Would you claim your ‘clan’ if your father left your mother before you were 1 years old?

Yusuf Abdi Ali Rashid

Yusuf Abdi Ali Rashid

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Lascanood is very welcoming saxib. Every single grand parent of mine aside from my paternal grandfather is dhulbahante. But at the end of day you are reer bicidhyan, it won’t hurt to visit mudug and dollo, As for myself i’m looking for a property in laasqoraay or bosasso. Lascanood may be home, laakin i’ve always wanted a beach front property.
 
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Bowda-dheer

Bowda-dheer

Whats the point most of them run back to their father’s clan when it’s time to get married nobody will respect a self hater. Any normal somali of age wouldn’t want to get married to a dysfunctional family. People divorce but the whole thing of instilling hate on kids always changes when its time to get married.
 
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Smokybob03 said:
The problem is I have no inclination to, nor do I think it is my duty to do so, there are actual people in my life who are owed that obligation as in my mother, siblings, my mothers family in Laascaanood who I’ve physically spent time with etc. these are the people I should always strengthen ties to. But if time ever exists for that, I would try to find out if she even exists. Thank you for the keen words
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𐒋𐒖𐒆𐒔𐒖𐒕𐒈

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Smokybob03 said:
Just going to keep it 100, that’s what happened to me. I know his tribe, know the region (Biciidyahaan of majeeerteen, Werder region in Ethiopia) but I have no connection to them and have only visited my mothers clan (dhulbahante -laascaanood) and family. This is what I’ve always viewed my ‘tribe’ as. Again, I don’t want to promote any qabilism, this is just family and clan relations.
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Out of curiosity, is your old man still alive (I do not know if you mentioned it)? I ask, for if he is, then I would try to track him down for no other reason, but to find out about family health history (not just for you, but your children too) i.e. you might want to know what is hereditary on that side of the lineage, runs in the family, and so forth.

Had I been in your position, I would want to know, and at least to suss out as to the root cause of his abandonment - that is probably my curious nature. Best of luck.
 
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Bowda-dheer

Bowda-dheer

Do bigger sub sub clans clans marry their relatives from father side under 7-6 generations or is it only the smaller sub sub clans?
 
DubatDiaries

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I don't claim my clan and I still live with my father.
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Bowda-dheer

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𐒋𐒖𐒆𐒔𐒖𐒕𐒈 said:
Out of curiosity, is your old man still alive (I do not know if you mentioned it)? I ask, for if he is, then I would try to track him down for no other reason, but to find out about family health history (not just for you, but your children too) i.e. you might want to know what is hereditary on that side of the lineage, runs in the family, and so forth.

Had I been in your position, I would want to know, and at least to suss out as to the root cause of his abandonment - that is probably my curious nature. Best of luck.
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He should take a dna test with his father you never know.
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Smokybob03 said:
The problem is I have no inclination to, nor do I think it is my duty to do so, there are actual people in my life who are owed that obligation as in my mother, siblings, my mothers family in Laascaanood who I’ve physically spent time with etc. these are the people I should always strengthen ties to. But if time ever exists for that, I would try to find out if she even exists. Thank you for the keen words
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Maybe read up on the importance of maintaining close ties of kinship in Islam. It may change your stance on this. You could make your intention to do it for the sake of Allah. Not for any personal gain.
Smokybob03 said:
If it helps, my mothers brother was my father in the sense of being a masculine figure. My abti taught me how to pray, read Arabic took me to Makkah to do umrah and was always checking in despite living a continent away in Europe. And that’s despite the fact he has his own sons to tend to
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How blessed you were! Truly. Your Abti really went above and beyond his obligation. That’s what I call love. May Allah reward him immensely in this life and the akhirah.
 
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