Why Do We Blame the ‘Other Woman ?

[Desert Flower]

Easier said than done. What if he is financially responsible for the family? Walking away isn’t easy when you share children especially a lot.

1. You don't have to be married to raise the children together. And why would anyone want to stay married to a man who by cheating, has shown that he does not respect or care about his wife?

2. Islamically, he is required to provide for his children and make sure that they are taken care of. As for the woman being completely financially dependent on her husband, that is on her - I wouldn't reccomend any woman to be in that situation cuz u never know what can happen. If such woman is adamant on leaving her husband, she would find a way out.

 

[Gambar]

No where did I say she is to blame, far from it. I am just giving you the psychological breakdown on why the women that has been cheated on always blames the other women by default, because it's a protection mechanism for herself which I explained.

@Gambar

Time to stop using those contraceptives before the allure of offspring becomes so powerful for your farax he suddenly decides to bolt away from your dictatorial world view, just a piece of brotherly advise.

Amaanka igu dadaal yaroow.

 

[Gambar]

1. You don't have to be married to raise the children together. And why would anyone want to stay married to a man who by cheating, has shown that he does not respect or care about his wife?

2. Islamically, he is required to provide for his children and make sure that they are taken care of. As for the woman being completely financially dependent on her husband, that is on her - I wouldn't reccomend any woman to be in that situation cuz u never know what can happen. If such woman is adamant on leaving her husband, she would find a way out.

Waan gartay, I’m just explaining the reasoning as to why some women don’t divorce. Remember Somalis care a lot about ceeb so some may not get divorced due to the ceeb of it and not wanting to become a garoob.

 

[mrcool]

If the woman knew they're both wrong if only the man knows he's wrong

 

[NotMyL]

No where did I say she is to blame, far from it. I am just giving you the psychological breakdown on why the women that has been cheated on always blames the other women by default, because it's a protection mechanism for herself which I explained.

@Gambar

Time to stop using those contraceptives before the allure of offspring becomes so powerful for your farax he suddenly decides to bolt away from your dictatorial world view, just a piece of brotherly advise.

lol I didn't mean you, my comment was for the society putting the blame on the women whether it's the wife or the other woman.

@Gambar has her way of looking at this and she is sticking to it lol but I kinda get where she is coming from

 

[Desert Flower]

No where did I say she is to blame, far from it. I am just giving you the psychological breakdown on why the women that has been cheated on always blames the other women by default, because it's a protection mechanism for herself which I explained.

@Gambar

Time to stop using those contraceptives before the allure of offspring becomes so powerful for your farax he suddenly decides to bolt away from your dictatorial world view, just a piece of brotherly advise.

Lol, are you a psych major?

 

[Mercury]

Some people got a good heart and don't believe their husband is at fault every lie seems reasonable to her

"Baby, I swear This woman she tripped fell and landed on my dick"


*Wife starts attacking the other woman*

 

[Desert Flower]

Some people got a good heart and don't believe their husband is at fault every lie seems reasonable to her

"Baby, I swear This woman she tripped fell and landed on my dick"


*Wife starts attacking the other woman*

If that is the case, I would question her judgement and probably label her as gullible.

You can still have a good heart and at the same time, be critical of what people tell you.

 

[Gibiin-Udug]

I always cringe when women go after the "other" woman. They never blame the man, they never confront the cheater.
Even if she knew about your relationship and proceeded to go after him, it's her responsibility to protect your relationship.

 

[Vision]

What about in the case of a second wife? Why does the first blame/hate the second and her kids? And dont give me that she shouldnt have gone after a married man reasoning, he is allowed to marry a second third or fourth