Would you arrange your childs marriage?

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  1. Rationale

    Rationale

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    I will definetly arrange my future childrens marriage can't let anyone into the family.

    What about you guys? Is this still normal among Somali families?
     
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  2. Timo Jareer and proud

    Timo Jareer and proud VIP

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    Nah I don't want a Ayaan Hirsi Ali 2.0 on my hands.
     
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  3. Muji

    Muji Staff Member Moderator

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    No thanks. I’ve lived my life, I’ll let my children do the same. Remember your children didn’t ask to be born, you decided to have children, so it’s important to do right by them and not continue this cycle of Somali carnage.
     
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  4. Rationale

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    How is it a carnage? Well planned marriages are what lead to prosperous families. Not some xaar about love and other feeble things. Marriage with wrong spouse can flush generations of hardwork and wealth down the toilet. My children will definetly marry from and into families that are stable and well established.
     
  5. Halimo-2018

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    No. They can choose who they want just like i did.
    Too much hassle for me.
     
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  6. YourBroMoe

    YourBroMoe Who the fuck am I? ギくェズー VIP

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    Nah. I'd only disapprove if the guy or girl is bad for my son or daughter. If everything is good, I'mma let them be.
     
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    YourBroMoe Who the fuck am I? ギくェズー VIP

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    Hehehehe, carnage. :pachah1:
     
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    SilverL Unprofessional Therapist VIP

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    You know what, maybe I would. Humans are happier with the inherent lack of choice or limited pool. Sad but true
     
  9. Mongrel

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    Choice is a fundamental right and, even if they are your child, when they marry they are an adult and have the right to choose.
     
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  10. Exodus

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    I understand the idea behind arranging a marriage, the couple would be from the same religion, culture, nationality, socio-economic background, and both families would be keen on the marriage. If the couple meet and taking a liking to each other, isn’t that the ideal relationship? Obviously though, if they don’t like each other the potential marriage shouldn’t go through.

    A mix of both arrangements and personal choice is ideal IMO
     
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    I was sitting next to an Indian guy. We got into a light political debate. The discussion somehow shifted to morality, and then relationships. He told me he was arranged, and I asked him so what’s that like, thinking more along process, but he just said “not great” and stopped talking. I’m not sure I buy the love with time thing. There has to be something.

    From a personal perspective, I was attempted to be set up numerous times. It was a “choose among” type thing. My folks thought along similar lines. Too young. It was so relentless, I even thought maybe I should give in and marry to divorce. I was that contemptuous of even the idea of it. Not to say, I didn’t have my fun with it. It didn’t stop before I’d fucked around with their heads. But then, they were pawns in their own way too.
     
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