women come in!!

[Garaad Darawiish]

say ur husband is earning 300k a year and he is working 15+hrs a day. He wants the realtionship to continue but doesnt want to pro-create. Remember, mans earning 300k a year. will you look for divorce or allow the cash to follow?

 

[Nightline Kid]

That's a really specific question

 

[OmarLittle]

This is some basic people shit. Wouldn't they talk about this before marriage? Did he promise her they will have kids? Does she have her own career making reasonable amount of money?

If she has her own money and really wants kids, she will move on. If she's financially dependent on you, she will stay with you or until she finds another man, lol.

 

[Hades]

Brothers a workaholic, no self respecting woman would stay in a marriage where she only sees her partner at bedtime
take this as a warning, she will cheat with adam next door and save the money until she can support herself

 

[Garaad Darawiish]

Brothers a workaholic, no self respecting woman would stay in a marriage where she only sees her partner at bedtime
take this as a warning, she will cheat with adam next door and save the money until she can support herself

no but he is earning 300k a year but doesnt want to have sex. you are guaranteed a nice house, car, mid-upper class suburb etc. just no kids

 

[bluebird]

People get married to have a family not a sugar daddy. What that persons looking for is a sugar baby

 

[Mercury]

Whats the point of marriage if you dont want kids?

 

[Strawberryshuffle]

So if he doesnt want it @home he is probably getting it somewhere else. And what would a girl do alone in a big house in the suburbs.. all alone all the time. -_-'

 

[Strawberryshuffle]

no but he is earning 300k a year but doesnt want to have sex. you are guaranteed a nice house, car, mid-upper class suburb etc. just no kids

My boss earns more than that, and he doesn't want to work at home because he wouldn't be able to stay of his gf. So either this guy is secretly gay or he is banging someone else.

 

[TooMacaan]

Nah, you can't just switch up like that, that's effed up. The topic of future plans regarding children is something that should be discussed PRIOR to marriage...who tf neglects it or changes their mind afterwards??! And what is the logical reason for his refusal...is he sterile???

If I was in that general scenario (and we had previously agreed to have kids), I would be extremely pissed that my time and intimacy were wasted. I still wouldn't stay in the relationship though bc I wouldn't be happy in the long term.

 

[Garaad Darawiish]

Nah, you can't just switch up like that, that's effed up. The topic of future plans regarding children is something that should be discussed PRIOR to marriage...who tf neglects it or changes their mind afterwards??! And what is the logical reason for his refusal...is he sterile???

If I was in that general scenario (and we had previously agreed to have kids), I would be extremely pissed that my time and intimacy were wasted. I still wouldn't stay in the relationship though bc I wouldn't be happy in the long term.

yes but he is earning a whooping 300k a year. He doesnt want to have any kids but still wants to be in a marriage. I personally dont want kids or sex but im making a good wage.

 

[Garaad Darawiish]

People get married to have a family not a sugar daddy. What that persons looking for is a sugar baby

not everyone walaal. Some ppl(like me) get married because of the pressure our parents put on us not necessarily out of our own volition

 

[paramedic]

Are you Muslim? It's haram to intentionally keep yourself childless (and forever so no permanent IUDs or vasectomies)

 

[Garaad Darawiish]

Are you Muslim? It's haram to intentionally keep yourself childless.

yes im muslim but i dont intend on having kids and its not a MUST either.

 

[paramedic]

yes im muslim but i dont intend on having kids and its not a MUST either.

Oh sorry you're right walaal. https://islamqa.info/en/166680

This is something you need your potential spouses to be 100% clear on. That they can't change your mind so don't hold out on hope bc some women believe they can change anyone plus the salary might make them even more desperate to cling on to

 

[Gambar]

Whats the point of marriage if you dont want kids?

People don't get married for kids, but for commitment. In order to have kids you should be married though.

 

[paramedic]

There are some women who naturally or voluntarily don't want kids but will never mention it for fear of being ostracized. May Allah give you the best partner for you ameen

 

[TooMacaan]

yes but he is earning a whooping 300k a year. He doesnt want to have any kids but still wants to be in a marriage. I personally dont want kids or sex but im making a good wage.

Are you trolling rn???
You want to put half of your income at risk...and you're not even getting s-x or children in return

Word of advice; don't even get married sxb!
I understand how tough parental pressure can be but it's just not worth it. At the end of the day, it's your life and YOU're gonna be the one impacted by the consequences of your decisions/actions, not them.

 

[paramedic]

Are you trolling rn???
You want to put half of your income at risk...and you're not even getting s-x or children in return

Word of advice; don't even get married sxb!
I understand how tough parental pressure can be but it's just not worth it. At the end of the day, it's your life and YOU're gonna be the one impacted by the consequences of your decisions/actions, not them.

I don't think it's 50% without kids. If they're that starved they wouldn't last more than a year before realizing he was serious so it'd be a small lump sum if anything.

 

[supz]

marriage is not for everyone nor does everyone want kids. good for you OP, I have the same opinion on this. Kids are burdensome and hinder personal growth.