When getting to know someone for marriage, how long should courting last?

[Marcus]

Inspired by a tiktok I just saw

 

[Mehdi Hassan]

Personally I think a year is far too long, and so is 6 months - think to yourself how long it takes to really get to know a friend, even though I know that's quite different. That should be the answer.

 

[Mercury]

5-6 should be enough to make decision to get married than do a nikkah

 

[Juke]

6 months at max

 

[Afrique]

5 years.

 

[Basic]

1 year of face to face interaction at minimum.

 

[Desert Flower]

Early, within a few months (3) you can know. Depends on what you’re talking about.

 

[Gambar]

The less time you wait the longer it will last.

 

[Desert Flower]

1 year of face to face interaction at minimum.

That’s too much time. There’s stages imo. Do I like him? If so then we can get to talking. If I don’t like what I’m hearing, I cease communication. No point in taking things further.

 

[Yukon_Niner]

Don't rush into a marriage not knowing what someone's like, that's a recipe for disaster. I'd put a year at the minimum.

 

[المهندس]

Half a year is enough imo.

 

[firefox]

1 month I don't want to waste time

 

[Younes Osman]

it depends if she is my cup of tea or not.

 

[Mercury]

the thing is you can talk to a person for a year 2 years even some who talk for 4 years maa quraan bu baraya?

But you wont know the real them until you live with them

 

[Basic]

That’s too much time. There’s stages imo. Do I like him? If so then we can get to talking. If I don’t like what I’m hearing, I cease communication. No point in taking things further.

There was a study that said in a relationship people can hide their true selfs and portray a facade of who they think you want to see for 3 months. I have seen this with my own eyes.

I agree that a year is long but that’s my own personal opinion since I’m a commitmentphobe if I last a year dating someone that’s a good sign.

So I guess 6 months would be ideal compromise in a general sense for most people

 

[Wiilyam Ina Sheekh Zubeer]

1 year, give or take. Everything beyond that you might as well call it something else other than courting
Edit (let me elaborate):
Given that the two of them have reached the courting stage (they know each other to a degree by now), I guess a year is more than enough time to see if you are meant for each other/ a marriage could work out. A year will be a broad enough time frame to experience them and their character through the seasons so to speak, i.e. in times of increased stress at work/school etc.
You will see how they fare through the general ebbs and flows of a year, how they achieve stability through changing times or more generally how they switch up things from the monoton and the mundane.
1 year should give you a glimpse into their life on a microscopic scale, and it gives an idea whether or not you are ready to take a leap of faith and tie the knot or not.

 

[Desert Flower]

the thing is you can talk to a person for a year 2 years even some who talk for 4 years maa quraan bu baraya?

But you wont know the real them until you live with them

Is he a degree when I’m studying him for 4+ years? Yaab.

 

[Desert Flower]

There was a study that said in a relationship people can hide their true selfs and portray a facade of who they think you want to see for 3 months. I have seen this with my own eyes.

I agree that a year is long but that’s my own personal opinion since I’m a commitmentphobe if I last a year dating someone that’s a good sign.

So I guess 6 months would be ideal compromise in a general sense for most people

Yes but I go by intuition; if I don’t like him initially I don’t want him. By then I’ve put the guy in a box and I don’t change my mind.

 

[Basic]

Yes but I go by intuition; if I don’t like him initially I don’t want him. By then I’ve put the guy in a box and I don’t change my mind.

I like that. My intuition always comes through but not initially since the idealist part of me paints an idea of them until they start breaking that image down with their real self. I guess I’m a masochist

 

[psyche]

Marriage is just a legal/formal commitment of relationship that you make public.

Not a fan of the concept.

Personally I think courting should last for at least 2 years because it seems like the perfect number for two individuals to finally adjust to living together.

But then again not every couple is made equal and therefore there is no correct answer to this question.