at all, if only for a period of time.

Indeed, research shows that what matters most to women—even to those who are economically independent—is knowing they have a man on whom they can rely. It’s the feeling of being safe and in good hands—yes, even financially—that matters most. That is what’s known as hypergamy, and it is alive and well in 2019.”

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