Why is it a bad Idea to bring spouse back to America ?

[Hmohamed54]

I understand if that girl is completely out of your league or tax bracket but to say every girl is a gold digger back home is crazy to me ? I’m most likely bringing my wife Back here to lige with me and raise our family then move back for retirement inshaAllah.

 

[Barni]

Most guys fear that their women from back home see how women in the west act, and might get some influence from them.

 

[Prince of HS]

the amount of uncles I know that brought a young women here and they all divorced them the second they settled in for a Youngblood. Also quite a few diaspora faraxs got their girl clarted in Somalia and Kenya by their secret local boyfriend whilst their husband was slaving away in the west to send money back to her. Tough times

 

[Hmohamed54]

the amount of uncles I know that brought a young women here and they all divorced them the second they settled in for a Youngblood. Also quite a few diaspora faraxs got their girl clarted in Somalia and Kenya by their secret local boyfriend whilst their husband was slaving away in the west to send money back to her. Tough times

there’s always two sides to the story brother. Plus good for those adeers for marrying out their league. Im talking about us normal religious folks.

 

[Abba Sadacha]

I understand if that girl is completely out of your league or tax bracket but to say every girl is a gold digger back home is crazy to me ? I’m most likely bringing my wife Back here to lige with me and raise our family then move back for retirement inshaAllah.

It's the fear of the western lifestyle corrupting them and/or other things, like the woman leaving them, but like anything else in life, marriage entails risks- divorce, but it also can result in a great loving marriage/companionship that leads to raising great Muslim kids, so ya gotta try... make du'a, and hope for the best, and realize that whatever that was meant to afflict you/or bless you from Allah was written looooong before any of us were created.

 

[AbrahamFreedom]

I understand if that girl is completely out of your league or tax bracket but to say every girl is a gold digger back home is crazy to me ? I’m most likely bringing my wife Back here to lige with me and raise our family then move back for retirement inshaAllah.

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[Hmohamed54]

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My mom wants me to marry my uncle daughter. I want to do my best and give this a go. InshAllah she’s everything I wanted.

 

[Deekhow]

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Mostly what I witnessed is when the women go back and marry it's successful(7.5/10) I would say. As you said I haven't seen relatives(1st-4th cousins) divorce but I have seen a little bit more than a third of wives brought over getting divorce- the main culprit is always their family(I think Financial, Allahu Aclam).
But as you said familial bonds decrease chances of divorce.

 

[AbrahamFreedom]

Mostly what I witnessed is when the women go back and marry it's successful(7.5/10) I would say. As you said I haven't seen relatives(1st-4th cousins) divorce but I have seen a little bit more than a third of wives brought over getting divorce- the main culprit is always their family(I think Financial, Allahu Aclam).
But as you said familial bonds decrease chances of divorce.

There are plenty of Somalis there that are middle class and don't need your money. Those people get random women from poor families. What's the point of that? Only zakat.

 

[JackieBurkhart]

My mom wants me to marry my uncle's daughter. I want to do my best, and give this a go. Inshallah, she’s everything I wanted.

Maxaa ka qaldan?

 

[Yaraye]

I have no intentions on being a stepping stone I plan on marrying a good deen man with a decent job in the west. We will live half of the year in the west and the other in somalia. When we have kids, the school year in the west and the summers in somalia. INSHALLAH~~~

 

[Hmohamed54]

Maxaa ka qaldan?

Nothing, she even memorized quran. I wasn’t in a good place mentally. Friend passed away.

 

[JackieBurkhart]

Nothing, she even memorized quran. I wasn’t in a good place mentally. Friend passed away.

I'm saying why are you considering marrying your cousin.

 

[Hmohamed54]

I'm saying why are you considering marrying your cousin.

Nothing wrong with it on my end. I can always pick another but Us Somali people don’t have long history of cousin marriages unlike others.

 

[Hmohamed54]

Nothing, she even memorized quran. I wasn’t in a good place mentally. Friend passed away.

You wouldn’t marry a cousin? Why not ?

 

[Heavy Mountains]

Your wife will be stolen by a smooth-talking Faarax after she receives permanent residency. If you choose not to bring her to your host country and only visit a few times a year, she might find a sneaky side lover and turn you into a sugar daddy.

 

[Kane]

I addressed you like a real man, I forgot you couldn’t answer a simple question, I had asked you before.

you’re a solid simp brother, keep up the good work, cause we all have to play our positions.

 

[Hmohamed54]

I addressed you like a real man, I forgot you couldn’t answer a simple question, I had asked you before.

you’re a solid simp brother, keep up the good work, cause we all have to play our positions.

Im confused. Im not going back home for marriage because I can’t pull but just for me options. If you can’t get a girl here your not getting a wife there, end of story. I don’t have any issues with money or anything if thats what you mean.

 

[ZBR]

My mom wants me to marry my uncle daughter. I want to do my best and give this a go. InshAllah she’s everything I wanted.

May Allah bless it for you brother and make it fruitful

your mother advice is worth something and perhaps allah might give you increase because you respected insight wishes

ignore the naysayers, who are they

 

[ZBR]

Also know Allah has made you the manager of your wife and children, deal with them in kind words and be forgiving ; let them know your expectations ; but don’t let laxness seep in

You can protect your family by setting rules and regulations for your family, be a good example, , listen to her advice, make the decision on your own and have a good respectful relationship with her parents