Emily
Nope. I joke with my New Zealander friends and call them, sheep shaggers, why would some non-Somalis talking about whether they would marry a Somali or not upset me? Look Emily, there are two groups of Somalis.
First group. They’ve been raised in a clannist household and consider their clan to be perfect and “God” to have bestowed on them qualities that other clans were denied. Perfection is the word here and they will never admit to any wrong doing and neither would they tolerate jokes about their clan, it’s seen as demeaning their clan. Since they identify with clan issues very strongly, when paying lip-services to Somalinimo, they apply the same methods to it. Have you noticed that they consider as Somalis only the groups/clans who are armed and took part in the Somali civil war? Others require to be brave and kill other Somalis to be considered as Somalis.
The other group are mainly Somalis who don’t give a f*ck about clannism and don’t react if their clan is insulted or not. They might make jokes about other nationalities and laugh when one is made against them. Unlike the clannists, they are confident about their somaliness. A Somali Benadiri guy today told me, ha lagu xanto ama ha lagu caayo waxaa ka horeeysaa ha lagu xasuusto. It roughly translates (help required here from those familiar with the adage), only those groups who are significant are dissed.