You sound like an incredibly naive and young man. I'll let you in on a secret: those many beautiful and available women would not be interested in someone like AJ. An established, middle-class, law-abiding average Joe like AJ doesn't tickle most of their fancies. Most, including the so-called educated and successful ones, want a thug who deals hard drugs and has been in and out of prison for the past decade. I have one cousin who fits this exact description, and its shocking to see how many different xalimos he has on rotation including those who are supposedly "professional women". I suppose they love that "swag".
Most of the Somali dudes I know that are like AJ are either married ajnabis (mostly Muslims from other immigrant communities), or they went back to Somalia to marry a girl from their tol. It's easy to be a white-knight by trying to explain this phenomenon away by saying they don't have "game" or "swag", or are lacking in the looks department. Most of these mischaracterizations couldn't be further from the truth, and the reality is a lot more complex than that simplistic worldview would lead you to believe.