Who should take the first step?

[hobaal]

My first serious thread on here.

I’ve known this guy for 1 year and a half. We met each other on an event somewhere in the Midlands (I live in another country), and ever since then we’ve been good friends. I’ve always liked him for his ambitions, goals and personality and I think that we’d be a good match. He’s handsome as well.

Without being delusional, but lately he’s been asking me about my views on marriage. I’m two years younger than him and honestly I like him incredibly a lot. Either he’s interested in me or he likes someone else and therefore asked me for my views on marriage?? I hope the latter is NOT true

Should I confess? Or should the guy always do that first? I’ve never liked anyone so I’m clueless when it comes to these sort of things.

 

[Inquisitive_]

This depends on your age.

If your between 16-23 never confess or make the first move, if your between 24-29 make the first move if you get the right signals.

If your 30+ you always make the first move. Our Geeljire would have the following maah maah regarding this topic.

Bilantaye boobe (16-21), birheshaye bireeya (22-26), baqtidaye jiida (above 28)

 

[hobaal]

This depends on your age.

If your between 16-23 never confess or make the first move, if your between 24-29 make the first move if you get the right signals.

If your 30+ you always make the first move. Our Geeljire would have the following maah maah regarding this topic.

Bilantaye boobe (16-21), birheshaye bireeya (22-26), baqtidaye jiida (above 28)

How do let him know how I feel if I can’t take the first step? I’m 20 and he’s 22.

 

[FendiFanatic]

You’re too young for marriage kiddo

 

[hobaal]

You’re too young for marriage kiddo

No

 

[Omar del Sur]

No

You're not too young at all.

https://islamqa.info/en/181556

Marrying young is good. People getting married super late is a reason why zina and broke homes are widespread in the West.

There is nothing wrong with having him know that you like him. There is nothing at all wrong with that. Just please go about things in a halal way.

 

[hobaal]

You're not too young at all.

https://islamqa.info/en/181556

Marrying young is good. People getting married super late is a reason why zina and broke homes are widespread in the West.

There is nothing wrong with having him know that you like him. There is nothing at all wrong with that. Just please go about things in a halal way.

Thank you and I will

 

[Geeljire Sandheer]

My first serious thread on here.

I’ve known this guy for 1 year and a half. We met each other on an event somewhere in the Midlands (I live in another country), and ever since then we’ve been good friends. I’ve always liked him for his ambitions, goals and personality and I think that we’d be a good match. He’s handsome as well.

Without being delusional, but lately he’s been asking me about my views on marriage. I’m two years younger than him and honestly I like him incredibly a lot. Either he’s interested in me or he likes someone else and therefore asked me for my views on marriage?? I hope the latter is NOT true

Should I confess? Or should the guy always do that first? I’ve never liked anyone so I’m clueless when it comes to these sort of things.

Take the first step or forever hold your silence

 

[hobaal]

Take the first step or forever hold your silence

Ngl I’m a pussy but I will do it lmao

 

[Geeljire Sandheer]

Ngl I’m a pussy but I will do it lmao

Whats the worst that could happen

 

[Guled111]

How do let him know how I feel if I can’t take the first step? I’m 20 and he’s 22.

Is he Somali and does he work and lastly can he provide

 

[hobaal]

Whats the worst that could happen

Rejection

 

[Geeljire Sandheer]

Rejection

That only matters if your insecure

 

[hobaal]

Is he Somali and does he work and lastly can he provide

He’s a Congolese pygmy. Yes and yes.

That only matters if your insecure

Yeah probably. I need to grow a pair I guess

 

[Geeljire Sandheer]

He’s a Congolese pygmy. Yes and yes.


Yeah probably. I need to grow a pair I guess

Go for it stop being such a fucking pussy

 

[hobaal]

Go for it stop being such a fucking pussy

I know and shut the f*ck up. Not everyone is as confident like you saaxib

 

[Gibiin-Udug]

Men should always take the first step and then reject him until he takes the third and fourth step.


It’s not ladylike to approach a man.

 

[Geeljire Sandheer]

Men should always take the first step and then reject him until he takes the third and fourth step.


It’s not ladylike to approach a man.

Thats why your 40yrs old and single lmao

 

[hobaal]

Men should always take the first step and then reject him until he takes the third and fourth step.


It’s not ladylike to approach a man.

Why reject him?

Yeah it may not be ladylike but I don’t see the problem with taking the first step especially if you like the person. Khadidjah r.a. was the one who showed interest in the prophet s.a.w. I think I’ll do it anyways, I’ll update this thread if I do

Thats why your 40yrs old and single lmao

That’s incredibly rude of you

 

[Geeljire Sandheer]

Why reject him?

Yeah it may not be ladylike but I don’t see the problem with taking the first step especially if you like the person. Khadidjah r.a. was the one who showed interest in the prophet s.a.w. I think I’ll do it anyways, I’ll update this thread if I do


That’s incredibly rude of you

Its the harsh truth shes throwing shade at you for doing whats right.