Wrong. Somali men have kids with gaalo women who raise gaalo kids who grow up to be coons.
That's a topic that's not often discussed, the amount of half-Somalis that are gaalo thanks to their Somali fathers.
Wrong. Somali men have kids with gaalo women who raise gaalo kids who grow up to be coons.
Even worse, an unfortunate number of Muslim women give up their Islamic rights just to get a man. So, the question is, what are these me doing? Are they waiting to be pursued and wooed?
Last I checked our half Somali kids aren't causing trouble.Wrong. Somali men have kids with gaalo women who raise gaalo kids who grow up to be coons.
They could be children of ex Muslim men. As long as they aren't cooning I see nothing wrong.That's a topic that's not often discussed, the amount of half-Somalis that are gaalo thanks to their Somali fathers.
Last time I checked being a gaal is the biggest trouble. No shadeLast I checked our half Somali kids aren't causing trouble
True, but don't be surprised if this happens in Somalia in the future. Some families love money. As for the Somali men, I was shocked because they complained about the high price of 50 thousand. I mean that's nothing really. If you are smart and ambitious, you can manage this amount easily and Somali women deserve itSomalis have the other extreme opposite issue of Saudi society and I canβt believe Abdis have the audacity to complain.
Btw, I donβt agree with the Saudi way, things should be in the middle. Moderation is key .
Me emoting Angelinaβs posts before reading cus I agree with her anywayThe real issue is that young women on average donβt want to have the type of marriages their mothers and grandmothers had, yet the guys want all the privileges their fathers and grandfathers before them had. The men think that marriages of the past were sunshine and roses whilst the girls heard first hand accounts of their grandmothers which were in many ways sad.
A huge problem is that a older gen mothers and grandmothers never really opened up to their sons. Why are these traditional woman raising their daughters and grand-daughters to take education seriously, have money saved up and to always be financially stable in case a man abuses her? Because many of them faced a lot in their marriage lives and lives overall, but their sons walk around as though all was great and then act shocked when the daughters whoβve spent their lives listening to tales of sadness doesnβt want to take part in it.
What a lot of men fail to understand is that this hyper-independence and a need to financial empowerment isnβt something theyβre learnt from the West, itβs the trauma of the traditional mothers and grandmothers before them whoβve installed that in them. Ask yourself, is our traditional Somali marriages great?
I doubt it, as it simply isnβt part of our culture. In the West, even with many Somali families doing well financially, the average Mehr is 3K to 8k with 5K being the norm. Our men cry about 5K and have the lowest Mehr in the Muslim community and with many not actually paying anything since culturally the Mehr is given upon divorce.True, but don't be surprised if this happens in Somalia in the future. Some families love money. As for the Somali men, I was shocked because they complained about the high price of 50 thousand. I mean that's nothing really. If you are smart and ambitious, you can manage this amount easily and Somali women deserve it
Doesnβt he have a yt wife and 2 biracial kids
Frankly, I am not an expert on the West. So I don't know how the dowry system works for the Somalis there, but 5/7/9 is a really ridiculous amount and they can handle it easily. As for the second point, I agree with you regarding these low dowries in Somalia, making the person irresponsible because simply if something happens in the relationship, he can easily divorce and remarry for a cheaper price. It should be difficult, but it will not happen unless the country rises economically and thus increases... Dowry makes the average man think twice before divorce, and bear responsibilityI doubt it, as it simply isnβt part of our culture. In the West, even with many Somali families doing well financially, the average Mehr is 3K to 8k with 5K being the norm. Our men cry about 5K and have the lowest Mehr in the Muslim community and with many not actually paying anything since culturally the Mehr is given upon divorce.
I donβt believe in ridiculously high Mehr as ultimately that will imprison women in terrible marriages. If man pays a 100k Mehr, even if the marriage is shambolic, he isnβt going to let you go easily. I really do believe that the very low Mehr amongst Somali is a contributing factor to high divorce rates. The men have a easy come, easy go mentality not found that much in other communities.
Kim Ji-young, Born 1982Tbh theres a disconnect between young me and women. Men want a miskeen bangmaid and women want to be independent equal humans. This is going to become a more highlighted problem as society progresses. Just look at his charge:
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The real issue is that young women on average donβt want to have the type of marriages their mothers and grandmothers had, yet the guys want all the privileges their fathers and grandfathers before them had. The men think that the marriages of the past were sunshine and roses whilst the girls heard first hand accounts of their mothers and grandmothers which were in many ways sad.
A huge problem is that older gen mothers and grandmothers never really opened up to their sons. Why are these traditional woman raising their daughters and grand-daughters to take education seriously, have money saved up and to always be financially stable in case a man abuses her? Because many of them faced a lot in their marriage lives, but their sons walk around as though all was great and then act shocked when the daughters whoβve spent their lives listening to tales of sadness donβt want to take part in it.
What a lot of men fail to understand is that this hyper-independence and a need for financial empowerment isnβt something theyβre learnt from the West, itβs the trauma of the traditional mothers and grandmothers before them whoβve installed that in them. Ask yourself, is our traditional Somali marriages great? How great is it when mothers dream of financially stable daughters that can leave straight away if the husband misbehaves?
Oh my gad! What will we do???This isn't gonna gain traction in Somalia. This 4b stuff is only in the diaspora and the only thing that shit achieves is pushing Somali men to women of other ethnicities
Not if we chemically castrate you all before you even consider an interracial relationship...This isn't gonna gain traction in Somalia. This 4b stuff is only in the diaspora and the only thing that shit achieves is pushing Somali men to women of other ethnicities
If I canβt have youβ¦ nobody willNot if we chemically castrate you all before you even consider an interracial relationship...
This isn't gonna gain traction in Somalia. This 4b stuff is only in the diaspora and the only thing that shit achieves is pushing Somali men to women of other ethnicities
We definitely donβt. So many of our hooyos, eedos, and ayeeyos were in unfulfilling, abusive marriages because they had little rights, no education, no prospects so they had to rely on a man, because they didnβt know any better.The real issue is that young women on average donβt want to have the type of marriages their mothers and grandmothers had, yet the guys want all the privileges their fathers and grandfathers before them had. The men think that the marriages of the past were sunshine and roses whilst the girls heard first hand accounts of their mothers and grandmothers which were in many ways sad.
A huge problem is that older gen mothers and grandmothers never really opened up to their sons. Why are these traditional woman raising their daughters and grand-daughters to take education seriously, have money saved up and to always be financially stable in case a man abuses her? Because many of them faced a lot in their marriage lives, but their sons walk around as though all was great and then act shocked when the daughters whoβve spent their lives listening to tales of sadness donβt want to take part in it.
What a lot of men fail to understand is that this hyper-independence and a need for financial empowerment isnβt something theyβre learnt from the West, itβs the trauma of the traditional mothers and grandmothers before them whoβve installed that in them. Ask yourself, is our traditional Somali marriages great? How great is it when mothers dream of financially stable daughters that can leave straight away if the husband misbehaves?