I cannot relate to this alhamduliah but I've seen multiple Somali girls who chose not get married because they are studying or focusing on their career or just don't want to get married because of other reasons. I don't understand why aunts or even families have a problem towards this issue like you are not the one getting married etc. A girl passing the age of 25 and not married is a massive problem to the older generation wallahi. I've seen aunts who have a problem when girls don't get married when they're 25 or above because they believe she'll become "infertile" when technically she can still get pregnant and conceive but not as well as to when she was in her early 20s. Even if the girl does not get married, they force her with some random bloke she hardly knows and then get mad when they get divorced.
I can't stress enough but if you do not want to get married, simply do not get married and live your life.
Well theyre looking out for your interests. A woman who does not have children carries a number of risks. Namely:
1. If her pension gets wiped out and the state pension as likely to do no longer exists there is no one to help her
2. If the social state no longer exists (again as likley to do) just becoming unwell for a week risks her life
3. If her mental faculties subside as they do with age people will take advantage of her ( scamers ect)
4. If a life event happens (as it does) she has less relatives to call on for support
5. If any children can go on to be superstars she misses out on a bunch of wealth
Theres a bunch of others but essentially its not risk free. Society has tried to minimize this risk with the modern state but trillion dollar debts to do so says its likely to fail in some generation.
Now lets ask the opposite question. Is having children is risk free? No namely birth itself hence the encouragement by families to have children young to avoid complications looking out for your interest snd if you marry the wrong guy but its rarely your families interest that you marry the wrong guy. What they may have is not the right skills to find you a decent guy and thats a question of capability not intent. And since capability is usually a function of resouces the typical somali family will stuggle in this area unintentionally.