What are some Signs the guy you’re dating is cheap?

No is not as long as you don’t do anything haram.🙄
I really doubt nothing haram is being done. The most non haram somali couples still hug and kiss.

Dating without the intention of marriage is a waste of your time. You can use that time to better yourself, learn a new skill, focus on your health or make more money.
 

Awad

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No is not as long as you don’t do anything haram.🙄
talking to the opposite sex without the presence of a mahram is haram unless it is required i.e work school etc. it's technically considered zina ( it isn't entirely defined as adultery)
 
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I really doubt nothing haram is being done. The most non haram somali couples still hug and kiss.

Dating without the intention of marriage is a waste of your time. You can use that time to better yourself, learn a new skill, focus on your health or make more money.
Unfortunately, Somalis unlike other communities hardly set their kids up. Now the average Somali before marrying does kinda date, albeit in a more halal manner in which everything is out in public. No, hugging and kisses isn’t possible if you make sure to always do public activities and go to destinations separately.

I don’t see a couple that ‘kiss’ as being non haram. That is very out there tbh.
 
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Being cheap is a good trait, it shows groundedness
Not if you want to attract the type of person worth attracting. Humans, especially women have a natural aversion to stingy people. Just being miserly is a disliked characteristic everywhere, even within friendships, let alone relationships.
 
Unfortunately, Somalis unlike other communities hardly set their kids up. Now the average Somali before marrying does kinda date, albeit in a more halal manner in which everything is out in public. No, hugging and kisses isn’t possible if you make sure to always do public activities and go to destinations separately.

I don’t see a couple that ‘kiss’ as being non haram. That is very out there tbh.
Here in the USA, the Somalis that I grew up with did engage in the kind of dating I described. Many people think you have to sleep together to cross the xaram border. Hugging, kissing, holding hands etc... is something that happens quiet a bit in the west among muslims of all communities. Dating should only be done if your intention is to get married, otherwise what is the point? It's a waste of your time at best. I know a lot of the people that do it are young, and they don't know or care for the things I am saying.

Our parents' generations didn't understand these things, many of them were too concerned about feeding and sheltering us. Most of them also grew up in a non promiscuous community so they assume their children are the same. I don't really blame them but I would urge new generation Somalis to be very involved and strict with their kids.
 
Here in the USA, the Somalis that I grew up with did engage in the kind of dating I described. Many people think you have to sleep together to cross the xaram border. Hugging, kissing, holding hands etc... is something happens quiet a bit in the west among muslims of all communities. Dating should only be done if your intention is to get married, otherwise what is the point?
I agree, if you’re not intending to marry then it is wrong and rather shitty as 9/10 times one party does have the intention and the other is stringing the person along. Also, thinking kissing is ‘tame’ when it is the gateway for zina is rather worrying. I think people would be surprised but I can imagine amongst Muslims, a lot of couples probably did not have the intention of committing zina, but when you start kissing and ect it could lead to things you’ll regret.
It's a waste of your time at best. I know a lot of the people that do it are young, and they don't know or care for the things I am saying.
True.
Our parents' generations didn't understand these things, many of them were too concerned about feeding and sheltering us. I don't really blame them but I would urge new generation Somalis to be very involved and strict with their kids.
Honestly, think it’s simply the Somali way tbh even our parents generations for the most part mostly found each other with the occasional arranged meeting from friends and family. I think we should be more community based and help our kids find likeminded partners without the pressures of arranged marriages but that is also halal.
 
I agree, if you’re not intending to marry then it is wrong and rather shitty as 9/10 times one party does have the intention and the other is stringing the person along. Also, thinking kissing is ‘tame’ when it is the gateway for zina is rather worrying. I think people would be surprised but I can imagine amongst Muslims, a lot of couples probably did not have the intention of committing zina, but when you start kissing and ect it could lead to things you’ll regret.

True.

Honestly, think it’s simply the Somali way tbh even our parents generations for the most part mostly found each other with the occasional arranged meeting from friends and family. I think we should be more community based and help our kids find likeminded partners without the pressures of arranged marriages but that is also halal.
I like that we have got the freedom to choose mates in our culture, it's actually a good thing. But it does need some polishing, get family and friends involved and have them help you check the dude(for women) because always stand to lose more. For young men, if their father has been living and present in their lives, they should be responsible, strong and ready to lead a family by their mid 20s.

I see some 30 year old niggas going on dates like why big dawg? wtf u looking for and if you don't wanna get married then what do you want?
 
I really doubt nothing haram is being done. The most non haram somali couples still hug and kiss.

Dating without the intention of marriage is a waste of your time. You can use that time to better yourself, learn a new skill, focus on your health or make more money.
Again I said what I said. Nothing is wrong with dating as long as nothing haram is being done. Period.
 
talking to the opposite sex without the presence of a mahram is haram unless it is required i.e work school etc. it's technically considered zina ( it isn't entirely defined as adultery)
No it is not. We can talk to the opposite sex I don’t know what kind of Islam you follow but there are guidelines as long no haram is happening there is nothing wrong with talking with the opposite sex. Audibileh wax walan tahay
 

Awad

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No it is not. We can talk to the opposite sex I don’t know what kind of Islam you follow but there are guidelines as long no haram is happening there is nothing wrong with talking with the opposite sex. Audibileh wax walan tahay
is your mahram there?
 

AbrahamFreedom

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Being cheap is a requirement, especially when you grew up low income.

Good luck buying a guri and having a few years of savings to maintain your current standard of living when you're living like you're in the top income tax bracket.
 
Alright, I’ll break it down.
You’ve only got cash, I’ll list the places you can take her.

$50: Take her to Olive Garden. You buy the cheapest thing on the menu preferably pasta and let her choose whatever she likes. Other options may include: Dukes seafood and other seafood locations.
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$20: McDonald’s, Wendy’s, etc
$10: Take her to the gas station :mjlaugh:

$100: You must like her? But still won’t cut it.
$150-$300: Take her on a real date. Seafood hits different when you spend the money. After you eat, go play some indoor golf and watch her hips swing. Locations i dine at include, Mediterranean, The Prime Rib, Korean BBQ, and of course different seafood locations across the United States.
 

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