@Rorschach
But we have to remember that this is all ultimately governed by calaf - every person has their own unique hurdles they have to overcome. Not all late-20s/30+ women are suit pants wearing Manhattan she-devil caricatures.
Yes but there are consequences for not following prophetic guidance whether it's done out of ignorance or not.
Our father Adam's forgiveness was accepted but that didn't return him back to Jannah were he originally dwelled, the same way the consequences of our actions and deeds carries a lasting effect on us in this life.
Those who always had that natural predisposed desire to marry young and as a result followed the Prophetic guidance in this but were prevented by circumstances outside of their 'control' will never loose out as a result of this.
This is the case with the majority of male's, but unfortunately the majority of female's in the diaspora fought against this natural predisposition for early marriage until they banished it choosing worldly pursuits instead.
We see the consequences of these actions today when the biological clock forces them to seek marriage at the tail end (30+) and as the hadith states those who prioritise dunya over akhira will have poverty written on their foreheads.
It's very clear for everyone to see this today especially in our community were the vast majority of the 30+ sisters who had interest in early marriage despite all their toiling, sacrifices and struggles for dunya have no assets to their name and filled with all types of liabilities (debts)
The male's prime years is between 30-40, this is the point were the strength of youth and wisdom coalesce, while the female's prime is 15-25.
Why should the male give his best prime years to a female that didn't give him her best prime years??
Using Calaf or Qadr as an excuse is nothing more then smokescreen, a society were female's have no interest in early marriage is one were degeneracy, zina and shamelessness will run rife and as a result lead to destruction because it invokes our Lord's wrath.
We cannot afford to be soft or wishy washy on such a serious issue that we know culminates in collective punishment/destruction and invokes Allah's wrath, the least we can do is to publicly speak out against it since we can't change it with our hands.
I reiterate again that I have nothing against sisters who had the desire for early marriage but genuine circumstances outside of their control prevented them.
The outcome for those sisters will always be good and there is no need for them to worry, my message is strictly directed to those <25 who are still living in that delusion and the 25+ who out of xasad mislead the younger ones into making the same mistakes they have.