That’s a tough one.
HIV- you can live a normal life not bed bound unlike being morbidly obese
Downsides - Sigma attached to having HIV, If you disclose HIV status your dating pool might get smaller (unless someone has a fetish for it ahhh), complications with having the disease, feeling alone etc
Morbidly obese- Yeah I don’t know the positives here.
Downsides- Physical limitation, work might be limited unless you work from home, emotional distress, cost money dealing with it, relationships might be hard to obtain (except feeders).
Girl these options kill me. It’s like would you like your arm chopped with a saw or butter knife (just slower). I choose none.