So I am attracted to men don’t get me wrong, but other than a crush I can admire from far away or something nice to look at, I don’t care for having a relationship.
I’ve never held hands, flirted/chatted on the phone or talked to a man in a romantic way in my entire life. Even when I had the opportunity I get scared and immediately go on the defensive (not in a rude or aggressive way tho).. I don’t have much of a s*x drive either so I don’t lust after men either. Which is usually what drives young ppl to marry.
Maybe it’s because of my past experiences with male relatives, hearing what my brothers friends used to talk about (yes I eavesdropped) and seeing my female relatives go through bad relationships, struggle with single parenthood and just generally be miserable. I think it plays a small role.
I’m in my late 20s and I’m honestly a little concerned… when a man shows interest in me I feel disgusted because this man obviously has no discernment or wisdom to pick that bad of a partner lol, fear of being attractive because I feel like it’ll put in me in an unsafe situation or he want to use me for something (the guys here in Somalia want a sugar mama with citizenship lol). I’m not ugly by any means but I don’t make an effort to look better because I fear the attention and attraction of men while other women crave it.
Idk why I’m like this and I’m really scared to go into my 30s with this mentality…
Any advice?
I’ve never held hands, flirted/chatted on the phone or talked to a man in a romantic way in my entire life. Even when I had the opportunity I get scared and immediately go on the defensive (not in a rude or aggressive way tho).. I don’t have much of a s*x drive either so I don’t lust after men either. Which is usually what drives young ppl to marry.
Maybe it’s because of my past experiences with male relatives, hearing what my brothers friends used to talk about (yes I eavesdropped) and seeing my female relatives go through bad relationships, struggle with single parenthood and just generally be miserable. I think it plays a small role.
I’m in my late 20s and I’m honestly a little concerned… when a man shows interest in me I feel disgusted because this man obviously has no discernment or wisdom to pick that bad of a partner lol, fear of being attractive because I feel like it’ll put in me in an unsafe situation or he want to use me for something (the guys here in Somalia want a sugar mama with citizenship lol). I’m not ugly by any means but I don’t make an effort to look better because I fear the attention and attraction of men while other women crave it.
Idk why I’m like this and I’m really scared to go into my 30s with this mentality…
Any advice?