What's the point of marriage if your wife works full time as well

[Desert Flower]

sister, I can understand your point of view but I disagree.

When kids which are younger than 6 years stay in daycares with other people than you half of the day... you ain't rasing them to became Muslim children at least Islamically speaking.

you and I know that raising a child is not only feeding, dressing, putting them in an Islamic school and western school but it is a complex, full-time job that we have to be committed to it mother and father together until at least they are 10 years.

Raising them Islamically is their right upon you and every parent will be asked...
we have to be extra careful in this western society.

I want to say more but with my limited English is hard to explain further, hope you get my point.

I am not against women looking for fulfilment in a halal way, but we have to think carefully before having kids and taking on responsibilities if we are not committed to it.

I respect your opinion sis. I believe that wa isku dheh waadi karta; you can raise your children and work. Its all about balance. I don't think that staying home guarantees good children, its about the quality time that you spend with them. There are so many who are SAHM and their kids are awful, while working mothers have well rounded children. I think it comes down to effort.

But, I will say that the MAN should financially provide. That is the least he can do. I wouldn't feel secure in my marriage if I was paying the bills alongside him. That doesn't feel right.

 

[Basra]

I respect your opinion sis. I believe that wa isku dheh waadi karta; you can raise your children and work. Its all about balance. I don't think that staying home guarantees good children, its about the quality time that you spend with them. There are so many who are SAHM and their kids are awful, while working mothers have well rounded children. I think it comes down to effort.

But, I will say that the MAN should financially provide. That is the least he can do. I wouldn't feel secure in my marriage if I was paying the bills alongside him. That doesn't feel right.

Thank you Angelina Somali

 

[Sloane Ranger]

I respect your opinion sis. I believe that wa isku dheh waadi karta; you can raise your children and work. Its all about balance. I don't think that staying home guarantees good children, its about the quality time that you spend with them. There are so many who are SAHM and their kids are awful, while working mothers have well rounded children. I think it comes down to effort.

But, I will say that the MAN should financially provide. That is the least he can do. I wouldn't feel secure in my marriage if I was paying the bills alongside him. That doesn't feel right.

What's SAHM?

 

[Desert Flower]

Thank you Angelina Somali

Is that a compliment Basra?

 

[Desert Flower]

What's SAHM?

Stay At Home Mother

 

[Idyllic]

Why do you faraxs on this site moan about independent women day in and day out? Give it a break and get a life.

 

[Basra]

Why do you faraxs on this site moan about independent women day in and day out? Give it a break and get a life.

 

[Joliemademoiselle]

I respect your opinion sis. I believe that wa isku dheh waadi karta; you can raise your children and work. Its all about balance. I don't think that staying home guarantees good children, its about the quality time that you spend with them. There are so many who are SAHM and their kids are awful, while working mothers have well rounded children. I think it comes down to effort.

But, I will say that the MAN should financially provide. That is the least he can do. I wouldn't feel secure in my marriage if I was paying the bills alongside him. That doesn't feel right.

thank you sister.

 

[Villainess]

Marriage mostly never ends up in divorce if the wife is stay home mom and the husband is the breadwinner.

I rather not marry at all if I can't provide for my wife and kids and take care of the bills, all I want her is to get pregnant,have the baby and get pregnant again untill she can't have kids no more, a machine that pops kids for me and prolongs my legacy will be the purpose of her life

The feminists are gonna attack u for this one walal

 

[KobeBryant]

It seems home cooked food is your priority. Don't leave your hooyo home

@Basra he reminds me of younger me, he won’t survive the real world. It’s brutal once u leave the nest and u will miss having real food in the fridge.

 

[Basra]

@Basra he reminds me of younger me, he won’t survive the real world. It’s brutal once u leave the nest and u will miss having real food in the fridge.

I am glad u made it in the jungle huuno! The experience is what matters!

 

[Ras]

If I wanted a chef I'd hire one. Dull housewives aren't sexy. No offence to housewives lurking here.

 

[Basic]

I would reduce down to part time working. I love my job and worked too damn hard to settle for being unemployed.

I respect people who aspire to be housewives.. sounds mentally and physically exhausting to me

 

[kickz]

I would reduce down to part time working. I love my job and worked too damn hard to settle for being unemployed.

I respect people who aspire to be housewives.. sounds mentally and physically exhausting to me

That’s a reasonable compromise

 

[Basic]

That’s a reasonable compromise

Indeed. Best of both worlds. Finding career fulfilment as well as quality time with the fam.

 

[Nilotufian]

A better question would be: "What's the point of marriage if your wife can't cook bariis....?"

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*what’s the point of marriage, if your husband can’t provide and build shit from scratch?

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[Wervelwind]

@Basra he reminds me of younger me, he won’t survive the real world. It’s brutal once u leave the nest and u will miss having real food in the fridge.

I can cook a little something something so if it's just me, I should be fine

LAKIN if I'm married, I want her to throw it down in the kitchen. Wallahi to me that's an expression of love. I agree that it's not right for the woman to only cook if we boh work but sharing cooking doesn't make me think of her as motherly

 

[Basra]

I can cook a little something something so if it's just me, I should be fine

LAKIN if I'm married, I want her to throw it down in the kitchen. Wallahi to me that's an expression of love. I agree that it's not right for the woman to only cook if we boh work but sharing cooking doesn't make me think of her as motherly

Work hard to live on your pay check then. U either 100% MAN or the 50/50 man. or Hoyo's son


Either way u can get what u want, provided u make it happen.

 

[Mercury]

You said cooking is an expression of love than why not make meals together that you mealprep for the entire week

 

[SOULSEARCHING]

wallahi if women aren't doing a meaningful work like nurse or any other work like that. they should stay at home and raise their children instead of gaalo doing it.
if they are bored but I don't think you can be if you take care of your children, the house, learn the deen full time wallahi.

But if they are bored at least work part-time when your kids are grown enough.

Nursing isn't a meaningful job, your job is literally being a doctor's slave, dealing with psychos, cleaning up shit/ vomit and taking samples and monitoring patients.