WTF, Women demand unrealistic Mehr nowadays

[Taij4an]

This guy's pride demanded $20,000 for meg during the nikaah event, and he became speechless. The sheikh asked him several times if he agreed to it. He accepted the 4th time when the sheikh asked him. But the way he accepted ot sounded like a defeated man.

Fyi, there is a way to go around a woman dropping a high mehr on you during the nikaah event. If she wasn't willing to acknowledge what she wanted for mehr ahead of time, that is a red flag. The man and the woman should come to an agreement before the nikaah event takes place.

And if she changes it and surprises you during the mehr, you should let the sheikh know what you and the lady already agreed. The sheikh would do the mehr based on what you already agreed. Let her be the one that opts out if she doesn't get the high mehr.

I think the sunnah is the man decides the amount he is going to offer anyway.
Why would he allow that to happen, this man has no backbone

 

[Taij4an]

I am definitely convinced this is a Xalimo in a Faarax suit.

With that amount of money I'd get an S Class

Only time I am giving my wife that amount of money is if she is reinvesting it all back in me

 

[Taij4an]

This may sound controversial but I would pay a massive mehr for my wife. 100K mehr will change your wife's life in a massive way forever if properly invested/handled. I like the idea of coming from poverty and amassing wealth only to uplift another one of my own kind. I don't like the mentality most guys have of not wanting to financially enrich their wives.

Heres' to a world where qalanjos have 100K mehrs and pure husbands who are emotionally intelligent, ambitious and physically fit

bruh are u like a 15 year old who fantatises about marriage
this is real life wake up
if u paying that much money to a person u don't even know that well you are out of ur mind

 

[Taij4an]

50,000 meher is a good start

If the family is the one forcing the girl I dont think it is the same as the girl asking herself

 

[peacemaker]

I know a boy in my neighborhood who wife family ask him to pay 50k !! could you imagine ? it’s unbelievable, even our beloved prophet Salla Allahou Alaihi wa Sallam have said if im correct, that meher hasn’t have to be high !

A halimo is America once asked for 25 cents. You read that right. Dude was white convert. He smashed her for 3 months. Took her virginity and kicked her out

then a Somali guy wanted to marry her. She demanded $25,000. When sheikh asked why so high. She said I made my self cheap last time. Never again. She was gently reminded how she was a garoob and worse to a white uff ah disgusting foreign adooon inferior creature with alcoholic ancestors.

she discovered the economics of marriage a bit too late.

go figure.

 

[Abdisamad]

The 100K Meher rumour is stolen from rich Khaleejis, no Somali pays this amount of Meher and no Somali girls asks for these sums. Can we please end this nonsense talk once and for all.

Don't take this guy serious, he's probably trolling

 

[Abdisamad]

Meher differs from couple to couple and the amount depends on what ever they agree on.

 

[Abdisamad]

A halimo is America once asked for 25 cents. You read that right. Dude was white convert. He smashed her for 3 months. Took her virginity and kicked her out

then a Somali guy wanted to marry her. She demanded $25,000. When sheikh asked why so high. She said I made my self cheap last time. Never again. She was gently reminded how she was a garoob and worse to a white uff ah disgusting foreign adooon inferior creature with alcoholic ancestors.

she discovered the economics of marriage a bit too late.

go figure.

If this is true then something is wrong with any man who would agree with such terms and marries a woman with such a mindset.

 

[Aegon]

If this is true then something is wrong with any man who would agree with such terms and marries a woman with such a mindset.

It wouldn't even surprise me, it's often the case with dumb Xalimo pro-foreign marriage like that, they are surprise when a faarax don't want to come after a ajnabi

 

[peacemaker]

If this is true then something is wrong with any man who would agree with such terms and marries a woman with such a mindset.

He did not. Why would he pays 25k for white foreign disgusting left over hambo ?

Do you eat hambo warya ?

 

[peacemaker]

It wouldn't even surprise me, it's often the case with dumb Xalimo pro-foreign marriage like that, they are surprise when a faarax don't want to come after a ajnabi

exactly. Best think Somali men ever did was totally ignore a ajanabi hambo

We would rather married a Somali halimo divorced by a Somali guy with 6 kids. At least he teaches her our culture. Even better if divorced by an Ogaden man. Atleast both me and him are of the same Race and Ethnicity

 

[Leila]

If a woman loves you and wants you , she so will not ask for a very high Meher.

 

[Bebsi]

If a female asks for a high mehr run.

If she asks for a low one stay she’s the one, a keeper unique.

 

[Kane]

If the family is the one forcing the girl I dont think it is the same as the girl asking herself

I found myself in such a situation where the daughter was game,but her mother wanted that mullah. In the end I had to let the girl go and block her everywhere, I felt she didn’t fight hard enough for me. She got married after that for a crazy sum and it lasted 3 months, heard she is still looking for me, no thanks.

 

[Unbothered]

The amount of dusty broke men in this thread smh

 

[XawoTako]

50k meher is unrealistic. I would say reasonable meher is between 5k to 10k.

 

[JohnCena]

Wanna hear something crazy ? @JohnCena
Some may not believe me and idc,

but I specifically asked my Mehr to be the Quran.
I didn’t want money from him although his entire fam insisted on giving me money.
I don’t see the point in it… especially cause they saw it as a bragging thing. A flex.

I still remember when his mother and fam brought me to this room to scream at me about …
“Our family is not poor ! Ask for this ex amount ! How shameful and CEEEB. What will people think that we didn’t give you money ? No! “

Some women genuinely want a small wedding and nikkah.

i ain’t for that showing off shit. As our beloved Prophet (SAW) said … the most blessed marriages are the ones that aren’t the showy off ones..”

I know I butchered that quote lmaoo, don’t get at me.

damn you sound like an amazing person, I hope you truly find the right person in your life

I prefer small wedding as well , one that's more close family and friends rather than people who I barely interact with

 

[Hodan from HR]

Idc for money honestly, will prefer he just surprise me with a gift preferably a jewelry I can pass down to our daughter(s) or daughter in law. But the men in my family might embarrass me and ask high mehr if I bring someone outside our qabil to deter him. It happened with my female relatives who brought non-somali or men from other qabils. Some of the men walked away, others saved up and paid..

 

[Keo]

Get ready to be called an incel or broke for not wanting to pay 100k mehr. You guys can deal with that nonsense if you want but not me. These guys are hustling backwards.

 

[Yankee]

I shall repeat myself
Women ONLY demand expensive mehr because of your attitude and the way you carry yourself. When a woman is in love, she’ll take a pear or an apple when she is materialistic she’ll take your bank information. Stay save boys