What do you guys think?

[Halimo-2018]

So i am very picky with who i allow into my life including family...not to say that i completely block people i mean dont share a lot my personal stuff with them i try to keep minimum. So i recently broke down confided to one my relatives i told her not to share it with anyone she promised to not share with anyone. It was comforting and i belived her. Then couple days later i confided in her again but this time it was about something else. About future plans that i wanted to do. After that few month later i was not able to accomplish those plans however she went did exactly that . I was happy for her but at the same time i was dumbfounded. I couldnt not figure out if she was secretly competing with me or if she actually wanted it and if she did why didnt she share it worh me not that she had to but i was just confused. Now
I am worried that she will share my secret to others. Am i being paranoid?
I honestly do not hate on anyone at the same time i dont like being close with someone who's secretly competing with me . i dont want this to come off like that i guess i have trust issues. Next time I'll keep my secrets to myself lol.
Has anything like this ever happened to you?

 

[Dr.Xayawaan]

So i am very picky with who i allow into my life including family...not to say that i completely block people i mean dont share a lot my personal stuff with them i try to keep minimum. So i recently broke down confided to one my relatives i told her not to share it with anyone she promised to not share with anyone. It was comforting and i belived her. Then couple days later i confided in her some more about plans that i wanted to do ect. After that few month later i was not able to accomplish those plans however she went did exactly plans i confided in her. I was happy for her but at the same time i was dumbfounded. I couldnt not figure out if she was secretly competing with me or if she actually wanted it and if she did why didnt she share it worh me not that she had to but i was just confused. Now
I am worried that she will share my secret to others. Am i being paranoid?
I honestly do not hate on anyone at the same time i dont like being close with someone who's secretly competing with me . i dont want this to come off like that i guess i have trust issues. Next time I'll keep my secrets to myself lol.
Has anything like this ever happened to you?

One thing in life, don't tell anyone your goals and secret. Evil eye is real and can destroy you if your not protected.

Read Surah falaq and only confide in your hooyo no one else, as hooyada always wants best for her child no matter what.

 

[Raage]

i think you're being paranoid. Stop having secrets problem solved

 

[Halimo-2018]

One thing in life, don't tell anyone your goals and secret. Evil eye is real and can destroy you if your not protected.

Read Surah falaq and only confide in your hooyo no one else, as hooyada always wants best for her child no matter what.

Unfortunately my Hooyo talks a lot. I love her but she cant keep secrets.lol

 

[Halimo-2018]

i think you're being paranoid. Stop having secrets problem solved

How is thay working out for you? Do share your secrets? Share with us

 

[Jaydaan]

If its something you want to achieve and they achieve it shouldnt you be happy for your friend? Unless its someone you like and they go fo itI dont see the issue

 

[Raage]

How is thay working out for you? Do share your secrets? Share with us

Oh no. If I told my family I'm a not a Muslim I'd be homeless. I'm waiting till I graduate and get a good-paying job. Then I'll stop keeping it a secret. Otherwise, I'm an open book. I reckon your secrets aren't as serious as mine.

Going back to your friend... always read positive intentions into things like this. Instead of seeing it as her competing with you, maybe she sees you as a role model and you inspired her to improve herself.

 

[AussieHustler]

Unfortunately my Hooyo talks a lot. I love her but she cant keep secrets.lol

@Halimo-2018

If you can't keep your own secrets why would others keep it for you? Are they your safe?

 

[Halimo-2018]

@Halimo-2018

If you can't keep your own secrets why would others keep it for you? Are they your safe?

I needed it. I dont usually share my busoness this time i was down sought help from someone i thought was suitable all though am having doubts now i hope am wrong about her. Next time I'll be praying about it instead lol

 

[Halimo-2018]

Oh no. If I told my family I'm a not a Muslim I'd be homeless. I'm waiting till I graduate and get a good-paying job. Then I'll stop keeping it a secret. Otherwise, I'm an open book. I reckon your secrets aren't as serious as mine.

Going back to your friend... always read positive intentions into things like this. Instead of seeing it as her competing with you, maybe she sees you as a role model and you inspired her to improve herself.

Lol you sound like a muslim to me. If not i hope you j

Oh no. If I told my family I'm a not a Muslim I'd be homeless. I'm waiting till I graduate and get a good-paying job. Then I'll stop keeping it a secret. Otherwise, I'm an open book. I reckon your secrets aren't as serious as mine.

Going back to your friend... always read positive intentions into things like this. Instead of seeing it as her competing with you, maybe she sees you as a role model and you inspired her to improve herself.

Well thanks for your advice.
I hope you chnage your mind about leaving islam. You sound young just know that life is too short. You won't always be young.

 

[Halimo-2018]

I think every hooyo talks and brags about the accomplishments and success of their child subconsciously.

As long as you read ayatul kursi and Surah falaq you will be protected from ayn.

Just don't go around telling every xaalimo in your gossip circles, incase you forget your adhkaar that envy is gonna hit you in the face.

I am not even the type to brag or worry about ayn. I honestly dislike people that are obsess about evil eye and ayn. Thats just not me. This wasn't about that at all which is why am caught off guard.

 

[AussieHustler]

I needed it. I dont usually share my busoness this time i was down sought help from someone i thought was suitable all though am having doubts now i hope am wrong about her. Next time I'll be praying about it instead lol

@Halimo-2018

It's very hard to give you a feedback about it because some secrets are core secrets which is better to be kept inside or only shared with a close, trustworthy and reliable friend. You said it was a plan and this plan could be useful to anyone without having a negative impact on you and if she implemented it and succeeded without telling you her intentions, it indicates that this friend keeps to herself. We are all different.

 

[Jaydaan]

@Halimo-2018

It's very hard to give you a feedback about it because some secrets are core secrets which is better to be kept inside or only shared with a close, trustworthy and reliable friend. You said it was a plan and this plan could be useful to anyone without having a negative impact on you and if she implemented it and succeeded without telling you her intentions, it indicates that this friend keeps to herself. We are all different.

But if its a positive plan wouldnt you be happy for your friend? Like you discovered the secret to lose weight is 1 meal a day and you tell your friend and she implements it. Then you gotta be happy no?

 

[Pseudo-A'staramaia]

That's hard abayo.

Try telling things to your siblings - they are much more confidential usually. Or your dad. Diversify your confidants within the family.

And talk to your mom about who yoy feel so wrong by having the person you love the most not being able to keep their own childs investes secrets from outsiders (of the family).

 

[Halimo-2018]

But if its a positive plan wouldnt you be happy for your friend? Like you discovered the secret to lose weight is 1 meal a day and you tell your friend and she implements it. Then you gotta be happy no?

I think i answered that in the post. The focus was not about me being happy for her but thanks.

 

[AussieHustler]

But if its a positive plan wouldnt you be happy for your friend? Like you discovered the secret to lose weight is 1 meal a day and you tell your friend and she implements it. Then you gotta be happy no?

@Jaydaan

We are on the same page, that's what I said above.

 

[Lostbox]

This is so vague

 

[jamal9]

OP is a 13 year old girl. She has a crush on a 14 year old boy. Your secret has been revealed.

 

[Khayyam]

I hope what you have shared with her was not a business plan(idea), if it was my condolences to you in advance.

 

[repo]

So i am very picky with who i allow into my life including family...not to say that i completely block people i mean dont share a lot my personal stuff with them i try to keep minimum. So i recently broke down confided to one my relatives i told her not to share it with anyone she promised to not share with anyone. It was comforting and i belived her. Then couple days later i confided in her again but this time it was about something else. About future plans that i wanted to do. After that few month later i was not able to accomplish those plans however she went did exactly that . I was happy for her but at the same time i was dumbfounded. I couldnt not figure out if she was secretly competing with me or if she actually wanted it and if she did why didnt she share it worh me not that she had to but i was just confused. Now
I am worried that she will share my secret to others. Am i being paranoid?
I honestly do not hate on anyone at the same time i dont like being close with someone who's secretly competing with me . i dont want this to come off like that i guess i have trust issues. Next time I'll keep my secrets to myself lol.
Has anything like this ever happened to you?

Obviously she's competing with you but why tell people of your plans anyway? You should only tell people your plan if it is also theirs and you have a common purpose.