First of all let me start by stressing the f*ck out of how much of a mistake that last line is. A lot of marriages fail because people don't marry because they're ready, love each other and compatible with each other, but they marry because of other circumstances, like you for example. So don't even entertain that idea because as bad as things are right now at your mom's crib, getting married to the wrong person will be a million times worse.
With that pep talk out of the way, let me ask you this, did your mom go to kindergarden, middle school, high school and university here? The answer is probably a big fat no! The reason why I ask is to remind you that even thought she's your mom, you two have different upbringings and cultures. She won't understand you and you won't understand her. The moment you come to terms with this, you'll learn how to deal with your mom in a respectful way.
I started smoking weed when I was younger, and mom wouldn't have it. Dad was chill about it. Guess what, she left the country and went back to Hargaysa because a grown ass negro was smoking.
I was like mom don't worry about it I am big boy, she just wouldn't let it go. That's when I started digging around and I found out all Somali moms are the same. Some of the guys I knew were being told what to do, some were old enough to be my dad at that time.Long story short, just know she's your mom, and in her own ways, she thinks it's not a big deal to read your personal stuff because she didn't grew up in a culture that told her that. Just be careful and try not to make sense of it all, it won't make sense to you.
