Would you ask your future spouse for an std test before marrying?

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Oh and have you seen the divorce rate in Somalia? These men are getting married and divorced like they are changing underwear, so many young girls are single mothers right now. Do you think ANY of them get tested? Nope. It just takes one person to have herpes for example, for it to spread like wildfire.

As for the sinners back home, do they use protection when fornicating? Nope. We all hear about men complaining about using condoms or secretly taking it off to trick women into unprotected sex. To make matters worse, condoms don't protect fully against STDs either, it can still be passed on from skin to skin contact, not just through bodily fluids. I highly suggest all of you read up on how STDs and other diseases can be passed on.

Knowledge is power.

 

[Geedi Ladane]

Look it’s called a sexually transmitted disease for a reason. Just because it’s possible to be contracted without having sex doesn’t make it likely, malpractice hardly takes place in the west.

If a brother was trying to marry my sister and asked her for an std test, that’s enough to cancel him as potential prospective.

Asking your husband to take an std test because he has traveled to another country on a trip, is no different for accusing him of zina. One of the most important things in a relationship is trust.
Yes it’s better to be single and healthy than be married and have an std. but it’s much better to be Married and healthy than being single and healthy. Do your background check, go for a religious sister from a good family and do your background checks.

Many of the times you find people who have these strong doubts of the spouses chastity tend to be people who are very promiscuous.

When hear guys saying Muslim women are finished and they’re all goes expect a small number than know the person saying this is someone who engages in zina. People tend to see others how they see themselves.

 

[Qofwalan]

70% of the world population has the kissing disease aka cold sores

 

[Darood]

Why would you be horrified? Would you not want to be sure he's healthy also?

Because if he knows I’m a virgin then there’s no need. He should trust me.
If I wasn’t a virgin then it’s a different story.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Because if he knows I’m a virgin then there’s no need. He should trust me.
If I wasn’t a virgin then it’s a different story.

Virgins can still get STDs from medical malpractice and other unfortunate incidents.

 

[Journey.]

No it's not offensive. I'm from a practicing family and my own father told me to ask for an STD check. People need to stop being ignorant about health and understand that diseases can spread from non-sexual related activities.

Your case is that it shouldn't be offensive. The reality is that it is (i.e., most people will find it offensive) because STDs (lit. sexually transmitted diseases) are associated with promiscuity. Because of this, asking someone to do an STD check will come across as implying they were unchaste. I understand your point about the health concern, however I don't think it's reached a state where people should be worried and asking potentials to get tested. That just seems like paranoia.

 

[Qeelbax]

Everyone should ask for a check. Why put your health and the health of your future offspring at risk? Even people that are virgins can contract a fatal illness due to medical malpractice.

If someone gets offended and leaves you, say Alhamdulilah.

I really hope Somalis wake up and stop playing russian roulette with their health. Somalis are not immune to STDs or medical mishaps.

100% all people should ask. I need them papers.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Your case is that it shouldn't be offensive. The reality is that it is (i.e., most people will find it offensive) because STDs (lit. sexually transmitted diseases) are associated with promiscuity. Because of this, asking someone to do an STD check will come across as implying they were unchaste. I understand your point about the health concern, however I don't think it's reached a state where people should be worried and asking potentials to get tested. That just seems like paranoia.

It is better to offend someone and be safe than babysit their feelings and contract a deadly illness.

 

[TekNiKo]

No, I would never marry a woman I had any doubt was horrish.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

I am seeing the same thing repeated here:

"Afraid of offending people".

Do you realise that if your first concern is "people's feelings" that you are afraid of establishing boundaries to protect yourself? This is not a positive thing.

Are you really putting your life at risk because you are afraid of hurting someone's feelings?

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

100% all people should ask. I need them papers.

Naag nool.

Someone else who understands that their life is their own responsibility.

 

[Qeelbax]

Naag nool.

Someone else who understands that their life is their own responsibility.

I saw a girl on my fyp who was dying from HIV, she was a stripper. She had it for 10 years and had no idea. She’s only in her late 20s. Not saying my man might be a stripper but there’s plenty of muslim men who start practicing after their h0e phase and have probably gone to strip clubs like the average joe.
I don’t expect my man to be a sheikh but I’m skeptical of everyone. The former top imam of saudi arabia is now starring in saudiwood shows, ain’t no one you can trust.

 

[aduunka220]

I saw a girl on my fyp who was dying from HIV, she was a stripper. She had it for 10 years and had no idea. She’s only in her late 20s. Not saying my man might be a stripper but there’s plenty of muslim men who start practicing after their h0e phase and have probably gone to strip clubs like the average joe.
I don’t expect my man to be a sheikh but I’m skeptical of everyone. The former top imam of saudi arabia is now starring in saudiwood shows, ain’t no one you can trust.

what type of men you looking for lol theres alot of normal muslim men that are not like that.

 

[Hargeysa]

It's not sexy to talk about, but OP is right.

Everyone should do a test. Even if couples are virigins, lots of people carry HPV unknowingly, and that can lead to cervical cancers etc.

It's best to be proactive.

 

[Last Laugh]

Might I ask, what is wrong with a non-virgin woman?

they’re just not my preference.

To the the guys like you that are willing to marry non-Virgins(widows are an exception)…thank you for taking one for the team. Garbage collectors are need in every society.

 

[Last Laugh]

Virgins, male or female, can contract STDs from medical malpractice or if they inherit it from a HIV carrying parent who breastfed them.

You are posting on this thread like a paranoid schizophrenic who can’t read peoples character. Cajiib Walahi

 

[Angelina]

they’re just not my preference.

To the the guys like you that are willing to marry non-Virgins(widows are an exception)…thank you for taking one for the team. Garbage collectors are need in every society.

I don’t understand what you get out of calling divorced women garbage tbh. Honest question, if you’re daughter was divorced would you call the man that marries her a garbage collector?

I don’t understand weirdos with your mentality tbh. Bottom of the barrel intelligence. Control your tongue.

 

[Danakiil]

Ngl I would. So many people out here (even Muslims) got a past and who knows what they may be carrying. I don’t wanna play with my health like that. If he wanted me to take one too I would be willing ofc, I know I’m clean lol.

How about you?

My STD test would be if the streets know her name.

 

[Last Laugh]

I don’t understand what you get out of calling divorced women garbage tbh. Honest question, if you’re daughter was divorced would you call the man that marries her a garbage collector?

I don’t understand weirdos with your mentality tbh. Bottom of the barrel intelligence. Control your tongue.

You should go back and read your older posts before I call you a hypocrite. You’re a strange older women who continually bashes Somali men on this website like she’s being paid for it. I would not be surprised if you weren’t really Somali to begin with.

My belief and preferences are not your concern but if you must know, a divorced person is a person who failed in marriage. So marrying a divorcée is highly looked down upon. And yes, this goes both ways for men and women.

 

[hamar_oo_iidil]

STD checks
Financial credit checks
Etc, etc

We have to approach marriage seriously. Put the love and emotionalism to one side and deal seriously about life long commitment.

I read somewhere that male infertility today is at an all time high and how it has become the number one reason why couples struggle to conceive a child. So I also think sisters should request fertility checks from their husbands prior to marriage too.

Folks should go to a psychologist for psychological evaluation prior to marriage too.

I intend to do all these things prior to getting married, it will be costly but at least my wife and I will enter into our marriage with peace of mind and knowing that we have done everything we possibly could to ensure our marriage is successful. I feel only after that will my wife really be able to relax and trust me completely. Otherwise your wife/husband will always be weary of you and sometimes that weariness alone is what destroys the integrity of a marriage.