Being submissive to your husband.

sophisticate said:

I have yet to be convinced. Tall, high-salaried pretty boys have underused imaginations and don't bring conversational pyrotechnics. When I expect Dante's inferno (based on what they are bringing to the table) I walk out with an Ikea fireplace display. I mean I could probably envisage a more interesting version of them. And there lies the problem.

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sophisticate said:

Don't. Opinions vary. I'm an INFP (Myers Briggs Personality Type). The endless pursuit of potential/betterment can be enervating to suitors. I just have to come to accept people are extremely reluctant to change and be ok with that. And that they are far less interesting in real life than they are as a characters in my head. Lol, don't sweat it. I much prefer knowing about people (and how they conceptualize their worlds) then the process of getting to know them as anything more.

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Reiko said:

Every elder whether they're women or men always tell newlyweds that the wife should be submissive. For what? Why does she have to be submissive for their husbands? Why can't he treat her like a Queen, his Queen. Imagine being submissive to men like @R.Kelly @Ferrari or @Abdalla they will totally walk all over you, and eventually break your spirits and make you go mental because that's how men are.


@Knowles how should we change this mindset that our elders have?

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Somalinimo said:

There is usually a natural hierarchy in the household. The man who provides will shelter and protect the woman and their children.
The problem comes when the man is not the bread winner. He has to accept he's equal to the woman especially when they haven't have children yet. This doesn't happen if you have inate leadership abilities, or just physical dominance. The woman voluntarily becomes submissive.

The problem really is when men who aren't breadwinners, who aren't physically bigger and don't have the classic masculine traits (being of tall stature, more athletic/muscular body composition) FORCE a woman who doesn't feel inferior to the man, to bow down.

So if you're 5ft 6, chubby and ugly with 20k a year salary and a wife you support with welfare/benefits from the government, don't be surprised if the woman isn't submissive.

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Dino said:

what a sad indictment. A good man who works hard for his family could be undermined because either he aint tall enough, or he doesnt earn enough money.

says everything really

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Reiko said:

Every elder whether they're women or men always tell newlyweds that the wife should be submissive. For what? Why does she have to be submissive for their husbands? Why can't he treat her like a Queen, his Queen. Imagine being submissive to men like @R.Kelly @Ferrari or @Abdalla they will totally walk all over you, and eventually break your spirits and make you go mental because that's how men are.


@Knowles how should we change this mindset that our elders have?

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fox said:

@Reiko eeyaahe aniguu waxaan maqlay dumarkuu markay gaboobaan oo ay ka la sii daayaan waxay jacel yihiin in far futada laga geliyo

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