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Would you claim your ‘clan’ if your father left your mother before you were 1 years old?
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No the time to flex.
I was being honest. My heart goes out to the lad. It's saddening. I have a very low tolerance for irresponsible fathers/parents that produce but don't do much to take care of the children they sire. They only create challanges for their kids.wow what a flex! loooooool!
Generally, speaking there isn't a huge divergence between his parents clans. Both are Harti. It's not like they belong to rivalrous clans with bones of contention or who are politically diametrically opposed (that could spell hardship).
I wasn't really aware of the divorce rate in the Somali community. Most I know have similar family formations, actually. SSpot has educated me to the scope of this problem outside my small bubble.Hunno, stop flexing on em. 1 parent house-holds ain't a Samaroon thing, I'm sure that's common knowledge. This is we should keep our lineage pure so outsider cultures don't infiltrate
Though conventionally staying married was quite the norm and divorce was frawned upon in our micro-culture, life has changed especially Post-Civil War. Divorce strikes independent of clan. And we, too, have some rolling stones and turbulent ones among us (like any group). Alx, access to that information is readily available to us.
Children have no part in their parents' marital success or dissolution/divorce. You must admit it's odd that the fathers don't take and raise the kids as they did traditionally. I suppose the state has a role to play in that (awarding primary custody to mothers), but it's not like they are petitioning the courts to attest.
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? It don’t make a difference saxib, I’m physically Somali. You can’t see someone’s tribe
Sounds to me like their Reer Abti isn't Tolka. Thanks for proving my point.
This is outsider culture that father has picked up and nothing to do with us
Nah I’ll keep it stepping. This thread was just for a discussion, late shower thoughts. It’s never been a thing for me that takes up my time. I have my family, just a curiosity thing if that makes sense. I have no clue how to find his mother anyway and if she is even alive, probably has no clue I exist.
You're always positive wallahi u are wonderful guy may Allah bless u brother, you're inspirational to this siteqabiil is outdated, we simply can't reach our true potential with it, we must let it go
It is a distraction. This is why I added a disclaimer, that I don’t care this much about tribalism as it’s ruined our country. This was just more about clan relations and it’s not something I think about often at all. Just wanted a discussion
Try brother at least once
try contact his mother or brothersIf it helps, my mothers brother was my father in the sense of being a masculine figure. My abti taught me how to pray, read Arabic took me to Makkah to do umrah and was always checking in despite living a continent away in Europe. And that’s despite the fact he has his own sons to tend to
The problem is I have no inclination to, nor do I think it is my duty to do so, there are actual people in my life who are owed that obligation as in my mother, siblings, my mothers family in Laascaanood who I’ve physically spent time with etc. these are the people I should always strengthen ties to. But if time ever exists for that, I would try to find out if she even exists. Thank you for the keen wordsTry brother at least once
