Why do white people move from the family when they're 18?

[elite1337]

Most get kicked out and others move out for college. It’s weird their parents are doing count down until they can move out lol

true, it can end up in them being homeless too and shit

 

[Amirah]

Because it's like a modern solution to experience firsthand some sort of "rite of passage" in the Western Culture.
Since their childhood, they are taught to clean after them, to always cook for them and when they are in College, they work part-time (or full-time), to not rely on their parents.
Personal responsability is important for Westerners.

I think it's inspiring to follow up this path of self-responsibility, like myself, a fob, in our culture, it's usually the women who do all the work (cooking, cleaning, etc) while we would expect to land on a good job, whether or not we are competent, because of our family connections or tribal affinities.


To nuance my words, it's not always healthy (nor possible) to move out as soon as possible, since renting is getting expensive, and finding a good job as a student is rare, and as we graduate older, the job market is saturated. It's more 'logical" to stay in your parents' home until there's a probability to land in a better situation.
Nonetheless, the subtract of self-responsibility is always good for the individual.

If it were up to me I’d make it a must for every Somali kid to move out of their family home after college and before marriage. It teaches you incredible life skills and self reliance that makes one resilient. Sometimes I think that’s part of the reason Somali marriages don’t work out often. You often have 2 ppl who never experienced living in their own, not even with roommates expected to live together and figure sh!t out together.

 

[Caaro]

If it were up to me I’d make it a must for every Somali kid to move out of their family home after college and before marriage. It teaches you incredible life skills and self reliance that makes one resilient. Sometimes I think that’s part of the reason Somali marriages don’t work out often. You often have 2 ppl who never experienced living in their own, not even with roommates expected to live together and figure sh!t out together.

you're acting like Somalis are the only people to not move out until they're married or something. Also, if you can't adapt to living with someone you're married to, you won't be able to adapt to living alone.

Finally, no one's saying to not move out until you're married, some people get married by the age of 30 and you can't seriously expect them to live with their parents for all that time. Even if they do they're probably cooking their own food and doing their own chores. Making someone live alone and take care of themselves financially by the age of 19 is just setting them back in life.

 

[Amirah]

you're acting like Somalis are the only people to not move out until they're married or something. Also, if you can't adapt to living with someone you're married to, you won't be able to adapt to living alone.

Finally, no one's saying to not move out until you're married, some people get married by the age of 30 and you can't seriously expect them to live with their parents for all that time. Even if they do they're probably cooking their own food and doing their own chores. Making someone live alone and take care of themselves financially by the age of 19 is just setting them back in life.

Disagree, because the cadaans that are moving out or kicked out at 18 are the same ones graduating from college in mass numbers and buying homes in their 20s/30s. The average Somali kid is coddled in comparison, most even think college is an option not a requirement. Also although most non cadaans also live at home before marriage, significant number of them do move out to attend college. And most of them attending college is a requirement not an option.

 

[Caaro]

Disagree, because the cadaans that are moving out or kicked out at 18 are the same ones graduating from college in mass numbers and buying homes in their 20s/30s. The average Somali kid is coddled in comparison, most even think college is an option not a requirement. Also although most non cadaans also live at home before marriage, significant number of them do move out to attend college. And most of them attending college is a requirement not an option.

yeah, and these cadaan kids have parents who already own homes that they inherit or at the very least are given enough funds to go through life much easier meanwhile these so called “coddled kids” were first generation immigrants who had parents with no education or any wealth to their name. To compare these two demographics is just crazy.

These same cadaan kids who grew up to be 20/30 are also the same ones complaining about rent and food. And since when was attending college only an option for Somalis? Moving out for college makes no sense to me unless you’re taking an easy program, I can’t imagine going through STEM, medicine, or law while also having to worry about paying rent and working a full time job. Even IF you could manage that you’re really dumping all your money into rent when you could be saving it up.

I’m going to college next year and if I didn’t have my older brother who already went through it I would have been struggling much harder in making decisions and getting things done. Whereas white people already have parents who went through college to help them out. Why don’t you compare Somalis to immigrant indians? Do you see indians living in dorms while they’re becoming an engineer or are they also living with their parents and even grandparents?

 

[Mozart]

If you have a good relationship with your family, moving out is silly. You can be independent and live at home

 

[mrlog]

Well I moved out when I was 16

huuno dhaqan celis does not equate “moving out”.

 

[mrlog]

If you have a good relationship with your family, moving out is silly. You can be independent and live at home

It’s impossible to sneak in ‘Becky’ if I don’t move out of Hooyos basement

 

[Mozart]

It’s impossible to sneak in ‘Becky’ if I don’t move out of Hooyos basement

I lived out for my first year at uni and that was the only benefit. Second and third year I just went round to their student accom

 

[Material]

I lived out for my first year at uni and that was the only benefit. Second and third year I just went round to their student accom

Really? Doesn't it get boring with Hooyo shouting at you every morning to get up and having your siblings still run laps around you?

 

[Mozart]

Really? Doesn't it get boring with Hooyo shouting at you every morning to get up and having your siblings still run laps around you?

Nah everyone’s relaxed and there’s not too much noise. I always had freedom as long as I was sensible so I don’t mind living at home

 

[Xaruun]

Disagree, because the cadaans that are moving out or kicked out at 18 are the same ones graduating from college in mass numbers and buying homes in their 20s/30s. The average Somali kid is coddled in comparison, most even think college is an option not a requirement. Also although most non cadaans also live at home before marriage, significant number of them do move out to attend college. And most of them attending college is a requirement not an option.

Those cadaans you’re talking about are usually broke and in debt. You shouldn’t be emulating them, especially as a Muslim. All successful ethnic groups let their children live with them past college. It’s the best way to move up the ladder.

 

[Material]

Those cadaans you’re talking about are usually broke and in debt. You shouldn’t be emulating them especially as a Muslim. All successful ethnic groups let their children live with them past college. It’s the best way to move up the ladder.

How will you be independent though? Being coddled isn't great isn't it?

 

[Xaruun]

How will you be independent though? Being coddled isn't great isn't it?

Just do your own chores instead of leaving it all to hooyo

 

[Material]

Just do your own chores instead of leaving it all to hooyo

I can cook and do some stuff. But like wouldn't it be fun to live by yourself for a year or two?

 

[Xaruun]

I can cook and do some stuff. But like wouldn't it be fun to live by yourself for a year or two?

Paying rent isn’t worth it

 

[exposedmeat]

Wallahi, whenever I see something an cadaan writes it seems they have no love for their family

nigga in Islam you're man when you hit 15 and 16 you must work and move out the family or you'll be pathetic soy boy

 

[adventurequestworlds1.0.2]

If it were up to me I’d make it a must for every Somali kid to move out of their family home after college and before marriage. It teaches you incredible life skills and self reliance that makes one resilient. Sometimes I think that’s part of the reason Somali marriages don’t work out often. You often have 2 ppl who never experienced living in their own, not even with roommates expected to live together and figure sh!t out together.

Ppl can do tht living with their parents they dont have to move out

 

[Angelina]

The West has become incredibly individualistic so now people are no longer family and community oriented.

 

[maryan223]

huuno dhaqan celis does not equate “moving out”.

Not that in Norway high school are like three miles away so u need to move out.